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so why you are NOT married?

 
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I don't know, perhaps because i'm ugly.
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please don't ever say or think that! i bet you are not and just have a low self-esteem of your looks. the real beauty is inside anyway.
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Why are there so many miserable men here?

Would you guys allow the same words to escape your mouth when speaking of your Mother?

I can see why some of you are without a wife. Just look at the disrespectful way you refer to women. (whore)

Maybe it's the whore you guys fell out of that's turned you bitter.

*shrugs*
 Quoting: Venus Goddess


Well, Venus Goddess, our mothers come from a generation where women were just normal, likeable human beings. But nowadays every woman thinks it's her birthright to be a fucking 'Goddess', and men don't like that self-absorbed attitude.
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divorced bc i married the wrong man. only want to marry my soul mate now. no more mistakes for me.
also, seems most men are manboys who are into toys, porn, and have no self-control or discipline. i want a man who is strong on the inside, moral, and a REAL man. strong arms are nice, too... :)
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22146406


hold out for what YOU truly want. I do believe if you follow your heart, you will find your heart's desire. hf

The fact is, many complain about 'greed' of money, when in reality most people are 'greedy' when it comes to people (i.e pussy & cock), people want has MANY people or sexual encounters has they can get. What they don't realize is that the more you play around, the more you are depleting your own value.

If you want true wealth in every aspect of the meaning, you need to love yourself first. Only then will you respect yourself and hold out for your true equal in a mate.

hf
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Why are there so many miserable men here?

Would you guys allow the same words to escape your mouth when speaking of your Mother?

I can see why some of you are without a wife. Just look at the disrespectful way you refer to women. (whore)

Maybe it's the whore you guys fell out of that's turned you bitter.

*shrugs*
 Quoting: Venus Goddess


Well, Venus Goddess, our mothers come from a generation where women were just normal, likeable human beings. But nowadays every woman thinks it's her birthright to be a fucking 'Goddess', and men don't like that self-absorbed attitude.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 36350057


what the fuck.
Put the crack pipe down bro.
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
I don't know, perhaps because i'm ugly.
 Quoting: Dog Nippon


please don't ever say or think that! i bet you are not and just have a low self-esteem of your looks. the real beauty is inside anyway.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


there is beauty in everyone.

hf
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.

It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.

If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.

However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.

The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.

We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.

However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.

For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
 Quoting: Rose 36357038


very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
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03/17/2013 10:27 AM
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
I thank my lucky stars I don't have any kids at this time
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
there is beauty in everyone.

hf
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in anything

depends on your interpretation of reality
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.

It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.

If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.

However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.

The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.

We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.

However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.

For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
 Quoting: Rose 36357038


very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


adam.. you asked for this bro?.. you seen my rib fellas?.. i woke up on my ex wifes couch.. to answer the post.. because im an asshole.. all day..
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
Why are there so many miserable men here?

Would you guys allow the same words to escape your mouth when speaking of your Mother?

I can see why some of you are without a wife. Just look at the disrespectful way you refer to women. (whore)

Maybe it's the whore you guys fell out of that's turned you bitter.

*shrugs*
 Quoting: Venus Goddess


Well, Venus Goddess, our mothers come from a generation where women were just normal, likeable human beings. But nowadays every woman thinks it's her birthright to be a fucking 'Goddess', and men don't like that self-absorbed attitude.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 36350057


what the fuck.
Put the crack pipe down bro.
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Actually, it's Darjeeling tea.
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03/17/2013 10:34 AM
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
Marriage wouldn't last too long if I was.

I would wind up on Death Row, or life without Parole.

Do not pass GO...Do not Collect 200.00 dollars.
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
Why are there so many miserable men here?

Would you guys allow the same words to escape your mouth when speaking of your Mother?

I can see why some of you are without a wife. Just look at the disrespectful way you refer to women. (whore)

Maybe it's the whore you guys fell out of that's turned you bitter.

*shrugs*
 Quoting: Venus Goddess


Well, Venus Goddess, our mothers come from a generation where women were just normal, likeable human beings. But nowadays every woman thinks it's her birthright to be a fucking 'Goddess', and men don't like that self-absorbed attitude.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 36350057

What is "normal"?

