I am an extremely shy person, will I ever get a girlfriend ?

shyness is acceptable in young children, but as a 25 year old, you really need to get over it

and any woman who likes 'shy guys' (gag!) probably has some issues too

most normal women find shyness in a fully-grown man irritating

I see your an american like me. There is something like 2 million more females than males here. Most females are sad and lonely all you have to do is open your mouth ask a few out and youll find someone.

Try a drink or 2. But don't turn into a pig.

I think every shy person has a reason for the shyness. Find the cause of the shyness and that may be the issue keeping you back. I used to be very shy because of my speech. Then I grew up with a new philosophy 'who the fuck cares what others think' and I'm not that shy anymore.

Own your shyness when talking to women. If you stumble, drop a "Sorry, I get nervous around beautiful women". Putting it out there can take away a ton of your nerves. You don't always have to be a smooth talker to open the door, you just have to talk.

Shyness can be a great excuse for awkwardness, and yet at the same time you won't leave a shyguy impression because you are actually saying something.

The real question is why the fuck would you want to talk to them in the first place? Once they get going you can't stop them xD

OP - Hire a dominatrix and let her beat the hell out of you for a night. That will cure you.

Its been my experience that they're all that way, when it come to relationships.

The most recent one involved someone I was very close with and have actually grown even closer to since, in a friendship sense. Really, really just a great all-around girl. Known her for a very long time and there were always hints of interest both ways, although she was already involved and I respected that. Well, the previous relationship fell apart and to make a long story short I spoke up and got shot down on the runway. Her choice? A 40 year old douchebag who was on a fuck-spree with every woman he met during the same timeframe. Not surprisingly, he had his fun and dumped her a month later, and she went back to her previous bad relationship.

That was the most recent, and by far most painful, in a long string of losses to the douchebag type. It also followed a couple years after a nearly identical situation with someone else that had caused me to give up on women once before. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Not gonna be a third time.

That's the truth if its ever been written.

VERY UNLIKELY...

I am 45, and I'm still a virgin.

Now I know pesonality is everything to one's life and shiness will eventually kill you, not just your sex life but your career, too.

I was born in a multi-millionaire family and have a Ph.D. of computer science from an American university and am an ex-professor. I didn't drink or smoke. 6 feet high.

But, absolutely shy. Not only girls but even to men. I cannot do a single thing but sit in front of a computer.

Only whores, the worst kind, liked me. I mean a real whore. I think they really liked me until I have money left.

I thought it's natural because whores liked Jesus and Jesus died poor, and I would follow the life of Jesus.

Not just my love life, it's very tough to have a good career in this Alpha-type dominating world. It was always me being a scape goat at work. But, I thought it was natural because Jesus came and died a scapegoat, and I would follow him.

The reason I'm being shy was because of a Roman Catholic priest who wanted me to be the same one. I have been grown up being told even thinking of a woman is a mind rape. (For someday I will find him and send him to God unless He invites him first...)

Now I am living a life like a cockroach on a computer screen. My only hope is a big doom finish me and the world soon.

Well I am sorry to hear your story. I think you should not lose hope. There are so many posts here that should encourage us.

She just wasn't that into you.

Oh man, that's the best, when you find one that talks a lot and you have to just listen and when she finishes you bang her. Unfortunately most will not talk for shit unless you just do some magic trick that enables them, and that's the difficult part.

I have a few treatments for you:

1. Benzos. You will quit being shy, but you have to remember that you have no social skills due to lack of practice.

2. Alcohol. Same as benzos, but you have the potential to act very stupid on top of your awkwardness.

3. Work your ass off physically and mentally. It is known that humans have only a certain amount of will power. If you work your ass off, you won't have the will power to be shy.

And YES, shyness requires extreme willpower. You are knowingly throwing your life under the bus to protect your conscious mind.

Use that will power elsewhere, or try the less "you" remedies if you are lazy.

It is up to you.

