How do you get over abandonment issues? I have problems where I can't move on. I make things awkward with guys all the time.

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OP, do you find that you are more likely a thinker than a talker? I tend to live more in my thoughts like that. I ended up getting married to a very talkative man who sort of enjoyed hearing himself speak. I think he was happy to have an audience and I didn't have to say very much in return. This type of relationship happens more often the other way around - with the talkative woman and the quiet man, but in my case, and maybe yours, it's the opposite.

Stop beating yourself up and realize that it is just who you are. Sooner or later you'll find your perfect fit and he won't mind having such a great listener for a wife.

I think maybe you're over analyzing. Go with the flow, and relax. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on all of this. Not every friendship with a guy has to turn into anything. