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I'm having an affair at work. I've never done anything like this before. I dont know how to feel about it.

Yea. im a dick, prolly. And stupid. I have been lonely in my relationship for soo long. It is sexless, but my so is a good friend and I love her.

I feel alive with this new girl. I thought I was too old for that. I havent had sex in years despite being in a committed relationship.

Im probably going to ruin everything.
Im going to continue anyway. Maybe I want everything to come apart????
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Sounds like the old, change of life thing to me. But, yes, you are going to cause you relationship to go south with your, so called, SO.
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Are you pretty sure of that, or speculating based on what he's said? Isn't there a chance he might have decided to cut all connections and try to make a new life somewhere else, and he might someday let you know?
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I really hope so.....
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I do too. Knowing or suspecting someone taking their life is one of the hardest things to deal with. Always thinking, maybe I should have said...., or maybe I shouldn't have said.... Or, I could have done this, should have done that. Its never ending. The undeserved guilt friends and family feel are lifelong and it doesn't end.

It sounds like David knew that and was trying to let you know in advance by letting you know you wouldn't be seeing him, that he had plans to disappear, one way or the other.
Trying to spare you from the undeserved guilt. I hope it worked.

You were a friend to him. Your family accepted him. What a blessing you must have been for him. If he disappeared to start over, you'll hear from him again. Someday, when least expected. 8)
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I'm having an affair at work. I've never done anything like this before. I dont know how to feel about it.

Yea. im a dick, prolly. And stupid. I have been lonely in my relationship for soo long. It is sexless, but my so is a good friend and I love her.

I feel alive with this new girl. I thought I was too old for that. I havent had sex in years despite being in a committed relationship.

Im probably going to ruin everything.
Im going to continue anyway. Maybe I want everything to come apart????
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PS I just survived stage 3 cancer. I think Im fucked up mentally. No excuse, i know.
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You're not mental, just a jackass for cheating on your "so". If she truly was, you would have done her a favor by ending it.

I personally would not fuck up my long term relationship for sex with a younger woman and believe me, it's not like I couldn't
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I hear that. I have been trying to get my SO to commit for over five years and she keeps making excuses. She is waiting for something better. I think my mistake is that I have been too easy going about it. It really is killing me. The girl at work isnt that much younger than me, really. I have been struggling with my SO stating that she wants to get married before having sex, but continually avoids all discussion about marriage. She told me last month, while drunk, that I was "never gonna get it". I think I just gave up. Then, this girl shows up.....

I suppose the moral thing to do would be to just end it with the SO. But she really is a great person, just overly uptight about sex.
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Are you pretty sure of that, or speculating based on what he's said? Isn't there a chance he might have decided to cut all connections and try to make a new life somewhere else, and he might someday let you know?
 Quoting: Nine's


I really hope so.....
 Quoting: CHL2T


I do too. Knowing or suspecting someone taking their life is one of the hardest things to deal with. Always thinking, maybe I should have said...., or maybe I shouldn't have said.... Or, I could have done this, should have done that. Its never ending. The undeserved guilt friends and family feel are lifelong and it doesn't end.

It sounds like David knew that and was trying to let you know in advance by letting you know you wouldn't be seeing him, that he had plans to disappear, one way or the other.
Trying to spare you from the undeserved guilt. I hope it worked.

You were a friend to him. Your family accepted him. What a blessing you must have been for him. If he disappeared to start over, you'll hear from him again. Someday, when least expected. 8)
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THIS^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ DF
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Desert Fox,

"Too" means "also" or "additionally."

Is "to" versus "too" really TOO difficult?
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Desert Fox,

"Too" means "also" or "additionally."

Is "to" versus "too" really TOO difficult?
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lolsign Actually, I know that well, I just get sloppy too often.
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Bad things happen to good people because God knows it makes us stronger, take heart, this world is but a blink of the eye, stay strong, take each day at a time, things have a way of working themselves out, don't let yourselves get bogged down in the past and future, focus on today, stay positive and be thankful for what you do have, step back and asses the situation, the answer is often staring you right in the face, God bless!
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Bad things happen to good people because God knows it makes us stronger, take heart, this world is but a blink of the eye, stay strong, take each day at a time, things have a way of working themselves out, don't let yourselves get bogged down in the past and future, focus on today, stay positive and be thankful for what you do have, step back and asses the situation, the answer is often staring you right in the face, God bless!
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This is true.
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How do you let a best friend go?
Here's my story, please bear with me, it's painfull

One of my best friends left us last week, but not in the way you would think. He told me in not so many words that he is leaving and I will most likely never see him again......

