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Write your last will and testament or buy a gun. It's up to you. The guy's nuts and is going to hurt you. Trust me on this.
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If I hear anything from him I will report it to the police. I just want him to disappear quietly I hate problems.
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As a PI, this is exactly what I help victims (mostly women) of stalking overcome. I am on a case very similar to yours tonight.
Good luck OP.

One I had a few months ago, the victim was killed. Unfortunately I was called in after the Vic went missing.

Keep one thing in mind, OP; if you're an adult, if you go missing, the Police really don't give a shit... UNLESS....you have family who keeps pushing OR your a member of the town's elite club...or a daughter.

1st thing to do is GPS yourself. No matter where you go, track yourself and give someone you trust the login and passwords.

If you go missing, we can then find you.

2. I then gps him. I put you two on a geo-grid. If he intersects your geo-grid, we get a restraining order.

He fucks up, he goes to jail. Id shut his ass down.

Find yourself a local PI.
 Quoting: T-Cain


This is the best advice you will find here on this board.

OP, you sound very young. You have somewhat baited along an extremely unhealthy and potentially dangerous person.

You are in danger, and you very much need professional advice on handling things. A private investigator is definitely your very best option.

Make sure that you hire an investigator that is appropriately licensed in your part of the world.

Just because your stalker has left you along for a few hours or a couple of days even does not mean you are in the clear. He may be passed out, in jail, or in a mental hospital on 72 hour hold (or British equivalent).

Do retain copies of all your emails, texts, etc from this guy. Print them out, keep every last little thing this guy has ever sent you. Do not answer your phone, but use voice mail for everything.

A private investigator can also advise you on home alarm systems and personal protection.

Former social worker here.
 Quoting: goodmockingbird


I'm not very young but still I think it makes no difference.

I cant afford an investigator but I will keep the things he's sent me that I haven't deleted as evidence.
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OP, I once had this old hs classmate play mind games and leave cryptic messages with me on facebook. I really liked the guy as a friend only. I am married and thought he could respect that. Long story short, I trusted him and later found out he had lied to me and had other mutual friends playing in on his mind games with me. He even posted stuff on amother forum after I left a call out thread telling him off. The entire situation broke my heart, since I really liked him as a friend. The only way it all stopped (the mind games) was I had to block him on facebook and never register on a forum with a user name. To this day I do not know why he wanted to hurt me emotionally, as I only wanted the best for him. As things got stranger on FB, I realized there was no other answer, he was a psychologically sick person and wanted to hurt me for some reason. He had given me a gift in hs and asked me out, at that time I declined. When we reconnected, I think he just wanted to seek some sort of revenge by pretending to like me again. It was very strange and I am very afraid of him to this day, I worry that he will physically hurt me and he only lives a few towns away.

Be careful, follow your gut instincts. I really liked this person, and wanted his friendship, but he was a total liar. I know this because a true friend would have never did what he did, that's not friendship; lying to someone.
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Write your last will and testament or buy a gun. It's up to you. The guy's nuts and is going to hurt you. Trust me on this.
 Quoting: Chip


If I hear anything from him I will report it to the police. I just want him to disappear quietly I hate problems.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Do everything you can. The guy has serious mental issues. My sister had a guy doing this type shit...wouldn't stop...kicked his ass twice...nothing worked. Got a restraining order and explained to him via phone if I see him on my property he'd be escorted off in a body bag.

That finally did the job.
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OP, I once had this old hs classmate play mind games and leave cryptic messages with me on facebook. I really liked the guy as a friend only. I am married and thought he could respect that. Long story short, I trusted him and later found out he had lied to me and had other mutual friends playing in on his mind games with me. He even posted stuff on amother forum after I left a call out thread telling him off. The entire situation broke my heart, since I really liked him as a friend. The only way it all stopped (the mind games) was I had to block him on facebook and never register on a forum with a user name. To this day I do not know why he wanted to hurt me emotionally, as I only wanted the best for him. As things got stranger on FB, I realized there was no other answer, he was a psychologically sick person and wanted to hurt me for some reason. He had given me a gift in hs and asked me out, at that time I declined. When we reconnected, I think he just wanted to seek some sort of revenge by pretending to like me again. It was very strange and I am very afraid of him to this day, I worry that he will physically hurt me and he only lives a few towns away.

