Welp...I just found out my 14 year old daughter is a thief. | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1331439 United States 02/03/2013 01:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | just make her pay for them and discuss self-control around sweets. my daughter has the sweet tooth and cannot be trusted around candy either At least! She's got issues with the school now too. seriously if she ate them rather than taking the money, try not to be too hard on her addiction to sugar or chocolate is not a crime labeling her a thief could be more harmful best of luck! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 32299721 United States 02/03/2013 01:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The mid teens can be very bad that way, they say the conscience doesn't develop until the late teens so please don't give up. I stole money out of my step-mother's purse, and stole a shirt from a store when I was 15. I grew up though, and now I would not even think of taking something that did not belong to me, and I'm generous to a fault. So just look at it as a passing phase. |
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mumf User ID: 2822082 United States 02/03/2013 01:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What I've learned from parenting---what you're most vocal about, children will try to hide the most. Look at it from their point of view. Guaranteed trouble. I found it best to tell them they can come to me with anything. That doesn't mean no consequences. But it means both can build trust with each other and can get through the harder knocks that will come in the future. |
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Seer777 Ride the wings of the mind User ID: 31248385 United States 02/03/2013 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This. ^^^ She is still a child. One of the worst things adults can do to children, is to place upon them reasoning skills of an adult and assume they hold them as well. They do not. They are still growing. Labels are awful things, creating boxes and mind'sets'. Once told something enough, the box begin take hold. Good luck OP. Many young teens experiment with shoplifting and grow up to be perfectly balanced adults. Difficulties strengthen the Mind as labor does the body... ~Seneca |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 26448516 United Kingdom 02/03/2013 01:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is the worst you're dealing with, she sounds like a pretty good kid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23351703 Stop overreacting. Seriously, knock it off. Uhu , she does sound like a good kid.....don't fret OP , dont make too much of it as its part of growing up , she has to deal with feeling guilty..... |
Earth Daughter User ID: 982923 United States 02/03/2013 01:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | just make her pay for them and discuss self-control around sweets. my daughter has the sweet tooth and cannot be trusted around candy either Yeah, this. Make her responsible to pay the debt. If she doesn't have the money, make a list of chores she has to do to work off her debt. If she doesn't do the chores, no TV, no phone, no computer, etc... Lots of people love chocolate, but she needs to learn responsibility and self control. And do watch the negative labels. Girls at that age already struggle with their self esteem and image. Refrain from calling her theif or anything else that makes her think you love her less because she's 'bad'. They are very sensitive about those things at that age. Instead, focus on teaching her responsibility for her actions with clear cut consequences. Let her learn that doing that type of action again would not be worth the struggle she has to go through to make up for it. "Arrows of hate have been shot at me too, but they never hit me, because somehow they belonged to another world, with which I have no connection whatsoever." - Albert Einstein |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 6405004 United States 02/03/2013 01:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is the worst you're dealing with, she sounds like a pretty good kid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23351703 Stop overreacting. Seriously, knock it off. Uhu , she does sound like a good kid.....don't fret OP , dont make too much of it as its part of growing up , she has to deal with feeling guilty..... That's the thing though, she doesn't feel guilty. Not a shred of humility. I asked her if she thought it was worth it with all the trouble she's going to be in with the school and she answered, "I guess not" and shrugged her shoulders. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 929847 Canada 02/03/2013 01:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is the worst you're dealing with, she sounds like a pretty good kid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23351703 Stop overreacting. Seriously, knock it off. Uhu , she does sound like a good kid.....don't fret OP , dont make too much of it as its part of growing up , she has to deal with feeling guilty..... That's the thing though, she doesn't feel guilty. Not a shred of humility. I asked her if she thought it was worth it with all the trouble she's going to be in with the school and she answered, "I guess not" and shrugged her shoulders. Just for that, let the school punish her. Tell them to make her either work it off by doing some kind of work where she can earn the money to pay it back or something. But if she doesn't feel guilty, I wouldn't bail her out. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1439176 United States 02/03/2013 01:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is the worst you're dealing with, she sounds like a pretty good kid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23351703 Stop overreacting. Seriously, knock it off. THIS You label her a thief. Why not just say she is a criminal and lock her in the shed for a week? What a champion mom you are to tell the world about this. Have her vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom and do some chores. Then LET IT GO!!! She's a kid. She will learn from this. BUT.. if you say she is a thief and you cannot trust her anymore, you will shame her and her love for you will start to go VERY VERY sour after this. Treating her badly will put a hatchet into your relationship with her. Deal with it like you'd like to be treated. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 6405004 United States 02/03/2013 01:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is the worst you're dealing with, she sounds like a pretty good kid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23351703 Stop overreacting. Seriously, knock it off. Uhu , she does sound like a good kid.....don't fret OP , dont make too much of it as its part of growing up , she has to deal with feeling guilty..... That's the thing though, she doesn't feel guilty. Not a shred of humility. I asked her if she thought it was worth it with all the trouble she's going to be in with the school and she answered, "I guess not" and shrugged her shoulders. Just for that, let the school punish her. Tell them to make her either work it off by doing some kind of work where she can earn the money to pay it back or something. But if she doesn't feel guilty, I wouldn't bail her out. That's actually when I began to get a bit incensed, I was pretty calm with the whole stealing thing. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 6405004 United States 02/03/2013 01:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is the worst you're dealing with, she sounds like a pretty good kid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23351703 Stop overreacting. Seriously, knock it off. THIS You label her a thief. Why not just say she is a criminal and lock her in the shed for a week? What a champion mom you are to tell the world about this. Have her vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom and do some chores. Then LET IT GO!!! She's a kid. She will learn from this. BUT.. if you say she is a thief and you cannot trust her anymore, you will shame her and her love for you will start to go VERY VERY sour after this. Treating her badly will put a hatchet into your relationship with her. Deal with it like you'd like to be treated. Oh? And how does a thief expect to be treated? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 33512484 United States 02/03/2013 01:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Straight busted. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6405004 Signs out so many boxes of candy to sell to friends and family to raise money for the school, takes back what's left and 30 candy bars are missing. She started to lie about it before I stopped her early and warned her and the truth flowed out like a river. Ugh. She probably shared them w/ friends give her some work at the house to pay it back whats the big deal. |
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