SO i just spit on my wifes face

serious question...

have you ever hit your wife and/or kids?

Interesting. Dynamics are all topsy turney in the house. Kids usurping father's place in the marital bed and you have to communicate the unacceptable nature of this to your wife, who will in turn discuss with them. Wife, I assume, will then make the decision as to whether or not to honor your "request"? Wowsa. That is all kinds of NOT FUCKING ACCEPTABLE. And to boot, your dog is shitting in your secondary location. In dog world, this would be their code for distain. Which indicates the dog does not sees you as pack leader and, in fact, sees you as below HIM in the pack. You sir, somehow became runt of the litter in your own damn house.

I'm not inclined to agree with others here. Your wife has castrated and humiliated you. She sounds like a crazy fucking bitch, making a mockery of you in front of your children, destroying their ability to have a strong male influence in their life. You are probably one of those guys that, if you put your foot down, she'd divorce you, take all your pay and never let you see the kids. So you stay for them? Or you are just too lazy to change your circumstances? Or can't afford to? What are your failings in this marital bond? Drink too much and she lost respect for you? Unemployed for the last 10 years and she lost respect for you? Emotionally distant and she lost love for you? Unless she is certifiable, you two got to this point together.

Summary:

1) Probably not cool to spit in someone's face, but I can't feel to sorry for her as she's been spitting in your s face figuratively for over a decade now. No harm, no foul, IMO. I personally would not have spit on her, I would have taken dog to the nearest pound. I AM PACK LEADER. Dog that doesn't understand that doesn't get to stay in my pack.

2) For all you telling this guy to hang himself. Takes two to tango. There are not innocents in this one and she's been figuratively spitting on him for over a decade.

3) Sit her down, apologize for spitting on her and explain why you are at this point. TELL her that from this point forward, you will sleep in your bed and your children will sleep in their bedrooms. Don't ASK her for godssake, TELL her. This is not up for negotiation any longer. That is your red line.

4) Decide if you two can find a common, respectful path forward. She's yelling that she runs the house (unacceptable and disrespectful)and you are checked out for the most part with sporadic episodes such as this (apathy in the relationship is also disrespectful and unacceptable). If you love each other and want to stay together, the agreement has to be that you move forward in ways that are respectful on both sides. Get counseling if you don't know how to navigate this on your own.

5) Last point and this is super important. More important than you and Gloria Steinem...YOU ARE RUINING YOUR KIDS. They may already be beyond help. You are dooming them to lives of dysfunction and worse, dooming whoever their poor, hapless future partners and any offspring to a life of crazy too. They have a weak, apathetic male influence, a crazy shrew for a mother. Get them out of your bed and into counseling, pronto. Maybe they can be salvaged. And if you and your wife can't get it together, grow a set and gtfo of there. It's no way to live life for any of you.

Dude you're still here?

Get off the damn computer and go to your wife, get down on your knees and apologize for what you did, take her in your arms and squeeze the shit out of her... You spat in your wife's face sir.

You spat, into your wife's face.

Sitting on your ass talking to a bunch of sociopaths and weirdos like us is the last thing you should be doing right now.

Kick your kids in the ass (verbally!) and sleep in your own goddamn bed tonight.

GO, be a man for the first time in 12 years!

hell fking no..evereneverebnnlkhjkhg..i

good for you... good for you...

I started working at 14 installing "electrified fences"

Imagine taking a coffee cup with 2 handles on each side ......turn it upside down...and pound it on a fence post for 45mins.thats 1 post...have u guys done anything like that for 8 hrs?

Idk, but reading this shitty thread is a close second.

ive spent 2-3 times in jail for assaulting someone who hit a lady

Interesting. Dynamics are all topsy turney in the house. Kids usurping father's place in the marital bed and you have to communicate the unacceptable nature of this to your wife, who will in turn discuss with them. Wife, I assume, will then make the decision as to whether or not to honor your "request"? Wowsa. That is all kinds of NOT FUCKING ACCEPTABLE. And to boot, your dog is shitting in your secondary location. In dog world, this would be their code for distain. Which indicates the dog does not sees you as pack leader and, in fact, sees you as below HIM in the pack. You sir, somehow became runt of the litter in your own damn house.


TANKYOU!!!!!

A fence post driver is the technical term ;)

Yep...

I ran 15 miles of electric fencing in November all along a steep hillside.

Had 5 days to do it... I did it in 3 days

worked from sun up to sun down...

the week after i chopped 30 cord of firewood... fun

IM thinking your right....makes sense....ty this is what I was looking for..i think..im still gonna kick that dogs ass!

thanks for thje help charms2211!!!

post closed12!!!

Still is illegal numb nuts.

Nice t hear from the real folks

OP, it sure sounds like you've hit rock bottom. Perhaps you should try to come clean with your wife and perhaps even your kids about this (bottoming out). Your kids could learn from your example.

