Being stalked

I'm not very young but still I think it makes no difference.

I cant afford an investigator but I will keep the things he's sent me that I haven't deleted as evidence.

OP, I once had this old hs classmate play mind games and leave cryptic messages with me on facebook. I really liked the guy as a friend only. I am married and thought he could respect that. Long story short, I trusted him and later found out he had lied to me and had other mutual friends playing in on his mind games with me. He even posted stuff on amother forum after I left a call out thread telling him off. The entire situation broke my heart, since I really liked him as a friend. The only way it all stopped (the mind games) was I had to block him on facebook and never register on a forum with a user name. To this day I do not know why he wanted to hurt me emotionally, as I only wanted the best for him. As things got stranger on FB, I realized there was no other answer, he was a psychologically sick person and wanted to hurt me for some reason. He had given me a gift in hs and asked me out, at that time I declined. When we reconnected, I think he just wanted to seek some sort of revenge by pretending to like me again. It was very strange and I am very afraid of him to this day, I worry that he will physically hurt me and he only lives a few towns away.

Be careful, follow your gut instincts. I really liked this person, and wanted his friendship, but he was a total liar. I know this because a true friend would have never did what he did, that's not friendship; lying to someone.

Wow sorry to hear about all that. I did suspect he was probably laughing about me behind my back as later on it was obvious he wasn't genuine.

Maybe it was revenge on his part with your case, I did wonder if it was the same for me like maybe I did something. But I think some people are just horrible and there's nothing more to it. I think I was falling in love with him at one point but something just said there was something wrong and I came to my senses.

It just all gives me the creeps. I've heard nothing yet so maybe he really has gone. I don't want ti to get to the point like what your sister had. I feel creeped out enough as it is. Your sister must have been through hell.

Yeah, I think it can be bittersweet to reconnect with someone you once liked and perhaps he just hated me for rejecting him, idk. Truth is, I really liked him at first and was overjoyed to be friends with him, then one day he just jeckyled on me and changed. Oh well, live and learn, its prolly best we never became good friends, I value my marriage and would not want to have been tempted to cheat. :)

Thanks for the link I have been googling this personality disorder and added it to my bookmarks.

Sociopath - totally - I have been in a relationship with one and I had to move to get away - now he's "detained" for a long time so I can rest easy. I thought back last month and realized I have had these weirdos at various degrees harass me throughout my life - but I was a really attractive girl when younger, not sure if that has to do with it, and I was often single so I guess they thought I was an easy target. Sometimes they would be neighbors who'd leave me notes and peep in my windows, or someone who would see me on the street and follow me and chase me after saying something strange to me - that started when I was nine. One thing I have learned is how to tell immediately if someone is a creeper, there are so many signs that it stands out like a sore thumb now - they cannot hide it long if they are one of "those" types - women just need to be taught how to spot one a mile away - many of us are not and we find out the harder way, many lucky to make it out alive or unharmed. Although, there is the occasional guy who seems really nice and normal and then can flip on you after you marry them - those are the worst.

I ran into this situation last summer at a concert. The creeper made friends with my boyfriend, saw problems in our relationship, then proceeded to move in. We only knew this person a few weeks, bf and I live in different towns, and creeper wanted to move into my apartment building and even hinted at moving in with me and wanting to be the father figure my daughter never had!

I told him I was in love with my b/f and definately not interested thats when it got real bad. Cussed at me, threatened me, professed undying love to me, begged for forgiveness, threatened suicide. I got the cops involved right away. He didnt know he was on speaker phone or that I was listening when the cop called and he was claiming he still loved me and he was sorry... WTF?!

Total psycopath. It ended my relationship with my boyfriend (I still dont know what happened with that b/c they were still friends when I was calling the cops on that sob) and after six months, Im still paranoid about the situation.

I do know a few things, you cant reason or argue with a person like this and the sooner you end ALL COMMUNICATIONS the better. Its just sad not being able to let my guard down after all this time and I can relate with what you're going through at the moment. There is some good advice on here but I would suggest to end any communication mostly because that is what a cop is going to ask... [why did you stay in touch with this person?] and make it look like its your fault.

