What to do with out-of-control 19 year old girl?

sounds like drugs,, but only she will have to decide if she wants to live or die.

Martial Arts! Discipline!

Thank you very much. We have brought things like this up to her but of course, "She doesnt have a problem" (In her opinion)

This breaks my heart. Is there ANYTHING you would have done differently in hindsight?


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I would've gone to doctor visits with her and made sure she got the right medication. My belief system at the time told me that medication was wrong.

I'm pretty sure she had bipolar disorder, I suspected it, But Couldn't comprehend it at the time

I would've made a greater effort to get her out of this environment and into a new environment. At the time I didn't feel it was right to pass her off to friends or family where she would possibly Create havoc with their lives

There are a million ...if I would've only done this

drinking and such usually does denote a more serious problem, could be a simple as a fear of passing into adulthood, not wanting to lose the ability to be irresponsible...as for the whole zombie status she gets when she drinks as well as the kind of loopy behavior that comes with well that could be the clozopane...im assuming that if she is not taking it for a mental disorder reason, she is epileptic? if so that in itself can be troublesome...either way best of luck, feel for ya

Thank you Dr. Acula Sorry I cannot write a PM to you but I had a question. At what point does the person decide they want to change their life and leave their demons in the past? What was it that changed the person into deciding they wanted something more out of life and that they needed to heal and move on? What events or emotions can inspire this change? I need some kind of catalyst to spark the change because she doesnt want it for herself yet, but Im sure one day she will wish she had never gone through this.

It's never too late for an abortion...

oh and so for what to do, yeah sometimes it just people learning the hard way, could go for an intervention of sorts, tell her how much she means to yall might show her she's got people in her corner

She does know this, and it is of no importance to her because she has always had it. She is completely selfish and self centered right now, our thoughts and feelings are unheard.

Have her do marijuana instead. It could be vaporized or ingested. The problem is anxiety. She probably has a very strong case of anxiety and the only thing that can help her with the pain is a sedative type drug. She needs to be careful into doing heavy drugs like heroin. In my case, I often feel depressed and with a lot of anxiety if my life is not going alright. To ease the pain I smoke weed. I don't intend to use it for too long though, as it does have its harmful effects but not as bad as alcohol can be. Until my life gets more stabilize I'll be using a crutch that is marijuana, because its bad enough to worry about stuff and its even worse when the anxiety wont let you sleep or function properly.

are you a family member or close family friend? An ex bf cuz Im getting some crazy fibes here that do not feel right about your concern.This is her family's problem and they should be the ones handling it.You keep saying her family, her friends wouldnt her friends be your friends too If you are a friend? If your just a busy body who wants to gossip about your friends kid then take that up with them but honestly YOU cant help her only God and herself can.

No, sorry. I do understand what you are saying. It's something that all parents go thru, at some point in their lives. The process of 'letting go'. Letting their 'child' grow up. This means the process between you and him/her, of course. It also means the mental process that you as a parent go thru, and allowing him/her the same mental process of letting go.

Again, I do understand what you are saying. In my mind, my youngest will always be my baby. But he is in his twenties now. Altho my youngest son, he hasn't been 'my child' since he turned 13. I started the 'letting go' process when he really was 'my child', knowing it would be very hard, and it was. It was excruciating to look at him, see in my minds eye 'my baby', yet realize that he was growing into a young man, now a young adult man. He has become A MAN. And I had to allow that. It's what every parent has to go thru, whether they realize it or not.

When he married, I didn't say to his bride, "Be kind to him, he's my child and will always be my child". Nope... I did say to her, "Be kind to him, he's my son and will always be my son".

We have to let our children grow up. The kindest thing we can do for our children is to 'let them go' early on, guide their steps as children/teenagers/young adults.

Letting my sons become the men they are has been the hardest thing for me to do. I only think of them as 'my children' when I look into their eyes and see in their faces the lil ones they used to be. I do that privately, most of the time.

Although I did whisper to my youngest son, while we danced at his wedding... "You'll always be my baby". And he grinned. But whispered back, "Thank you for helping me grow into a man".

She's my little sister.

Ok op
There is a YouTube video about a girl who talks about bipolar depression and she can't even talk she uses cards to say what she wants to say you've got to Google it because she said the only thing that helped her was her sister! Maybe you're the one

You have 3 sons correct? If someone were to ask you how many "kids" or "children" you have, would you correct them and say "I have no children, but I have 3 adult sons" or would you simply say "3". Because I have always referred to someones son or daughter as their child no matter what age..

Video her when she is drunk and o longer in control. Talk to her and show her the footage when she sobers up best time is when she wakes up hung over. Sometimes you have to video them to show they get more drunk than they think they do.

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Yes, 3 sons. :) If someone asks me how many kids I have, I say I have 3 sons. No, I don't go thru the whole explanation, lol.

It wasn't until it 'clicked' for me that my sons were growing up into men, that I was able not to call them my kids, or refer to them as my kids.

Well.. I'm not saying my way is the only way to do it. I'm just thinking that the 'letting go' process that I had to get thru with my sons, would have been a hella lot harder to do if I was also referring to any of them as my 'child'.

Yea the faces she makes are crazy.. Just a constant blank stare, then all the sudden she focuses on you and stares super intense, like uncomfortable to make eye contact and her face contorts and she makes a weird, superficial grin. Then off into space and talkin about complete non-sense. I swear someone could think she is possessed. And she wanders around aimlessly like this..

What to do with out-of-control 19 year old child?

The above makes no sense tard.

As her older brother, hopefully she will listen to you, even if she hasn't listened to the parents.

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Oh god.. I explained why I put it that way a few times but w/e Ill change it for you.

You said she takes Clonazepam...and binge drinks and becomes a zombie. Meds and alcohol don't mix.

Just wait until she shits out a couple of bastard children.

Mark my words.

check yo inbox

Drunk driving deaths, family abuse, addiction, yea causes a lot of problems.

first things first.. you have to stuff her like a christmas ham first and foremost.. now we get to the part about helping save her life... mmmm.. i got nothing for now.. if anything just make her fall in love and show her that there is a reason to live maybe? you seem to be obsessed with her then make a decent woman out of her after you stuff her hard that is..

cos at 19... a person is the farthest thing from an adult you can be. they think they are grown...

"Babies brain and an old mans heart"

this song describes it pretty good... it was my theme song when I was 18/19

i just read the thread and take back this comment.. man if shes your younger sister you are gonna have to sacrifice your life to save her.. but are you willing to do such a thing? cause some broken things are just not worth fixing if you know what i mean?? either way i suggest you take this one up with the lord..