This person had been molested as a child, beaten, ridiculed and persecuted for his parents beliefs as well as living in the "hood" his entire young adulthood. To say that he did what it took to survive would be an understatement of the highest degree. This person was so afraid to tell me of his child/ young adulthood and what he had to do, that he though I would be scared of him and this among all other things weighed very heavy on him. Of course I never felt any fear of this person as he was/ is the most gentle, caring and emotional person that I had ever met. Me and my family accepted him with all of his warts and damage in hopes of helping him see that with love and light, anything can be overcome.

While playing in our band, he and the replacement bass player, hooked up and seemed as though they were going for the long haul and I had never seen him so happy. They bought a house and lived together for 8 years. She decided one day that he wasn't taking care of her the way she felt that she needed to be and left for another man. This was the final straw for this person as throughout his life he had been jilted, screwed, and left high and dry over and over again.

In the smoking thread, I wrote of our last night together and when I say It was tough to hang out knowing he was leaving, that is an understatement....

David, if you are out there, just remember that we love you and we are still here for you.....tissue
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:Sadone: How did David leave you?
 Quoting: Nine's

Thanks for jumping in to assist.hf DF
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My pleasure DF. It's so hard to lose someone we care for. Sounds like maybe David decided he didn't want to live anymore. Hope I'm wrong. Sometimes it helps to just talk.
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Thank you Desert Fox I will need this thread.
Going to sleep soon very tired.
I will post tomorrow. Bless you hugs
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We will be here when you need us, promise. I try to come here daily, and another caring person named, Junkyard lily, is also available daily. She is kind, understanding and will be very helpful to you I am sure. Thanks for coming here. hf DF
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Thank you, I will try to get in here as much as possible, for sure. This weekend is busy, but I'm stealing a little time to stop in. hf
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Almost everyone is troubled by either family disputes, finical distress, friend betrayal, loss of close family or friends. Most of us hold it in, or confide in a very close friend. If you don't have anyone, do it here. You will be shocked at the response you get. There will be the kooks as well, just ignore them, I will delete them as I see them. I know you are out there, come on in and let it go. hf DF
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IDK, lately I feel great and everything is as it should be.

no complaints, life it good.

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How do you let a best friend go?
Here's my story, please bear with me, it's painfull

One of my best friends left us last week, but not in the way you would think. He told me in not so many words that he is leaving and I will most likely never see him again......

This person had been molested as a child, beaten, ridiculed and persecuted for his parents beliefs as well as living in the "hood" his entire young adulthood. To say that he did what it took to survive would be an understatement of the highest degree. This person was so afraid to tell me of his child/ young adulthood and what he had to do, that he though I would be scared of him and this among all other things weighed very heavy on him. Of course I never felt any fear of this person as he was/ is the most gentle, caring and emotional person that I had ever met. Me and my family accepted him with all of his warts and damage in hopes of helping him see that with love and light, anything can be overcome.

While playing in our band, he and the replacement bass player, hooked up and seemed as though they were going for the long haul and I had never seen him so happy. They bought a house and lived together for 8 years. She decided one day that he wasn't taking care of her the way she felt that she needed to be and left for another man. This was the final straw for this person as throughout his life he had been jilted, screwed, and left high and dry over and over again.

In the smoking thread, I wrote of our last night together and when I say It was tough to hang out knowing he was leaving, that is an understatement....

David, if you are out there, just remember that we love you and we are still here for you.....tissue
 Quoting: CHL2T


Sorry to hear you are going through this, CHL2T. hugs I agree very much with what DF and Nine's said about your situation. In addition, the only thing I can add is that those who come from abusive childhoods can often have trust issues and unstable interpersonal boundaries. They can pull "disappearing acts" to regather their thoughts, and try to put their energy into starting over. They can have a hard time sharing their problems with others, because at an early age they learned to only depend on themselves and be their own counselor. This behavior to others around them can be upsetting and leave others puzzled and worried. I would say his "core" was hurt by something and he is probably dissociating and trying to start over because it is how he knows how to deal. Just send him your love and understanding...I'm sure he will feel it, and I hope you will hear from him again when he has things straightened out for himself and feels more centered. hf
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Almost everyone is troubled by either family disputes, finical distress, friend betrayal, loss of close family or friends. Most of us hold it in, or confide in a very close friend. If you don't have anyone, do it here. You will be shocked at the response you get. There will be the kooks as well, just ignore them, I will delete them as I see them. I know you are out there, come on in and let it go. hf DF
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IDK, lately I feel great and everything is as it should be.

no complaints, life it good.

hf
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I'm having an affair at work. I've never done anything like this before. I dont know how to feel about it.