Be careful, follow your gut instincts. I really liked this person, and wanted his friendship, but he was a total liar. I know this because a true friend would have never did what he did, that's not friendship; lying to someone.
 Quoting: Dorothy 27099157


Wow sorry to hear about all that. I did suspect he was probably laughing about me behind my back as later on it was obvious he wasn't genuine.

Maybe it was revenge on his part with your case, I did wonder if it was the same for me like maybe I did something. But I think some people are just horrible and there's nothing more to it. I think I was falling in love with him at one point but something just said there was something wrong and I came to my senses.
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Write your last will and testament or buy a gun. It's up to you. The guy's nuts and is going to hurt you. Trust me on this.
 Quoting: Chip


If I hear anything from him I will report it to the police. I just want him to disappear quietly I hate problems.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Do everything you can. The guy has serious mental issues. My sister had a guy doing this type shit...wouldn't stop...kicked his ass twice...nothing worked. Got a restraining order and explained to him via phone if I see him on my property he'd be escorted off in a body bag.

That finally did the job.
 Quoting: Chip


It just all gives me the creeps. I've heard nothing yet so maybe he really has gone. I don't want ti to get to the point like what your sister had. I feel creeped out enough as it is. Your sister must have been through hell.
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OP, I once had this old hs classmate play mind games and leave cryptic messages with me on facebook. I really liked the guy as a friend only. I am married and thought he could respect that. Long story short, I trusted him and later found out he had lied to me and had other mutual friends playing in on his mind games with me. He even posted stuff on amother forum after I left a call out thread telling him off. The entire situation broke my heart, since I really liked him as a friend. The only way it all stopped (the mind games) was I had to block him on facebook and never register on a forum with a user name. To this day I do not know why he wanted to hurt me emotionally, as I only wanted the best for him. As things got stranger on FB, I realized there was no other answer, he was a psychologically sick person and wanted to hurt me for some reason. He had given me a gift in hs and asked me out, at that time I declined. When we reconnected, I think he just wanted to seek some sort of revenge by pretending to like me again. It was very strange and I am very afraid of him to this day, I worry that he will physically hurt me and he only lives a few towns away.

Be careful, follow your gut instincts. I really liked this person, and wanted his friendship, but he was a total liar. I know this because a true friend would have never did what he did, that's not friendship; lying to someone.
 Quoting: Dorothy 27099157


Wow sorry to hear about all that. I did suspect he was probably laughing about me behind my back as later on it was obvious he wasn't genuine.

Maybe it was revenge on his part with your case, I did wonder if it was the same for me like maybe I did something. But I think some people are just horrible and there's nothing more to it. I think I was falling in love with him at one point but something just said there was something wrong and I came to my senses.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Yeah, I think it can be bittersweet to reconnect with someone you once liked and perhaps he just hated me for rejecting him, idk. Truth is, I really liked him at first and was overjoyed to be friends with him, then one day he just jeckyled on me and changed. Oh well, live and learn, its prolly best we never became good friends, I value my marriage and would not want to have been tempted to cheat. :)
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I don't like the part where you play games ( I love you) with him.
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I dont like it either, but I am at my wits end. I really liked him as a friend and then he's talking about moving in together, I just was so shocked but I told him I loved his company and I was starting to grow very fond of him so I said lets not ruin it but that was an excuse to call me every name going just because I didn't want to have him as a common law husband within 3 months of seeing each other. He said he wanted nothing more than friendship too at first I felt comfortable and I found that quite sweet that he wasn't a typical guy (which he was!). All lies. Then he got more and more demanding and abusive I ignore then I get lies to reel me in, I give as good as I get I get more sob stories or abuse I've tried everything so this is my last ditch attempt and I dont like it but if it means he will feel he will have the upper hand then I will do it if he will leave me alone.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


I would do some research into personality disorders and stalkers. After I did that I would pick a few ideas out and make a plan. A counselor might know immediately what you are facing and be able to help you get out of it. Basically talk to someone that knows more about it than you do so you can learn quickly what to do. Stop guessing and get information. Good luck.
 Quoting: WindyMind


Thanks. Well the good news is I haven't heard anything back from him so I think that's all he was after, getting the upper hand on who did the dumping and making him think I was suffering seemed to do the trick. It's so weird though. Interesting you mention the personality disorders. I did some research and this really fits the bill.

