So lets take an example of a family where this is applied

the wife/mother husband/ father would not feel responsable for the happiness of any of its members

thats my idea of a disfunctional nightmarish family

my idea of a family is everyone puts evryone else first, love is shown and shared, lots of hugs and affection and yes others happiness comes first because when you truly love the happiness of your spouse and or children is your happiness

how can you be happy if those you love care about are not happy?