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I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?

 
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I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
I'm 25 now and I don't have a girlfriend, rather, a girl whom I can consider my close friend.

The reason for this is my shyness and my introvert nature. I can talk to girls while texting, or chatting online but when it comes to talking with them face to face, I am not very good at that. Some girls even find me "dumb" for this reason.

Infact, I have liked a couple of girls but I never had the guts to ask them out. I have always had the fear that if I ask them out, and I am unable to talk interesting stuff with them, they'll find me even dumber than what I actually am.

I am not sure if this is some kind of social phobia or something like that.

I was just wondering, can a shy guy like me ever have a good life ? Will I ever get a wife ? My future looks bleak ! :(
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
"There's someone for everyone and Tommy's girl was Becky..."
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Girls like money
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When you are shy it means you are thinking of yourself too much.
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Shyness is a curse, just get out there and bet it. Or are you ugly and in denial?
We accept the reality of the world with which we are presented.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
Women sense your lack of assertiveness. It goes back to the hunter gatherer psychology.

Put yourself in the woman's shoes. If you were her looking at this timid, introverted, nervous, scared type of guy, what would be attractive about that.

Not putting you down bro. You need to zone in on what causes this behavior.

You are no less or more then the rest of us, own yourself.. stick your chest out, chin up, be a man. You are somebody, women are just waiting for you to realize this for yourself.
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Shyness is a curse, just get out there and bet it. Or are you ugly and in denial?
 Quoting: Ladydoom


All man are ugly in mens eyes. We can never understand how women could possibly be attracted to us.
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Women sense your lack of assertiveness. It goes back to the hunter gatherer psychology.

Put yourself in the woman's shoes. If you were her looking at this timid, introverted, nervous, scared type of guy, what would be attractive about that.

Not putting you down bro. You need to zone in on what causes this behavior.

You are no less or more then the rest of us, own yourself.. stick your chest out, chin up, be a man. You are somebody, women are just waiting for you to realize this for yourself.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 34856667


Pretty much that ^^^
We accept the reality of the world with which we are presented.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
Shyness is a curse, just get out there and bet it. Or are you ugly and in denial?
 Quoting: Ladydoom


I may not be the most good looking person around, but I don't believe I am ugly.

Rather, I don't believe anyone in this world is ugly.
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Beauty truly is skin deep. You may not like this answer though it is the truth. Commit it to the Lord in prayer and He will answer it, though not necessarily in any time soon and more than likely you will find you are in love when you did not expect it.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
Go out, and do what ever it is you like doing... You'll find someone.
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The trick is to not be anything but yourself and patient.
From a once extremely lonely, but still painfully shy guy in social circumstances. Oh and once more God does answer prayers.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
The biggest trick is to not care if a girl rejects you. I know this sounds REALLY tough, and it was for me at first as well.

You will soon realize that rejection isn't that bad, in fact you will feel better about yourself that you even had the balls to put yourself out there. And, get this: even if a woman DOES reject you, she will actually be more attracted to you than she was before, because you showed courage and assertiveness.

I'm really just parroting what everybody else in this thread has said already. Once AC said it best, to the effect of: you are a guy that women want, they're just waiting for you to realize it yourself.

Good luck!
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
It depends on whether your shyness results in the ladies viewing you as a pansy or not. If they think you're a complete pushover, you're screwed, and not literally, either.

That said, Most women are a self-fulfilling prophesy of misery. They all bitch and moan because all guys, according to them, are some combination of the following:

Douchebags
Man-whores
Abusive assholes
Alcoholics
Leeches

Ironically, 90% of them will pass up the 'nice guy' for one who is some combination of the above...then they wonder why the fuck they're miserable some months or few years down the road when the douchebag they chose instead of said 'nice guy' indeed turns out to be exactly what they went shopping for.
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I used to be really shy too but have managed to shag loads of birds.
But I'm good looking so at parties I just had to stand there and listen and by the time we had both had enough to drink it was straight off to a bedroom for a good fuck.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
Don't worry. If the CHANI Project theory is true, the world would end after May 15 this year and all the miseries would end there.
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Read this thread :

Thread: me tel u now so u belive me 15 may

You will stop thinking about the future.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
It depends on whether your shyness results in the ladies viewing you as a pansy or not. If they think you're a complete pushover, you're screwed, and not literally, either.