*shrugs*

Sad day indeed when people get bent out of shape over a username on a forum message board.
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
divorced bc i married the wrong man. only want to marry my soul mate now. no more mistakes for me.
also, seems most men are manboys who are into toys, porn, and have no self-control or discipline. i want a man who is strong on the inside, moral, and a REAL man. strong arms are nice, too... :)
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22146406


hold out for what YOU truly want. I do believe if you follow your heart, you will find your heart's desire. hf

The fact is, many complain about 'greed' of money, when in reality most people are 'greedy' when it comes to people (i.e pussy & cock), people want has MANY people or sexual encounters has they can get. What they don't realize is that the more you play around, the more you are depleting your own value.

If you want true wealth in every aspect of the meaning, you need to love yourself first. Only then will you respect yourself and hold out for your true equal in a mate.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


thanks! i am remaining celibate until i am with the right man...and even though i am not a virgin, i won't have sex before marriage. that's how i wanted marriage to be when i was growing up, but that choice was taken away from me. that won't happen again.

i do see some good qualities in myself, but i have to be accountable and responsible for the outcomes of my past mistakes. i don't think that equals hating myself, but it does bring me sadness at times. i think you cannot truly enjoy joy and good without acknowledging the sadness. life is both, but tipping the scales to good feelings is preferable. :)

thanks for your input.
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.

It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.

If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.

However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.

The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.

We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.

However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.

For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
 Quoting: Rose 36357038


very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


there is so much truth in what you wrote.

FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping.

When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring.

Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with.


We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.

hf
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The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.

It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.

If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.

However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.

The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.

We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.

However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.

For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
 Quoting: Rose 36357038


very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


there is so much truth in what you wrote.

FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping.

When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring.

Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with.


We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


Thank you!

Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said.

Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones."

hf
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divorced bc i married the wrong man. only want to marry my soul mate now. no more mistakes for me.
also, seems most men are manboys who are into toys, porn, and have no self-control or discipline. i want a man who is strong on the inside, moral, and a REAL man. strong arms are nice, too... :)
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22146406


hold out for what YOU truly want. I do believe if you follow your heart, you will find your heart's desire. hf

The fact is, many complain about 'greed' of money, when in reality most people are 'greedy' when it comes to people (i.e pussy & cock), people want has MANY people or sexual encounters has they can get. What they don't realize is that the more you play around, the more you are depleting your own value.

If you want true wealth in every aspect of the meaning, you need to love yourself first. Only then will you respect yourself and hold out for your true equal in a mate.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


thanks! i am remaining celibate until i am with the right man...and even though i am not a virgin, i won't have sex before marriage. that's how i wanted marriage to be when i was growing up, but that choice was taken away from me. that won't happen again.

i do see some good qualities in myself, but i have to be accountable and responsible for the outcomes of my past mistakes. i don't think that equals hating myself, but it does bring me sadness at times. i think you cannot truly enjoy joy and good without acknowledging the sadness. life is both, but tipping the scales to good feelings is preferable. :)

thanks for your input.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 32186014


you are so on the right path. and I totally agree with what you wrote. I know if I ever found myself single I would have the same outlook as you, sex only after marriage and a long period of trusting that other person.

One of the things that I love about myself is that I have remained loyal and in love to one man in a world that wants me to go against this. There is no greater feeling than to exist knowing that you are who you want to be. I know people who justify their cheating or their sexual promiscuity and all it does is rob them of their own beauty. The wonder why they have psychological problems and for some even health problems due to sleeping around and they just don't get it.

I can't stand shaking most people's hands these days, some people are just so dirty, yet so many people in this world have no issues having sex on the second or third date. I have a friend who has become terribly sick with a viral super bug and she got it right after her second date with a guy that she gave a BJ to. He later dumped her for his ex-wife. She is a wreck, both health-wise and mentally, as she now fears she caught something from sucking this guy's dick. I honestly don't know how people can deal with that type of stuff. It must suck (no pun intended, lol).
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Re: so why you are NOT married?
The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.

It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.

If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.

However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.

The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.

We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.

However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.