Good luck, OP, I hope you find your way out of this aweful situation.

He must have really liked you then. Maybe take it as a twisted compliment although you could have done without the hassle?

Do how would you say you can spot one now?

I would never have thought for the life of me he'd be so weird and I completely understand where you are coming from with the flipping out thing. I wonder why they hide their true self for so long or how they manage it?

I think I am quite naive for my age, I just assume people are never that bad and try my best to see the good side. But this guy seemed rotten as time went on. Like his soul was totally messed up. Thing with stalkers is you learn the hard way I suppose.

Well still no contact from him yet (touch wood) so all is well but I do feel so wary now and feel nervous checking my phone for txts or missed calls.

He sounded crazy, your nut job. Mine was always trying to make contact and have the last word then suddenly he was in some dire life or death situation. Its so draining, these assholes know a nice person when they see one and try their best to kill them of any worth inside.

Welcome. I've been scaring myself thanks to you looking up all sorts of weird mental disorders... :P

"Well still no contact from him yet (touch wood) so all is well but I do feel so wary now and feel nervous checking my phone for txts or missed calls."



I didnt delete this persons phone number as I explained to the last police contact I had, I wanted to know what this creep was up to and if I could get any forewarning he was coming after me, I'd know. I just knew I wouldnt respond if he texted or called. It made sense at the time but the last police contact advised me to change my phone number and that is what I did.

Is that why you keep his number?

These is one of the creepier ones I've seen, there are others that try to represent visual hallucinations as well.

Warning it's freaky.

tell him you have aids and you just shit your diaper and that you are a lesbian and have no interest in him.

Its because you both use text messages, it is not real communication

actually he just really loathed me. He played so many games and had his friends pretend to be my friends, it was bizarre. Looking back is was nothing short of bullying, they all made fun of me and laughed at me. And to think in the beginning, I trusted him, I actually admired him. I was so wrong and that was the scary part, being wrong and not seeing how evil he was. I guess I was naive too, I never wanted to believe someone could be so mean or that he was not what he presented himself to be.

That was years ago, I am much wiser now.

That... Is... HORRIBLE!

Had to turn it off after a bit. Can't imagine what it would be like if you couldn't turn it off. No wonder schizophrenia has such a high suicide rate.

Well I went to the police station today. Gave so and so's details and said I haven't heard anything since the other day but I just want it on record that I was harassed in case.
I got a call from the police before. I've been told that if he attempts to make contact with me I should call them right away and not to approach or make any attempt to contact him. Apparently his wife placed a restraining order on him and he has a history of violence (HE'S MARRIED! HE SAID HE NEVER MARRIED, HE SAID HE WAS NEVER IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW!)

He told me they were living together for a while (NOT MARRIED) and she was crazy because her ex broke her ribs and fractured her skull and it made her hate men and she started abusing him! That fucking piece of shit I bet he did it TO HER. And he said his ex's daughter loved him to bits... yeah ... right.

I bet is he was the type who had AIDS he's enjoy spreading it about if he could.

What a fucking creep. I just feel sick to my stomach.

OP sociopaths, stalkers, creeps can be anyone dressed in Grandma's clothes hiding behind a mask. I had one who was a therapist. I'm still afraid of him. I reported him but nothing was done about it.

Well if I get a call or txt it automatically shows the number of the caller and I know his number by sight.

But I'm glad I know it at least, I just hope he doesn't get a new phone. When he met me he got a new one so I have both his old and new number.

A therapist? That's sick. You just cant trust anyone these days. Well this guy who was annoying me, he was Mr multiple personality, talk about masks.

Not really I find it insightful.

Yes report him to police.
If he is a pathalogical liar, he is a dangerous and scary person
Who could kill you.

29 stab wounds, bullet to the head and a columbian
Necklace comes to mind.

Report him now.

Have done. Thanks

How are you doing, op?

Bah hahhahahhaa

Take some photos about him.

Stalk him back...with a samuraj sword.

it's quite simple really. walk into an area more dangerous to your stalker than to yourself. works in computer games.