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What to do with out-of-control 19 year old girl?
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This is going to sound random.. But the best way to deal with it, is to not deal with it. I grew up in a household where my parents knew everything we did. When I went to college, I drank, did every drug, smoked,partied like a rock star with rock stars... and the more people wanted or tried to make me stop, the harder I pushed.
Now, a decade later, I'm still a rock star but I'm more like Bono than Jagger, minus the hippy crap. I never regret one thing I did, had done to me, or put inside me. They are memories made, but I not reckless. Poking the bear can have devastating effects.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30397426 She also has issues. Her issues could be very profound, so tred lightly. I had issues, that I never shared with anyone. That I delt with personally for many years. I am a very strong person. This is a tricky one, and I hate to tell you... your damned if you do... your damned if you dont.. there is no way to win this one. You need to treat her like a deer in the forest. Let her come to you, and never spook the deer. If you do, you may never see her again. Thank you and everyone else for the advice. Everyone seems to be suggesting that we just need to wait for her to figure it out on her own. This is correct and the same advice I would give if I was asked, but it is sooooo hard to accept this when you love the person and know they have so much potential. Is there anything else to force her into treatment so we dont have to risk her safety/health/life. No Alcoholics and Depressives dont cure themselves, im now certain like its obvious with so many she isnt ready for college yet. Its the same with so many people, theyre still too immature. Alot of people dont grow up until theyre older still than even 20, I was a bright idiot in school and shouldnt have started until 3 years later, again this is obvious in many people. Now wait a minute. Is this about she's in very major peril or is this about disappointment that little ms. perfect wasn't so perfect after all? Because a lot of people drink a LOT at that age. Hell, I was in a booze haze from age 16 to 28 and I am now very successful and all that good stuff. If you really feel her life is at risk, then parents should go to court and get her declared incompetent and take over. If she's just partying and not fulfilling the dreams her parents had for her, they should back off.
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