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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 33308831 United States 02/10/2013 01:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude it's way more than simple confidence lolol. It's more about Knowledge. If you have knowledge then you can be confident. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7138989 I agree with that to an extent, but for example think about it like this. Say you are presenting knowledge to another person, if you do not portray that knowledge confidently then most likely those who listen will get much less than if you presented it with confidence. I mean look at Obama for instance, people worship the guy even though a lot of what he says is absolute BS. However he has mastered speaking with conviction and authority therefore what he says holds more clout. Even intelligent people fall for that stuff, if you come off as passive it often does not matter what you are saying because people are already passing judgement on your demeanor. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 7138989 United States 02/10/2013 01:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude it's way more than simple confidence lolol. It's more about Knowledge. If you have knowledge then you can be confident. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7138989 I agree with that to an extent, but for example think about it like this. Say you are presenting knowledge to another person, if you do not portray that knowledge confidently then most likely those who listen will get much less than if you presented it with confidence. I mean look at Obama for instance, people worship the guy even though a lot of what he says is absolute BS. However he has mastered speaking with conviction and authority therefore what he says holds more clout. Even intelligent people fall for that stuff, if you come off as passive it often does not matter what you are saying because people are already passing judgement on your demeanor. I think he just has charisma. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7138989 United States 02/10/2013 01:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude it's way more than simple confidence lolol. It's more about Knowledge. If you have knowledge then you can be confident. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7138989 I agree with that to an extent, but for example think about it like this. Say you are presenting knowledge to another person, if you do not portray that knowledge confidently then most likely those who listen will get much less than if you presented it with confidence. I mean look at Obama for instance, people worship the guy even though a lot of what he says is absolute BS. However he has mastered speaking with conviction and authority therefore what he says holds more clout. Even intelligent people fall for that stuff, if you come off as passive it often does not matter what you are saying because people are already passing judgement on your demeanor. I think he just has charisma. NLP etc |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 33308831 United States 02/10/2013 01:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude it's way more than simple confidence lolol. It's more about Knowledge. If you have knowledge then you can be confident. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7138989 I agree with that to an extent, but for example think about it like this. Say you are presenting knowledge to another person, if you do not portray that knowledge confidently then most likely those who listen will get much less than if you presented it with confidence. I mean look at Obama for instance, people worship the guy even though a lot of what he says is absolute BS. However he has mastered speaking with conviction and authority therefore what he says holds more clout. Even intelligent people fall for that stuff, if you come off as passive it often does not matter what you are saying because people are already passing judgement on your demeanor. I think he just has charisma. Can you think of a charismatic person who does not appear confident though? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 23073225 United States 02/10/2013 02:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As a child I looked at adults as simpletons who needed protection and guidance. It was a soul thing I was born with. I also astral projected as a kid and had some past life memories. From there I took martial arts. Got a black belt by 12 years old. And continued fighting competatively for years. Being able to kick just about anyone's ass gives you confidence. Then I read books. Lots of them. Non fiction. Nothing for entertainment. Just knowledge. I'm close to 4000 nonfiction books at 38 yrs old. There's lots of things you can do to boost your confidence. But I think a lot of it comes from past life experience. If you don't have confidence in this life, then start doing things that challenge your fears. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 33308831 United States 02/10/2013 02:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As a child I looked at adults as simpletons who needed protection and guidance. It was a soul thing I was born with. I also astral projected as a kid and had some past life memories. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23073225 From there I took martial arts. Got a black belt by 12 years old. And continued fighting competatively for years. Being able to kick just about anyone's ass gives you confidence. Then I read books. Lots of them. Non fiction. Nothing for entertainment. Just knowledge. I'm close to 4000 nonfiction books at 38 yrs old. There's lots of things you can do to boost your confidence. But I think a lot of it comes from past life experience. If you don't have confidence in this life, then start doing things that challenge your fears. I completely agree positive life experience does breed confidence and in some cases even some negative experiences can make a person stronger. I've always found martial arts to be a great outlet for some people as it is definitely empowering. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 33308831 United States 02/10/2013 03:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just find it amazing how we naturally can pick up on whether someone is truly confident or not. Reading up on body language has really opened up my eyes to how people without even knowing it, can make inferences about each other. I remember when i got into all this stuff a few years ago it seriously changed my life and i feel like people need to know they hold the key in their own hands. Simple changes that make such a positive difference. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 22065781 Canada 02/10/2013 06:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are welcome. I do believe that confidence is essential for success. I also believe that people can be supremely confident in one area of their lives and not so confident in another area.I am also of the opinion that charisma and confidence are something that are innate.In cases where people are willing to work hard enough, it is possible to develop it though. Only my opinion. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 33308831 United States 02/10/2013 06:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the thoughtful post OP. Quoting: Parabola Your post left me wondering: how do you define confidence? Great question I should of started off with that, to me at least confidence is the positive self value someone has about themselves. A confident person knows who they are and embraces everything about themselves including there faults. They can laugh at themselves and their problems because inside they know those things don't define them. They have the belief that if they try hard enough they can achieve anything. This all may sound corny to a lot of people but the reality is that when someone learns to use this thought process they subconsciously portray this new found confidence to the world even in ways they may not realize. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 29311787 Canada 02/10/2013 07:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the thoughtful post OP. Quoting: Parabola Your post left me wondering: how do you define confidence? Great question I should of started off with that, to me at least confidence is the positive self value someone has about themselves. A confident person knows who they are and embraces everything about themselves including there faults. They can laugh at themselves and their problems because inside they know those things don't define them. They have the belief that if they try hard enough they can achieve anything. This all may sound corny to a lot of people but the reality is that when someone learns to use this thought process they subconsciously portray this new found confidence to the world even in ways they may not realize. I agree, and I don't think it's corny. Seems pretty well-thought out and authentic to me. My working definition runs along the lines of 'confidence is knowing you will be able to persevere in your pursuits and overcome the obstacles you may confront'. Ive always been curious to understand better the subjective range of definitions for 'confidence' - so variable between people (and within a person over time). Thanks for the food for thought! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 32702517 Canada 02/10/2013 07:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | knowledge is power. Confidence is experience. Or fake. Confidence is simply how you see yourself. A jack ass can have confidence. Confidence is found in many ways from feeling attractive to just achieving something. An idiot can be confident. If you are worried about your appearance you probably don't take very good care of yourself. I mean really, do you try that hard to be a good representation of your inner self? There are social obligations/standards that you need to upkeep to stay confident. If you lack confidence, doing things your own way, and standing out may not be the best approach at first. You have to accept everyone around you has thoughts the same as you. There is a basic human understanding that gives a basic level of confidence. Because you are just being you, that's allowed. What's to be embarrassed about. If you are lying to yourself, or not doing what you know is right for you, this basic confidence can fade. It depends what you are after, I can fake confidence and get laid if I want to, but what good will that do for the greater picture? ( well, you can fake it and make it but that's another topic) Take a good look at yourself and ask what you are self conscious about. It isn't hard. If it is something physical that's an insecurity that you should cancel with interests and goals. Hygiene is an exception. Ya gotta be clean in life. If you are self conscious about your ability to do something, well snap out of it and start doing that thing. Confidence is being comfortable with the now. If you are the not used to what you are doing you won't be confident at first. Such as being social. Speaking and conversation is a skill we develop, not something you are born with. If you think people are born with the ability to be cool and confident you are wrong. Either they are experienced or they have a clear perspective on values and are confident because its illogical to be otherwise. So in short, Stop avoiding the things you know you need to do, practice the things you are nervous at, or embarrassed about, and go live life. Confidence isn't a switch, its a way of living. Basically you guys who aren't confident are just not getting it. This life, this game, is meant to be played. Stop thinking about your confidence and go do the things you want to do. Simple. No confidence is like the nonathletic kid in gym class. But if the kid just played more sports in his life he may not be athletic, but he would be skilled. And there would be no problem. It's hard to write about this topic because the human mind is complicated and different. But hopefully this will get you guys thinking the right way, and understanding you are really just missing the point. There is no such thing as confidence ;) Practice and understanding. Brings knowledge. which develops into wisdom. No wise man was every criticized for not being confident. Because it isn't really relevant. Like you, you just are. So be. And do it the best you fucking can. |
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