Yea. im a dick, prolly. And stupid. I have been lonely in my relationship for soo long. It is sexless, but my so is a good friend and I love her.

I feel alive with this new girl. I thought I was too old for that. I havent had sex in years despite being in a committed relationship.

Im probably going to ruin everything.
Im going to continue anyway. Maybe I want everything to come apart????
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Sounds like the old, change of life thing to me. But, yes, you are going to cause you relationship to go south with your, so called, SO.
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Agreed!
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How do you let a best friend go?
Here's my story, please bear with me, it's painfull

One of my best friends left us last week, but not in the way you would think. He told me in not so many words that he is leaving and I will most likely never see him again......

This person had been molested as a child, beaten, ridiculed and persecuted for his parents beliefs as well as living in the "hood" his entire young adulthood. To say that he did what it took to survive would be an understatement of the highest degree. This person was so afraid to tell me of his child/ young adulthood and what he had to do, that he though I would be scared of him and this among all other things weighed very heavy on him. Of course I never felt any fear of this person as he was/ is the most gentle, caring and emotional person that I had ever met. Me and my family accepted him with all of his warts and damage in hopes of helping him see that with love and light, anything can be overcome.

While playing in our band, he and the replacement bass player, hooked up and seemed as though they were going for the long haul and I had never seen him so happy. They bought a house and lived together for 8 years. She decided one day that he wasn't taking care of her the way she felt that she needed to be and left for another man. This was the final straw for this person as throughout his life he had been jilted, screwed, and left high and dry over and over again.

In the smoking thread, I wrote of our last night together and when I say It was tough to hang out knowing he was leaving, that is an understatement....

David, if you are out there, just remember that we love you and we are still here for you.....tissue
 Quoting: CHL2T


Sorry to hear you are going through this, CHL2T. hugs I agree very much with what DF and Nine's said about your situation. In addition, the only thing I can add is that those who come from abusive childhoods can often have trust issues and unstable interpersonal boundaries. They can pull "disappearing acts" to regather their thoughts, and try to put their energy into starting over. They can have a hard time sharing their problems with others, because at an early age they learned to only depend on themselves and be their own counselor. This behavior to others around them can be upsetting and leave others puzzled and worried. I would say his "core" was hurt by something and he is probably dissociating and trying to start over because it is how he knows how to deal. Just send him your love and understanding...I'm sure he will feel it, and I hope you will hear from him again when he has things straightened out for himself and feels more centered. hf
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Thanks, I sure hope that he can find his way...... And yes, this is a recurring theme in his life but this seems much different and I don't think I will ever hear from him again.....
Behind every great fortune, there is a crime ~ Balzac

He was and was not, He was encompassed in the name yet not encompassed in the name, having as yet no name other than the desire to be called by a name.... ~Umberto Eco
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Almost everyone is troubled by either family disputes, finical distress, friend betrayal, loss of close family or friends. Most of us hold it in, or confide in a very close friend. If you don't have anyone, do it here. You will be shocked at the response you get. There will be the kooks as well, just ignore them, I will delete them as I see them. I know you are out there, come on in and let it go. hf DF
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IDK, lately I feel great and everything is as it should be.

no complaints, life it good.

hf
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Good deal Daisy, happy for ya. DF
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Im scared, depressed, lonely,confused and so many other things.
I thought finally finally i had found a great guy. And he is but he just cant see that hes always overreacting to small issues.
We talked so much and he said so many things and promises and understood what I was going thru. Then he didnt even remember us and what we talked about and his promises.
He blames me for most things and ignores the fact that he would get over upset and they were issues already talked about.
Anyway, I still dont know if we are okay or not. It seems we kinda are but I feel we may never be from his perspective.
I found out I'm pregnant. He doesnt know, I havent said a word to anyone.
I love him and willing to try but he seems to play games.
I hate games and drama.
I have little kids and he has none. I dont have a problem with having the baby. I love my kids more than anything.