That said, Most women are a self-fulfilling prophesy of misery. They all bitch and moan because all guys, according to them, are some combination of the following:

Douchebags
Man-whores
Abusive assholes
Alcoholics
Leeches

Ironically, 90% of them will pass up the 'nice guy' for one who is some combination of the above...then they wonder why the fuck they're miserable some months or few years down the road when the douchebag they chose instead of said 'nice guy' indeed turns out to be exactly what they went shopping for.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21687950


They'll want the "nice guy" when they're in their 30s, washed up, used up, sex'ed up, then they'll realize, "OHHH now I want a nice guy."

The question is, you gonna be left holding the bag?
 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


or baggage, (instant daddy) you DONT want that.
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
Women sense your lack of assertiveness. It goes back to the hunter gatherer psychology.

Put yourself in the woman's shoes. If you were her looking at this timid, introverted, nervous, scared type of guy, what would be attractive about that.

Not putting you down bro. You need to zone in on what causes this behavior.

You are no less or more then the rest of us, own yourself.. stick your chest out, chin up, be a man. You are somebody, women are just waiting for you to realize this for yourself.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 34856667


Pretty much that ^^^
 Quoting: Ladydoom


I agree with this. Be comfortable with yourself.
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Women really love the schmoozer, the charismatic, uber-confident guy who can leave them "guessing" as to whether he really likes them or not. He's cocky, he'll give them a lot of attention and even affection, but he'll also never reveal his real emotions or show any vulnerability (they love that).

These men tend to be sociopaths and serial cheaters.

So this is where evolution has supposedly brought women.

Just act like Ted Bundy and you'll get laid.

It's maddening. But women are really that fucking stupid. This is the shit they eat up.

It really is comical the dumb stuff they "respond" to.


 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


As someone who has been cast aside his whole life as the stereotypical 'nice guy' his entire life, I agree completely. Its been my experience that the nice guy will lose to the douchebag every...single...time. And they wonder why guys are assholes? Its because that's all they ever choose.

At this stage, I know a losing game when I see it. I'm in my mid 30s, in good physical shape, in better financial condition than 99% of my peers in my area, and can do whatever the hell I want when I want to do it. They can keep their bullshit games for all I care at this point. Freedom has its own advantages.
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You will be alone for the rest of your life, unless luck and random chance smiles upon you.

Girls and women -- even the nerdy ones -- do not want a timid, frightened guy.

Now, there may be some angel out there who sees past that and understands you need some help and a boost, but there aren't many of those girls.

The key is to NOT show you care.

I know, sounds retarded, right?

They can sense the moment you start caring and worrying whether they're call back or text you or show interest. That immediately turns them off.

Once in a relationship, they'll expect you to care, and you can -- some -- but not too much.

I know, fucked up, right? Welcome to America.

Basically, do the opposite of what you're doing. Complete opposite, even if it seems wrong.
 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


That's not true. I've always been attracted to shy and quiet guys. The reason being, once you get to know them, they are far smarter, more interesting, and much deeper than the majority of the outgoing, needs to be the centre of attention guys.

OP, some girl out there is probably already attracted to you. You just don't know it because she's probably just as shy as you are. Don't lose faith. :)
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Women really love the schmoozer, the charismatic, uber-confident guy who can leave them "guessing" as to whether he really likes them or not. He's cocky, he'll give them a lot of attention and even affection, but he'll also never reveal his real emotions or show any vulnerability (they love that).

These men tend to be sociopaths and serial cheaters.

So this is where evolution has supposedly brought women.

Just act like Ted Bundy and you'll get laid.

It's maddening. But women are really that fucking stupid. This is the shit they eat up.

It really is comical the dumb stuff they "respond" to.


 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


As someone who has been cast aside his whole life as the stereotypical 'nice guy' his entire life, I agree completely. Its been my experience that the nice guy will lose to the douchebag every...single...time. And they wonder why guys are assholes? Its because that's all they ever choose.