For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
 Quoting: Rose 36357038


very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


there is so much truth in what you wrote.

FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping.

When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring.

Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with.


We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


Thank you!

Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said.

Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones."

hf
 Quoting: Life and Love

oh congrats!!! I can only hope I make it to 40, that is quite beautiful.

I hope you have a wonderful celebration planned hf
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so why you are NOT married?
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nobody ever ask me....

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The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.

It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.

If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.

However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.

The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.

We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.

However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.

For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
 Quoting: Rose 36357038


very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


there is so much truth in what you wrote.

FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping.

When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring.

Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with.


We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


Thank you!

Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said.

Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones."

hf
 Quoting: Life and Love


It certainly is a blessing if you meet a being willing to assess and refine themselves through the eyes of their partner manifesting in perpetual, mutual, positive growth.

Unfortunately this is not common, rare infact.

Most do not strive for spiritual maturity which is work in progress as a human in the process of being.

Most people don't seriously contemplate who and what they are as a triune being, they choose to distract themselves with materialism and instant gratification.

This is not conducive to a healthy relationship, married or otherwise.
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so why you are NOT married?
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nobody ever ask me....

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rofl
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very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745


there is so much truth in what you wrote.

FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping.

When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring.

Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with.


We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


Thank you!

Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said.

Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones."

hf
 Quoting: Life and Love


It certainly is a blessing if you meet a being willing to assess and refine themselves through the eyes of their partner manifesting in perpetual, mutual, positive growth.

Unfortunately this is not common, rare infact.

Most do not strive for spiritual maturity which is work in progress as a human in the process of being.

Most people don't seriously contemplate who and what they are as a triune being, they choose to distract themselves with materialism and instant gratification.

This is not conducive to a healthy relationship, married or otherwise.
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I think TV and the internet has influenced many people on what a relationship is.

When we were young and starting out, we had no TV/Cable, mainly because grad school was expensive and we lived within a strict budget. We also chose not to have a computer when everyone started getting them, we had access to them at work and that was fine. Now we have both, but they are used sparingly. In fact, I have decreased my time on the surfing internet and have noticed that when I do, things are much better. Today is my treat. Reading threads and learning. But I've become more aware of how much of a distraction even the internet can be, especially for married couples. Awareness is always the key. Know your surroundings and influences, rule them, do not let them rule you.

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I think people are forgetting the spiritual aspect of marriage. It's a sacrament before God and it's the only way he permits a sexual relationship between partners without falling into sin. Wonder why the divorce rates are so high and marriage is looked at so bitterly now as a scam? It's because many couples have no place for God in their lives so they're left to their own destruction and consequences of their actions. They end up following their own lusts at some point instead of living a virtuous life living by his laws. If everyone was a devout Christian this problem would be nearly nonexistent.
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there is so much truth in what you wrote.

FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping.

When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring.

Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with.


We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.

hf
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


Thank you!

Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said.

Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones."

hf
 Quoting: Life and Love


It certainly is a blessing if you meet a being willing to assess and refine themselves through the eyes of their partner manifesting in perpetual, mutual, positive growth.

Unfortunately this is not common, rare infact.

Most do not strive for spiritual maturity which is work in progress as a human in the process of being.

Most people don't seriously contemplate who and what they are as a triune being, they choose to distract themselves with materialism and instant gratification.

This is not conducive to a healthy relationship, married or otherwise.
 Quoting: Rose 36362014


I think TV and the internet has influenced many people on what a relationship is.

When we were young and starting out, we had no TV/Cable, mainly because grad school was expensive and we lived within a strict budget. We also chose not to have a computer when everyone started getting them, we had access to them at work and that was fine. Now we have both, but they are used sparingly. In fact, I have decreased my time on the surfing internet and have noticed that when I do, things are much better. Today is my treat. Reading threads and learning. But I've become more aware of how much of a distraction even the internet can be, especially for married couples. Awareness is always the key. Know your surroundings and influences, rule them, do not let them rule you.

hiding

Too much of the wrong influences will distract people from seeing the important things in life.
 Quoting: daisy 34495736


Agreed.