Do I keep trying or give up. I'm moving pretty soon and he could care less really. I'm getting too old for this crap.

I really dont want to tell him at this point. I'm able to support myself and the babies and about ready to say maybe we should just forget about being together or trying if theres not enough interest on his part.

Help.
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Im scared, depressed, lonely,confused and so many other things.
I thought finally finally i had found a great guy. And he is but he just cant see that hes always overreacting to small issues.
We talked so much and he said so many things and promises and understood what I was going thru. Then he didnt even remember us and what we talked about and his promises.
He blames me for most things and ignores the fact that he would get over upset and they were issues already talked about.
Anyway, I still dont know if we are okay or not. It seems we kinda are but I feel we may never be from his perspective.
I found out I'm pregnant. He doesnt know, I havent said a word to anyone.
I love him and willing to try but he seems to play games.
I hate games and drama.
I have little kids and he has none. I dont have a problem with having the baby. I love my kids more than anything.

Do I keep trying or give up. I'm moving pretty soon and he could care less really. I'm getting too old for this crap.

I really dont want to tell him at this point. I'm able to support myself and the babies and about ready to say maybe we should just forget about being together or trying if theres not enough interest on his part.

Help.
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Wow, ok 8512, what a lot you're going through!

The first thing I'd say, the most important thing, is to take care of your health and the baby you are carrying, and the other children you have. That's first and foremost. How far along are you?

Second, try to stay calm and level-headed about things. Having been preggo myself, I remember what it does to us as ladies. I am not saying you are overreacting, but I am saying...well...we cry a lot...need to cry, and feel overwhelmed by it all, sometimes. <3 How were your other pregnancies for you? I cried once because I walked into a furniture store with my mother, and I saw a plaid couch. It was so unattractive, and I felt so badly for it, that I started weeping. Yes, it was a couch.

I am not trying to make light of your ordeal at all, but remember, you will feel better the more you feel secure and loved at this stage, you may need even more than normal. hugs

If those needs are being met (which it sounds like they aren't completely right now), you will feel insecure emotionally, and it may make you want to do things like pick up and leave.

I believe that the father should know about the child you are carrying. Are you worried about his reaction? Can you give examples of how you feel you were let down by this relationship? Were there specific promises he made? Do you feel he does not want to commit to you?

Love, smiles, and hugs, and keep your chin up, momma. hugs
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Im scared, depressed, lonely,confused and so many other things.
I thought finally finally i had found a great guy. And he is but he just cant see that hes always overreacting to small issues.
We talked so much and he said so many things and promises and understood what I was going thru. Then he didnt even remember us and what we talked about and his promises.
He blames me for most things and ignores the fact that he would get over upset and they were issues already talked about.
Anyway, I still dont know if we are okay or not. It seems we kinda are but I feel we may never be from his perspective.
I found out I'm pregnant. He doesnt know, I havent said a word to anyone.
I love him and willing to try but he seems to play games.
I hate games and drama.
I have little kids and he has none. I dont have a problem with having the baby. I love my kids more than anything.

Do I keep trying or give up. I'm moving pretty soon and he could care less really. I'm getting too old for this crap.

I really dont want to tell him at this point. I'm able to support myself and the babies and about ready to say maybe we should just forget about being together or trying if theres not enough interest on his part.

Help.
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Not to be rude, because I do sympathize with you, but you just said you are to old for drama. Your getting pregnant by someone as you describe, does not show good judgement on your part. Beyond that, I think you already know he is not going to change, and this love thing is one sided. Your best bet may be to go it alone and raise your child without the drama that is sure to be. Just try harder next time to analyze your relationship before jumping in so deep. I wish you the best with the new human you are bringing into this world. hf DF
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Im scared, depressed, lonely,confused and so many other things.
I thought finally finally i had found a great guy. And he is but he just cant see that hes always overreacting to small issues.
We talked so much and he said so many things and promises and understood what I was going thru. Then he didnt even remember us and what we talked about and his promises.
He blames me for most things and ignores the fact that he would get over upset and they were issues already talked about.
Anyway, I still dont know if we are okay or not. It seems we kinda are but I feel we may never be from his perspective.
I found out I'm pregnant. He doesnt know, I havent said a word to anyone.
I love him and willing to try but he seems to play games.
I hate games and drama.
I have little kids and he has none. I dont have a problem with having the baby. I love my kids more than anything.