You can end up being mysterious instead of awkward, tantalizing instead of reclusive. If you get this far, you can put yourself in a situation where you are surrounded by females AND THEY WILL COMPETE.

Indeed. Shit happens. The question is whether or not one learns from it. I have.

Sheesh

You guys need to go after fat chicks w 2-3 kids. You are all prob. the male equivalents of that, but whining for Snow White

Not, but most likely a boyfriend !!

The #1 thing a woman looks for in a man is self confidence.

Even money or being tall is second to self confidence.


Master it, or masterbate.


Those are your options.

Women are like anyone, they are attracted to high vitality. Everything is energy. So you ask how do I go about increasing my vitality and improving myself? The answer you go drlwilson.com and embark on a full nutritional balancing program. I have done the same, and it has worked wonders for me.

If you have relations with a fat chick who has hot friends and you got a big "member", word spreads like wild fire and you can pick the next one.

Its true, except I started with the slutty one not the fat one.

^^This. Find someone with the same interests and you'll have plenty to talk about.

I'm not a big talker, either, OP, but get me started on one my interests and I can talk for hours. But it has to be a mutual interest that the other person is into also.

OP relationships are not always all they are imagined to be when you are without one.

With the promise of intimacy can also come much pain and heartache (emotional turmoil).

Also, there are some individuals currently in relationships/marriages who have slowly lost their sense of self and even wish they could return to the freedom and liberation of living the single life. While you may find yourself envying someone else's circumstances, just remember that there is someone out there in a relationship who is unhappy and envies your circumstances just the same.

So just remind yourself that there are positives and negatives when it comes to pursuing and maintaining a relationship with another. With the potential for reward there is also the potential for loss.

Please don't feel like you are missing out or somehow inadequate because you are living a single life or without a relationship. Society tries to reinforce this stereotype or image to the public and tries to make you feel compelled to be in a relationship or married. It is part of our cultural conditioning. This leads people who don't necessarily conform to the stereotypical view of what's 'expected' or perceived to be 'normal' to feel as if they are lacking for some reason or inadequate. I do not subscribe to this.

If you have insecurities or a low self-esteem or are feeling any type of lack of acceptance of yourself - know that everyone feels this at one point or another in their lives and it's perfectly normal and undersandable. You are young. So I say rather than seeking to find fulfillment in another right now to address any sort of lack of love/acceptance or confidence that you may be feeling in your own life - instead devote your energy to working on YOU. Work on confronting your fears and getting to the root cause of your shyness and/or insecurities. You could find temporary fulfillment through a relationship with another but if/when that relationship ends, won't the shyness/insecurities inevitably resurface?

Devote your energy to bettering yourself and improving your self-esteem, but don't do it to impress upon others, DO IT FOR YOU. When you feel love & acceptance for yourself and who you are, you will radiate this energy outwardly to others and they will pick up on it and find themselves gravitating towards you. This goes not only for women & intimate relationships but also for casual & platonic relationships. Who knows, you may just find a special relationship unfolding in your life naturally/effortlessly - and when you least expected it to.

Great posts, as usual with you ;)

Hmm She hinted at liking you as more than a friend while with someone else? Did she explain to you why she was turning you down? I don't know, I'm a woman, and I don't understand women. I barely understand myself.

I have been with the typical "bad boy," more than once.I think many women at some point or another go through that phase. For me, part of it was that I thought the glimpse of the "good guy" I saw once in a while was who he really was, not the jerk I saw most of the time. So I held out hope that I could bring that side of him out more if I just stuck around. I had a male friend who eventually slapped me with a huge dose of reality - I was with those kinds of men because I didn't love myself. So no matter what reason a woman gives you to justify her being with a jerk, the bottom line is she doesn't love herself enough to realize she is worthy of more. It's not for the excitement or the thrill or because she can think she can change him. Those are just excuses. Trust me, no woman likes to be treated like a piece of dirt.

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