Also, the contrived external environment shaping the perception of reality via various technological mediums are at direct odds with the nature of light in most beings. This in itself causes an internal conflict that cannot be overcome due to the pressures of living, so one concedes defeat. Following this, their internal world begins to reflect the illusion of the external world as the strength of will diminishes and the light fades.

It's very sad. Then spiritual carcasses are left to form relationships, and produce children and the psychopathy of the current world is the result.

Life imitating art, it's just that most no longer observe the art as evil.
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@daisy - that's an awesome love story! it's nice to read about happy couples.
i lacked discernment - my ex was abusive and i was in some kinda stockholm syndrome.
there was this cute sweet polite guy in high school who i had amazing chemistry with, had so much fun whenever i was around him, but i already had a boyfriend (who was also abusive and so my head was messed up at that time), but i think he is the ONE. i cannot remember his name though. :( he could be happily married with kids for all i know and i'm doomed to be alone for the rest of my life. well, i just pray for God's will to be done.

God bless you and your family! you did it right!!! you listened to your inner voice and God's guidance and have had a life of happiness as a result. smart lady!!!
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so why you are NOT married?
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Marriage is the stupidest thing a man can do..you are guaranteed to lose 50% of all that you worked your lives for simply because some woman may decide she loves another or just wants to move on.

have children and you are a victim of an 18-21 yr financial scam.

A piece of paper doesn't make one any more in love that not.

Ask ANY women and they'll tell you that they are searching for a man that "can take care of them"..

Marriage...its a trap, a deadly trap
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I feel like...because of my 'status' in society I'll never have to worry much about a woman wanting marriage, especially for the wrong reasons. Get involved in the arts, be poor and it completely get's rid of this life problem...
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I think people are forgetting the spiritual aspect of marriage. It's a sacrament before God and it's the only way he permits a sexual relationship between partners without falling into sin. Wonder why the divorce rates are so high and marriage is looked at so bitterly now as a scam? It's because many couples have no place for God in their lives so they're left to their own destruction and consequences of their actions. They end up following their own lusts at some point instead of living a virtuous life living by his laws. If everyone was a devout Christian this problem would be nearly nonexistent.
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yes, that is so very true. The problem is, those who don't believe in God or His divine power to heal, restore and strengthen people despite their inherent sin nature will gladly accept the idea that marriage is evil and bad. that it is the worst thing for anyone to go through. the reality is quite the opposite, for those who give glory to God for everything in their lives, both the painful, teaching experiences and the happy, joyous times of our lives, because those of us who put God first, somehow weather this painful existence called life so much easier than our non-believing brothers and sisters.

We don't need to look any further than some of the threads here to see the misery and strife most people carry around with them day in and day out. Its not to say that those that believe in God have no suffering and pain, but it is evident we also see His hand in our darkest times of life. We all have those times in life when we feel alone, scared, and like its end, and yet He gives us the strength to get through whatever storm we face and to come out on the other side even wiser and stronger than before.

At least that is my experience... and I've experienced a lot of bad shit in my life. So I know He is there, He has got me out of many a bad times. And yes, I give all my props to Him for the fact that I am still happily married to a great guy. I could of ended up a lot worse had I done things MY way.

God always knows what He's doing... this I've learned. hf
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Because I am a 5'5" male.
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So find a short arse female, there's plenty of them around :)
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Lol, it is the short gals that want an even taller guy...because of their own insecurities...
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I think people are forgetting the spiritual aspect of marriage. It's a sacrament before God and it's the only way he permits a sexual relationship between partners without falling into sin. Wonder why the divorce rates are so high and marriage is looked at so bitterly now as a scam? It's because many couples have no place for God in their lives so they're left to their own destruction and consequences of their actions. They end up following their own lusts at some point instead of living a virtuous life living by his laws. If everyone was a devout Christian this problem would be nearly nonexistent.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30270036


Indeed. It is called Holy Matrimony for a reason.

But sadly the divorce rate among those who call themselves Christian is the same as the rate for society in general.
We become like that to which we are devoted. Choose wisely.
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so why you are NOT married?
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Because in the long run prostitutes are cheaper especially once you calculate in all the child support, alimony, half my stuff, etc...

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