Do I keep trying or give up. I'm moving pretty soon and he could care less really. I'm getting too old for this crap.

I really dont want to tell him at this point. I'm able to support myself and the babies and about ready to say maybe we should just forget about being together or trying if theres not enough interest on his part.

Help.
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Wow, ok 8512, what a lot you're going through!

The first thing I'd say, the most important thing, is to take care of your health and the baby you are carrying, and the other children you have. That's first and foremost. How far along are you?

Second, try to stay calm and level-headed about things. Having been preggo myself, I remember what it does to us as ladies. I am not saying you are overreacting, but I am saying...well...we cry a lot...need to cry, and feel overwhelmed by it all, sometimes. <3 How were your other pregnancies for you? I cried once because I walked into a furniture store with my mother, and I saw a plaid couch. It was so unattractive, and I felt so badly for it, that I started weeping. Yes, it was a couch.

I am not trying to make light of your ordeal at all, but remember, you will feel better the more you feel secure and loved at this stage, you may need even more than normal. hugs

If those needs are being met (which it sounds like they aren't completely right now), you will feel insecure emotionally, and it may make you want to do things like pick up and leave.

I believe that the father should know about the child you are carrying. Are you worried about his reaction? Can you give examples of how you feel you were let down by this relationship? Were there specific promises he made? Do you feel he does not want to commit to you?

Love, smiles, and hugs, and keep your chin up, momma. hugs
 Quoting: Junkyard Lily

Wow, great post of caring and understanding. As a male, I often fail as you will see, so I am lucky to have you on board. hf DF
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Thanks, respect to ya, DF!

Hope our poster is doing ok, best wishes that she comes to a personal resolution that is best for all concerned.
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We all have things we feel we have no one to talk to about. Sometimes it just helps to unload it to help free your mind and heart. The longer we hold things inside us, the more stressed and depressed we become. This is a "no fault" thread, someone else is, or have, gone thru what you are struggling with and will probably comment back to you. JUST DUMP IT HERE. DF
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I really love a girl. And i let her know how much i love her. And she freaked out and stopped talking to me.

but i cant stop thinking about her.

everywhere i go the universe reminds me of her....just the other day practical magic was on tv.

i miss her.

I know tons of people have tons of problems and its like this problem is nothing compared to most issues, but man.. to me.. i miss this girl. a lot.

And i don't know if she will ever want to be with me and that scares the crap out of me...

i came here for this person...

but the thing is, i have no power here.. i cant snap my finger and immediately have her fall in love with me... this is all about free will...

so i pray.
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dont attach yourself too much to that... dark energies would gladly use images of that girl to lure you in!

Be careful! the more you attach yourself to very strong unfulfilled emotions, the more you expose yourself to be catched by a wise fishermen.
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Thanks, respect to ya, DF!

Hope our poster is doing ok, best wishes that she comes to a personal resolution that is best for all concerned.
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So do I hope her situation resolves for the better, no matter if it includes the father or not. Sometimes the stress is less and happiness is found by disengaging the current situation. DF
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Im flooded in..again...major flooding 4 times in three years and way too many minor floods to count

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Im flooded in..again...major flooding 4 times in three years and way too many minor floods to count

Bah Humbug
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Darn, I hope you have laid in supplies to make it til the water goes down. I hate to be trapped. Two years ago I was trapped in a small village for two weeks because they closed the flood gates leaving town. Couldn't wait to drive out the gates when they removed them, even tho I didn't need to go anywhere.
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We all have things we feel we have no one to talk to about. Sometimes it just helps to unload it to help free your mind and heart. The longer we hold things inside us, the more stressed and depressed we become. This is a "no fault" thread, someone else is, or have, gone thru what you are struggling with and will probably comment back to you. JUST DUMP IT HERE. DF
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I want to move closer to my 7 year old son who lives 3 states away. I saved up almost 7 thousand to get there and stay above water while going to school. I also happened to find a great girl in my original state, we seem to be a perfect match. What the hell to do
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 Quoting: Junkyard Lily


Nice to see you. Just wanted you to know you're still in my thoughts. hugs