[link to www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]


I can't believe there are people out there like this. I don't think I'll trust anyone again.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Thanks for the link I have been googling this personality disorder and added it to my bookmarks.
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Sociopath - totally - I have been in a relationship with one and I had to move to get away - now he's "detained" for a long time so I can rest easy. I thought back last month and realized I have had these weirdos at various degrees harass me throughout my life - but I was a really attractive girl when younger, not sure if that has to do with it, and I was often single so I guess they thought I was an easy target. Sometimes they would be neighbors who'd leave me notes and peep in my windows, or someone who would see me on the street and follow me and chase me after saying something strange to me - that started when I was nine. One thing I have learned is how to tell immediately if someone is a creeper, there are so many signs that it stands out like a sore thumb now - they cannot hide it long if they are one of "those" types - women just need to be taught how to spot one a mile away - many of us are not and we find out the harder way, many lucky to make it out alive or unharmed. Although, there is the occasional guy who seems really nice and normal and then can flip on you after you marry them - those are the worst.
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What a freak. He`s obviously obsessed with you and I don`t know if doing what you did was such a good idea.He may have recorded the conversation and in the future try to use it to pin shit on you if there`s an altercation.Don`t fuck around with this guy,call the cops and at least get a report written in police files about it.If it was a matter of him doing all of this just because he needed to be the one that ended it then he would have made a big scene long ago telling you to piss off and you would have never seen him again.You have any big strapping guy friends he doesn`t know about? If you do,be seen with them a few times,have him grab the phone next time he calls and tell him that hes your new boyfriend and he`s gonna rearrange his teeth if he calls again.
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Thing is whenever he told me to fuck off and called me every other name under the sun I just said 'fine' and gave it all back. But then he kept contacting me. I never once thought he just wanted me to say oh no don't leave me, your friendship sustains my life force itself, wahhhhhhhh. So I just grovelled to him and now not a peep out of him.

I will file a complaint to the police though if I hear one more word out of him, if I have peace now I won't rock the boat.

I don't really know any strapping guys. My specialty seems to be psychos by the looks of things.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


I ran into this situation last summer at a concert. The creeper made friends with my boyfriend, saw problems in our relationship, then proceeded to move in. We only knew this person a few weeks, bf and I live in different towns, and creeper wanted to move into my apartment building and even hinted at moving in with me and wanting to be the father figure my daughter never had!

I told him I was in love with my b/f and definately not interested thats when it got real bad. Cussed at me, threatened me, professed undying love to me, begged for forgiveness, threatened suicide. I got the cops involved right away. He didnt know he was on speaker phone or that I was listening when the cop called and he was claiming he still loved me and he was sorry... WTF?!

Total psycopath. It ended my relationship with my boyfriend (I still dont know what happened with that b/c they were still friends when I was calling the cops on that sob) and after six months, Im still paranoid about the situation.

I do know a few things, you cant reason or argue with a person like this and the sooner you end ALL COMMUNICATIONS the better. Its just sad not being able to let my guard down after all this time and I can relate with what you're going through at the moment. There is some good advice on here but I would suggest to end any communication mostly because that is what a cop is going to ask... [why did you stay in touch with this person?] and make it look like its your fault.

Good luck, OP, I hope you find your way out of this aweful situation.
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OP, I once had this old hs classmate play mind games and leave cryptic messages with me on facebook. I really liked the guy as a friend only. I am married and thought he could respect that. Long story short, I trusted him and later found out he had lied to me and had other mutual friends playing in on his mind games with me. He even posted stuff on amother forum after I left a call out thread telling him off. The entire situation broke my heart, since I really liked him as a friend. The only way it all stopped (the mind games) was I had to block him on facebook and never register on a forum with a user name. To this day I do not know why he wanted to hurt me emotionally, as I only wanted the best for him. As things got stranger on FB, I realized there was no other answer, he was a psychologically sick person and wanted to hurt me for some reason. He had given me a gift in hs and asked me out, at that time I declined. When we reconnected, I think he just wanted to seek some sort of revenge by pretending to like me again. It was very strange and I am very afraid of him to this day, I worry that he will physically hurt me and he only lives a few towns away.

Be careful, follow your gut instincts. I really liked this person, and wanted his friendship, but he was a total liar. I know this because a true friend would have never did what he did, that's not friendship; lying to someone.
 Quoting: Dorothy 27099157


Wow sorry to hear about all that. I did suspect he was probably laughing about me behind my back as later on it was obvious he wasn't genuine.

