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so why you are NOT married?
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The elephant in the room is, it isn't necessary to be in a relationship for life.
It's not necessary to marry.
It's nothing more than a doctrine that longevity equates to more satisfying.
If people became masters of their inner universe, as in knowing themselves implicitly and walked in a sphere of self awareness they would relate to another, easier. A more mature approach to problem solving would be accessible leading to a secure, preferred long term relationship, which may lend itself to the desire for marriage.
However, most people are selfish, separatist, spiritually barren, megalomaniacs, bobbing in a perpetual state of denial, devoid of insight with negligible self awareness.
The current frequency human beings are on is not conducive to a healthy relationship, let alone a long term relationship.
We are in a manipulated climate of fear perpetuated by greed in a pit of consumerism expressed through materialism. When you see that even planet Earth is crumbling under this pressure.... the feeble minded low frequency human union is almost doomed to fail.
However, for those that want marriage, and for the ones that last, good for you.
For holy matrimony to last, I believe you have to have a certain level of spiritual maturity.... most do not reach this level of maturity which is gained through introspection leading to self correction. As a result most marriages will founder.
Quoting: Rose 36357038 very good points.. .and one's mate should be one's best friend, too. we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc.... God must be part of the relationship.there is so much truth in what you wrote. FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping. When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring. Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with. We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.  Thank you! Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said. Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones."
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