At this stage, I know a losing game when I see it. I'm in my mid 30s, in good physical shape, in better financial condition than 99% of my peers in my area, and can do whatever the hell I want when I want to do it. They can keep their bullshit games for all I care at this point. Freedom has its own advantages.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21687950


Nooo Don't lose hope, people. The women who appreciate the "nice guys" are just harder to find, I guess. Or perhaps you guys are attracted to the outgoing, superficial, materialistic, all about me, ditzy women? I don't understand where you're finding these women. So...where are you finding them?
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Why are we debating on this question when the CHANI Project predicts that May 15 is the last date for all of us ?

Thread: me tel u now so u belive me 15 may
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Why are we debating on this question when the CHANI Project predicts that May 15 is the last date for all of us ?

Thread: me tel u now so u belive me 15 may
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27901966


That's my birthday. ohno
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
I'm 25 now and I don't have a girlfriend, rather, a girl whom I can consider my close friend.

The reason for this is my shyness and my introvert nature. I can talk to girls while texting, or chatting online but when it comes to talking with them face to face, I am not very good at that. Some girls even find me "dumb" for this reason.

Infact, I have liked a couple of girls but I never had the guts to ask them out. I have always had the fear that if I ask them out, and I am unable to talk interesting stuff with them, they'll find me even dumber than what I actually am.

I am not sure if this is some kind of social phobia or something like that.

I was just wondering, can a shy guy like me ever have a good life ? Will I ever get a wife ? My future looks bleak ! :(
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 989322


The trick is practice talking to women, flirting with them online.

Once you get comfortable with that, ask a woman out, online.

As you get more comfortable with this, you will slowly start to find women in the real world act similar to those online.

Try talking to woman, maybe even cheat and talk to a friends girlfriend....this is just practice with talking to women.

You will find, like most things, practice makes perfect and also makes you calmer, more relaxed.

Also, with women you don't know, try a new approach, don't treat her a hottie, really.

Treat her as anybody else, like talking to any stranger...
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That's not true. I've always been attracted to shy and quiet guys. The reason being, once you get to know them, they are far smarter, more interesting, and much deeper than the majority of the outgoing, needs to be the centre of attention guys.
 Quoting: AnonymousGirl


That is true. If I were a girl, I would reach the same conclusion. It's the same reason I can't stand the outgoing, "hot", ditzy girls. Blech. I prefer the shy, quiet ones, they don't have to be models, either.
 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


I think what makes it difficult is that it's hard for shy women and men to make that initial contact. Once you do, the relationship can be pretty amazing. You shy guys just need to know that if you're attracted to a shy woman and you think she may be interested in you, you really stand a good chance of things going well. Shy women are going to be way too shy to make the first move, but are probably dying for you to do it. At least speaking from my personal experience.
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Probably not, if you do, you will be too nice and they will eventually leave you for a thug, or inflict worse damage before they leave, so MGTOW now, improve your life for you, and save yourself the trouble.

Ameriskanks want 50 shades of anal with men who don't act like they need women to function in life and will treat them just nice enough to keep them "on their toes". If you want to play the "game", don't offer them emotional weapons. But now with the Vagina Always Wins Act, it's more dangerous to associate and especially co-habitat with the average entitled cupcake.
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Maybe you should try talking to a therapists if it's that bad,and your lonely.You'll find someone,Best of luck!
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 Quoting: Manny | ynnaM


Sounds like painful conversations with stupid women. I'll pass.
 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


Seriously...not much going on in the intellect!
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Re: I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?
You will be alone for the rest of your life, unless luck and random chance smiles upon you.

Girls and women -- even the nerdy ones -- do not want a timid, frightened guy.

Now, there may be some angel out there who sees past that and understands you need some help and a boost, but there aren't many of those girls.

The key is to NOT show you care.

I know, sounds retarded, right?

They can sense the moment you start caring and worrying whether they're call back or text you or show interest. That immediately turns them off.

Once in a relationship, they'll expect you to care, and you can -- some -- but not too much.

I know, fucked up, right? Welcome to America.

Basically, do the opposite of what you're doing. Complete opposite, even if it seems wrong.
 Quoting: Super Bowl Dave


That's not true. I've always been attracted to shy and quiet guys. The reason being, once you get to know them, they are far smarter, more interesting, and much deeper than the majority of the outgoing, needs to be the centre of attention guys.

OP, some girl out there is probably already attracted to you. You just don't know it because she's probably just as shy as you are. Don't lose faith. :)
 Quoting: AnonymousGirl


Feels better to know that there are girls out there who could possibly like shy guys.

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