Maybe it was revenge on his part with your case, I did wonder if it was the same for me like maybe I did something. But I think some people are just horrible and there's nothing more to it. I think I was falling in love with him at one point but something just said there was something wrong and I came to my senses.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Yeah, I think it can be bittersweet to reconnect with someone you once liked and perhaps he just hated me for rejecting him, idk. Truth is, I really liked him at first and was overjoyed to be friends with him, then one day he just jeckyled on me and changed. Oh well, live and learn, its prolly best we never became good friends, I value my marriage and would not want to have been tempted to cheat. :)
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He must have really liked you then. Maybe take it as a twisted compliment although you could have done without the hassle?
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Sociopath - totally - I have been in a relationship with one and I had to move to get away - now he's "detained" for a long time so I can rest easy. I thought back last month and realized I have had these weirdos at various degrees harass me throughout my life - but I was a really attractive girl when younger, not sure if that has to do with it, and I was often single so I guess they thought I was an easy target. Sometimes they would be neighbors who'd leave me notes and peep in my windows, or someone who would see me on the street and follow me and chase me after saying something strange to me - that started when I was nine. One thing I have learned is how to tell immediately if someone is a creeper, there are so many signs that it stands out like a sore thumb now - they cannot hide it long if they are one of "those" types - women just need to be taught how to spot one a mile away - many of us are not and we find out the harder way, many lucky to make it out alive or unharmed. Although, there is the occasional guy who seems really nice and normal and then can flip on you after you marry them - those are the worst.
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Do how would you say you can spot one now?

I would never have thought for the life of me he'd be so weird and I completely understand where you are coming from with the flipping out thing. I wonder why they hide their true self for so long or how they manage it?

I think I am quite naive for my age, I just assume people are never that bad and try my best to see the good side. But this guy seemed rotten as time went on. Like his soul was totally messed up. Thing with stalkers is you learn the hard way I suppose.
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What a freak. He`s obviously obsessed with you and I don`t know if doing what you did was such a good idea.He may have recorded the conversation and in the future try to use it to pin shit on you if there`s an altercation.Don`t fuck around with this guy,call the cops and at least get a report written in police files about it.If it was a matter of him doing all of this just because he needed to be the one that ended it then he would have made a big scene long ago telling you to piss off and you would have never seen him again.You have any big strapping guy friends he doesn`t know about? If you do,be seen with them a few times,have him grab the phone next time he calls and tell him that hes your new boyfriend and he`s gonna rearrange his teeth if he calls again.
 Quoting: PC FREE



Thing is whenever he told me to fuck off and called me every other name under the sun I just said 'fine' and gave it all back. But then he kept contacting me. I never once thought he just wanted me to say oh no don't leave me, your friendship sustains my life force itself, wahhhhhhhh. So I just grovelled to him and now not a peep out of him.

I will file a complaint to the police though if I hear one more word out of him, if I have peace now I won't rock the boat.

I don't really know any strapping guys. My specialty seems to be psychos by the looks of things.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


I ran into this situation last summer at a concert. The creeper made friends with my boyfriend, saw problems in our relationship, then proceeded to move in. We only knew this person a few weeks, bf and I live in different towns, and creeper wanted to move into my apartment building and even hinted at moving in with me and wanting to be the father figure my daughter never had!

I told him I was in love with my b/f and definately not interested thats when it got real bad. Cussed at me, threatened me, professed undying love to me, begged for forgiveness, threatened suicide. I got the cops involved right away. He didnt know he was on speaker phone or that I was listening when the cop called and he was claiming he still loved me and he was sorry... WTF?!

Total psycopath. It ended my relationship with my boyfriend (I still dont know what happened with that b/c they were still friends when I was calling the cops on that sob) and after six months, Im still paranoid about the situation.

I do know a few things, you cant reason or argue with a person like this and the sooner you end ALL COMMUNICATIONS the better. Its just sad not being able to let my guard down after all this time and I can relate with what you're going through at the moment. There is some good advice on here but I would suggest to end any communication mostly because that is what a cop is going to ask... [why did you stay in touch with this person?] and make it look like its your fault.

Good luck, OP, I hope you find your way out of this aweful situation.
 Quoting: Valeria


Well still no contact from him yet (touch wood) so all is well but I do feel so wary now and feel nervous checking my phone for txts or missed calls.

He sounded crazy, your nut job. Mine was always trying to make contact and have the last word then suddenly he was in some dire life or death situation. Its so draining, these assholes know a nice person when they see one and try their best to kill them of any worth inside.
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I dont like it either, but I am at my wits end. I really liked him as a friend and then he's talking about moving in together, I just was so shocked but I told him I loved his company and I was starting to grow very fond of him so I said lets not ruin it but that was an excuse to call me every name going just because I didn't want to have him as a common law husband within 3 months of seeing each other. He said he wanted nothing more than friendship too at first I felt comfortable and I found that quite sweet that he wasn't a typical guy (which he was!). All lies. Then he got more and more demanding and abusive I ignore then I get lies to reel me in, I give as good as I get I get more sob stories or abuse I've tried everything so this is my last ditch attempt and I dont like it but if it means he will feel he will have the upper hand then I will do it if he will leave me alone.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


I would do some research into personality disorders and stalkers. After I did that I would pick a few ideas out and make a plan. A counselor might know immediately what you are facing and be able to help you get out of it. Basically talk to someone that knows more about it than you do so you can learn quickly what to do. Stop guessing and get information. Good luck.
 Quoting: WindyMind


Thanks. Well the good news is I haven't heard anything back from him so I think that's all he was after, getting the upper hand on who did the dumping and making him think I was suffering seemed to do the trick. It's so weird though. Interesting you mention the personality disorders. I did some research and this really fits the bill.

[link to www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]


I can't believe there are people out there like this. I don't think I'll trust anyone again.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Thanks for the link I have been googling this personality disorder and added it to my bookmarks.
 Quoting: WindyMind


Welcome. I've been scaring myself thanks to you looking up all sorts of weird mental disorders... :P
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"Well still no contact from him yet (touch wood) so all is well but I do feel so wary now and feel nervous checking my phone for txts or missed calls."



I didnt delete this persons phone number as I explained to the last police contact I had, I wanted to know what this creep was up to and if I could get any forewarning he was coming after me, I'd know. I just knew I wouldnt respond if he texted or called. It made sense at the time but the last police contact advised me to change my phone number and that is what I did.

Is that why you keep his number?
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I would do some research into personality disorders and stalkers. After I did that I would pick a few ideas out and make a plan. A counselor might know immediately what you are facing and be able to help you get out of it. Basically talk to someone that knows more about it than you do so you can learn quickly what to do. Stop guessing and get information. Good luck.
 Quoting: WindyMind


Thanks. Well the good news is I haven't heard anything back from him so I think that's all he was after, getting the upper hand on who did the dumping and making him think I was suffering seemed to do the trick. It's so weird though. Interesting you mention the personality disorders. I did some research and this really fits the bill.

[link to www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]


I can't believe there are people out there like this. I don't think I'll trust anyone again.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20529567


Thanks for the link I have been googling this personality disorder and added it to my bookmarks.
 Quoting: WindyMind


Welcome. I've been scaring myself thanks to you looking up all sorts of weird mental disorders... :P
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These is one of the creepier ones I've seen, there are others that try to represent visual hallucinations as well.

Warning it's freaky.


Last Edited by Coma Patient #7 on 02/12/2013 06:21 PM
Through will of thought we control our emotions and thoughts are often no more difficult to control then we make them to be.
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tell him you have aids and you just shit your diaper and that you are a lesbian and have no interest in him.
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Its because you both use text messages, it is not real communication
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OP, I once had this old hs classmate play mind games and leave cryptic messages with me on facebook. I really liked the guy as a friend only. I am married and thought he could respect that. Long story short, I trusted him and later found out he had lied to me and had other mutual friends playing in on his mind games with me. He even posted stuff on amother forum after I left a call out thread telling him off. The entire situation broke my heart, since I really liked him as a friend. The only way it all stopped (the mind games) was I had to block him on facebook and never register on a forum with a user name. To this day I do not know why he wanted to hurt me emotionally, as I only wanted the best for him. As things got stranger on FB, I realized there was no other answer, he was a psychologically sick person and wanted to hurt me for some reason. He had given me a gift in hs and asked me out, at that time I declined. When we reconnected, I think he just wanted to seek some sort of revenge by pretending to like me again. It was very strange and I am very afraid of him to this day, I worry that he will physically hurt me and he only lives a few towns away.

