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so why you are NOT married?
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very good points...and one's mate should be one's best friend, too.
we are not meant to be alone. one man and one woman bonded through spiritual religious matrimony is ideally a union to draw both closer to God through intimacy, sex, etc....God must be part of the relationship.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22130745 there is so much truth in what you wrote. FRIENDSHIP is the key to a long-lasting relationship. If you do not value the person as a true best friend it simply will not last. Many people fall for someone based on looks or money or some other material trapping. When I met my hubby he was everything that most women were not looking for (except he was very good looking), I mean he had no real money at the time and wanted to travel and be carefree after college and did not want to settle down and be like everyone else in suburbia. So I did what everyone advised me not to do...I packed up and went with him and never looked back. Why, because he was fun. He was interesting. And he was not predictable and boring. Now here we are years later, still married and all my college gf's are either on 2nd or 3rd marriage or divorced and jaded/bitter. They all chased men that did not offer the one thing that I chased, which was a simple friendship that turned into a wild romance/marriage, and someone to enjoy exploring the world with. We eventually caught up to everyone else and bought the home in suburbia and in retrospect, we just allowed ourselves to take chances early in life instead of following the herd. to live and love in the way that worked for us. We had no measurements for success at that time. To me, friendship, honesty and love was all I needed to feel success in life. still is all I need. Everything else falls into place, the money, the job, the life you want - IF you let it. Most people fuck themselves up, though, chasing the wrong things. Had I not gone with him I probably would have married the wrong guy like all my college gf's. Now they tell me how lucky I am and how they all wished they didn't let 'that one guy' get away from way back when... that one guy that was a true friend.  Thank you! Today is my 40th wedding anniversary and I want to affirm everything you have said. Yes, I am indeed one of the "lucky ones." It certainly is a blessing if you meet a being willing to assess and refine themselves through the eyes of their partner manifesting in perpetual, mutual, positive growth. Unfortunately this is not common, rare infact. Most do not strive for spiritual maturity which is work in progress as a human in the process of being. Most people don't seriously contemplate who and what they are as a triune being, they choose to distract themselves with materialism and instant gratification. This is not conducive to a healthy relationship, married or otherwise. I think TV and the internet has influenced many people on what a relationship is. When we were young and starting out, we had no TV/Cable, mainly because grad school was expensive and we lived within a strict budget. We also chose not to have a computer when everyone started getting them, we had access to them at work and that was fine. Now we have both, but they are used sparingly. In fact, I have decreased my time on the surfing internet and have noticed that when I do, things are much better. Today is my treat. Reading threads and learning. But I've become more aware of how much of a distraction even the internet can be, especially for married couples. Awareness is always the key. Know your surroundings and influences, rule them, do not let them rule you.  Too much of the wrong influences will distract people from seeing the important things in life.
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