Perhaps it's time to chew on some humble-pie. For example, every time you start to talk about yourself... STOP. It's your families turn to be the center of your attention. You've got some serious damage control to do.

The things us guys did to get our wives to fall for us... Do that kind of stuff again. If it works, don't stop. If you're lucky, it'll become a 2-way street again.

Your home should be a vacation from work, school and society for your whole family. It's the only place you can go to escape the crap that everyday life brings. Not to mention, a place to get some proper sleep.

Lead by example, instead of by fear. It's not supposed to be easy but it sure is rewarding. Earn that respect back!

im actually not at rock bottomas far as money..just added up my 1099'ss..im doomeded.

needless to say this has nothing to do about $

Boy, ur in the f'in dog house now. No sex for yo. You have to sleep sometime yu no. You insult the chef, no? The dog can't help it. Be nice and sweet now.

BAHUMBUG..

I JUST WISH FOR MY WIFE....

tks thought bro

What do you do when the kids have an accident?

goto the hositol

Not the cash... I was talking about rock bottom in terms of letting everything get the best of you.

For me, when I get to the point that I take my frustrations out on my wife or son... that's rock bottom. They're the only ones worth fighting for.

I hatre "p"'s

Animals do get sick. When was the last time you took the dog to the vet? Dogs who are seriously ill,and even near death, can appear healthy.

[link to www.petmd.com]

Medically referred to as fecal incontinence, losing the ability to control its bowel movements is distressing for both the dog and the owner. Typical causes to this condition include injury to the spine or tail, anal gland disease(s), and/or an intestinal disorder.



Symptoms and Types


•Scooting on floor – may indicate a condition involving the anal sacs/glands
•Defecating in atypical areas (i.e., inside the home) •Bloated abdomen
•Tenderness or aversion to being touched near tail, loss of tone and voluntary movement of the tail

No problem. I have a 20 yo cat that pulls her fur out and barfs all over the house. I'm fighting her constipation all the time. A little old dog with her problems too. Both scoot at times, both vomit. Hubby isn't much of a sport either but he is a softie even though he makes alot of noise about it. I'm just getting old dealing with that and all this other crap. Well, can't say it's been a great life but I have alot to be thankful for. I guess life is full of indignation. I love who I love even though it pissses me off sometimes. Helps to go outside and have a smoke.

Sorry, by "accident" I mean peeing or pooping on the floor, in the bed, etc. As children are wont to do.

Here is a man who killed his entire family over a pee spot:

[link to www.wral.com]

Fort Bragg doctor convicted of killing his pregnant wife and two young daughters more than four decades ago is heading back to a North Carolina federal courtroom in September for a 10-day hearing that could determine whether he’ll get a new trial.

Prosecutors say Dr. Jeffrey MacDonald brutally stabbed his family to death with two paring knives and an icepick and beat them with a piece of wood in their apartment at 544 Castle Drive on Feb. 17, 1970

[link to www.thejeffreymacdonaldcase.com]

OP, you need to remove yourself physically from that house ASAP to prevent either of two things:

1) You go off your rocker and assault someone, earning yourself a trip to jail, or

2) Wife and kids conspire together to say you assaulted one of them, likewise ending up with you in jail.

They are physically clustering together agains a common percieved enemy -- you.

You probably rant and rave and stomp and yell in frustration over this, that, and the other, right?

They percieve you as and unstable bully.

They naturally cluster together against a common enemy.

You type as though you are drunk now.

How's it going to play out next time you get drunk, this scenario starts over again, and one of them calls the police or sheriff?

Not well for you. There'll you'll be, drunk, with a houseful of victims and witnesses.

Please call a friend or relative tonight to get you into a safer place for you for a while. Then, in the light of day and sober, please talk to an attorney about getting a legal separation for your own good.

OP is def going thru some long term frustrations problems in his marriage. People, you shouldn't judge. You don't know how long it took to get it all to this point, staying together for the sake of the kids and losing yourself in the meantime, is usually not a good idea.

OP- you are past the point of no return in your marriage, face it and move on. Life is too short for BOTH of you to be as miserable together as you sound like you are.

It's not your fault, it's not her fault, you guys are just OVER, and resenting each other more and more every day for it. Spitting in her face is a pretty low thing to do, and it could get worse from here, you know?

Did you slip on the turd causing you to hit your head? Take your dog for a walk then lazy bastard.

Wondering if the OP even remembers posting any of this, if he is in jail, or 6 feet under by now.

Just want to reply to all you guys and say thanks. For all the pos/neg comments you posted. The wife and I have been talking/crying most of the day(no she's not seen this thread)and were confronting a lot off our problems. One thing we both know and agree, is we love each other(Love is the greatest our souls can achieve I believe). SO lets hope we can both change.

/salute