Be careful, follow your gut instincts. I really liked this person, and wanted his friendship, but he was a total liar. I know this because a true friend would have never did what he did, that's not friendship; lying to someone.
 Quoting: Dorothy 27099157


Wow sorry to hear about all that. I did suspect he was probably laughing about me behind my back as later on it was obvious he wasn't genuine.

Maybe it was revenge on his part with your case, I did wonder if it was the same for me like maybe I did something. But I think some people are just horrible and there's nothing more to it. I think I was falling in love with him at one point but something just said there was something wrong and I came to my senses.
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Yeah, I think it can be bittersweet to reconnect with someone you once liked and perhaps he just hated me for rejecting him, idk. Truth is, I really liked him at first and was overjoyed to be friends with him, then one day he just jeckyled on me and changed. Oh well, live and learn, its prolly best we never became good friends, I value my marriage and would not want to have been tempted to cheat. :)
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He must have really liked you then. Maybe take it as a twisted compliment although you could have done without the hassle?
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actually he just really loathed me. He played so many games and had his friends pretend to be my friends, it was bizarre. Looking back is was nothing short of bullying, they all made fun of me and laughed at me. And to think in the beginning, I trusted him, I actually admired him. I was so wrong and that was the scary part, being wrong and not seeing how evil he was. I guess I was naive too, I never wanted to believe someone could be so mean or that he was not what he presented himself to be.

That was years ago, I am much wiser now.
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Thanks. Well the good news is I haven't heard anything back from him so I think that's all he was after, getting the upper hand on who did the dumping and making him think I was suffering seemed to do the trick. It's so weird though. Interesting you mention the personality disorders. I did some research and this really fits the bill.

[link to www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]


I can't believe there are people out there like this. I don't think I'll trust anyone again.
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Thanks for the link I have been googling this personality disorder and added it to my bookmarks.
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Welcome. I've been scaring myself thanks to you looking up all sorts of weird mental disorders... :P
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These is one of the creepier ones I've seen, there are others that try to represent visual hallucinations as well.

Warning it's freaky.

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That... Is... HORRIBLE!

Had to turn it off after a bit. Can't imagine what it would be like if you couldn't turn it off. No wonder schizophrenia has such a high suicide rate.
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Wow sorry to hear about all that. I did suspect he was probably laughing about me behind my back as later on it was obvious he wasn't genuine.

Maybe it was revenge on his part with your case, I did wonder if it was the same for me like maybe I did something. But I think some people are just horrible and there's nothing more to it. I think I was falling in love with him at one point but something just said there was something wrong and I came to my senses.
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Yeah, I think it can be bittersweet to reconnect with someone you once liked and perhaps he just hated me for rejecting him, idk. Truth is, I really liked him at first and was overjoyed to be friends with him, then one day he just jeckyled on me and changed. Oh well, live and learn, its prolly best we never became good friends, I value my marriage and would not want to have been tempted to cheat. :)
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He must have really liked you then. Maybe take it as a twisted compliment although you could have done without the hassle?
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actually he just really loathed me. He played so many games and had his friends pretend to be my friends, it was bizarre. Looking back is was nothing short of bullying, they all made fun of me and laughed at me. And to think in the beginning, I trusted him, I actually admired him. I was so wrong and that was the scary part, being wrong and not seeing how evil he was. I guess I was naive too, I never wanted to believe someone could be so mean or that he was not what he presented himself to be.

That was years ago, I am much wiser now.
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Well I went to the police station today. Gave so and so's details and said I haven't heard anything since the other day but I just want it on record that I was harassed in case.
I got a call from the police before. I've been told that if he attempts to make contact with me I should call them right away and not to approach or make any attempt to contact him. Apparently his wife placed a restraining order on him and he has a history of violence (HE'S MARRIED! HE SAID HE NEVER MARRIED, HE SAID HE WAS NEVER IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW!)

He told me they were living together for a while (NOT MARRIED) and she was crazy because her ex broke her ribs and fractured her skull and it made her hate men and she started abusing him! That fucking piece of shit I bet he did it TO HER. And he said his ex's daughter loved him to bits... yeah ... right.
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tell him you have aids and you just shit your diaper and that you are a lesbian and have no interest in him.
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I bet is he was the type who had AIDS he's enjoy spreading it about if he could.

