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The Four Noble Truths - To Live is to Suffer
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That is the area of Buddhism that I always had trouble with as well. I've concluded that it all must be balanced.
When Buddha left his home, he had responsibilities to his family, including a wife and son. And yet, he left it all. To me, and maybe it is just part of this day and age, but that is awful. Supposedly the seekers then were highly revered and respected. So maybe his family viewed it that way as well when he left to find Nirvana, and it wasn't as bad as it sounds nowadays.
Quoting: Septenary Man yes - a very good discussion. Let me add this thought from Thomas Merton that I think relates to love and attachment “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”To me this is a non-clinging, ungrasping expression of love. I agree but I am searching for different answer. How can you not be attached to someone you love? I think it's not possible unless you are egoistic and stomping your emotions thus meaning you dont really love them. You cant love someone and not be hurt when they go...I just can see that happening.Totally agree. Let me ramble a little bit... Yesterday was my 40th wedding anniversary. We have fewer years ahead than we have already had. One day, one of us will pass on, and the other will grieve. There will be a sense of loss, and a sense of loss implies attachment. There are also a few others with whom I am tightly connected, and the same thing is true with them: the end of the relationship will cause me to grieve. But I don't think it will be the type of attachment expressed by "I can't live without you." I don't feel as if I will become attached to the grief itself.
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