What a fucking creep. I just feel sick to my stomach.
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Sociopath - totally - I have been in a relationship with one and I had to move to get away - now he's "detained" for a long time so I can rest easy. I thought back last month and realized I have had these weirdos at various degrees harass me throughout my life - but I was a really attractive girl when younger, not sure if that has to do with it, and I was often single so I guess they thought I was an easy target. Sometimes they would be neighbors who'd leave me notes and peep in my windows, or someone who would see me on the street and follow me and chase me after saying something strange to me - that started when I was nine. One thing I have learned is how to tell immediately if someone is a creeper, there are so many signs that it stands out like a sore thumb now - they cannot hide it long if they are one of "those" types - women just need to be taught how to spot one a mile away - many of us are not and we find out the harder way, many lucky to make it out alive or unharmed. Although, there is the occasional guy who seems really nice and normal and then can flip on you after you marry them - those are the worst.
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Do how would you say you can spot one now?

I would never have thought for the life of me he'd be so weird and I completely understand where you are coming from with the flipping out thing. I wonder why they hide their true self for so long or how they manage it?

I think I am quite naive for my age, I just assume people are never that bad and try my best to see the good side. But this guy seemed rotten as time went on. Like his soul was totally messed up. Thing with stalkers is you learn the hard way I suppose.
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OP sociopaths, stalkers, creeps can be anyone dressed in Grandma's clothes hiding behind a mask. I had one who was a therapist. I'm still afraid of him. I reported him but nothing was done about it.
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"Well still no contact from him yet (touch wood) so all is well but I do feel so wary now and feel nervous checking my phone for txts or missed calls."



I didnt delete this persons phone number as I explained to the last police contact I had, I wanted to know what this creep was up to and if I could get any forewarning he was coming after me, I'd know. I just knew I wouldnt respond if he texted or called. It made sense at the time but the last police contact advised me to change my phone number and that is what I did.

Is that why you keep his number?
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Well if I get a call or txt it automatically shows the number of the caller and I know his number by sight.

But I'm glad I know it at least, I just hope he doesn't get a new phone. When he met me he got a new one so I have both his old and new number.
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Sociopath - totally - I have been in a relationship with one and I had to move to get away - now he's "detained" for a long time so I can rest easy. I thought back last month and realized I have had these weirdos at various degrees harass me throughout my life - but I was a really attractive girl when younger, not sure if that has to do with it, and I was often single so I guess they thought I was an easy target. Sometimes they would be neighbors who'd leave me notes and peep in my windows, or someone who would see me on the street and follow me and chase me after saying something strange to me - that started when I was nine. One thing I have learned is how to tell immediately if someone is a creeper, there are so many signs that it stands out like a sore thumb now - they cannot hide it long if they are one of "those" types - women just need to be taught how to spot one a mile away - many of us are not and we find out the harder way, many lucky to make it out alive or unharmed. Although, there is the occasional guy who seems really nice and normal and then can flip on you after you marry them - those are the worst.
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Do how would you say you can spot one now?

I would never have thought for the life of me he'd be so weird and I completely understand where you are coming from with the flipping out thing. I wonder why they hide their true self for so long or how they manage it?

I think I am quite naive for my age, I just assume people are never that bad and try my best to see the good side. But this guy seemed rotten as time went on. Like his soul was totally messed up. Thing with stalkers is you learn the hard way I suppose.
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OP sociopaths, stalkers, creeps can be anyone dressed in Grandma's clothes hiding behind a mask. I had one who was a therapist. I'm still afraid of him. I reported him but nothing was done about it.
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A therapist? That's sick. You just cant trust anyone these days. Well this guy who was annoying me, he was Mr multiple personality, talk about masks.
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I gave you my solution.

You are wasting time discussing this.
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Not really I find it insightful.
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Yes report him to police.
If he is a pathalogical liar, he is a dangerous and scary person
Who could kill you.

29 stab wounds, bullet to the head and a columbian
Necklace comes to mind.

Report him now.
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Yes report him to police.
If he is a pathalogical liar, he is a dangerous and scary person
Who could kill you.

29 stab wounds, bullet to the head and a columbian
Necklace comes to mind.

Report him now.
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Have done. Thanks
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How are you doing, op?
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he iz jeelouz of you
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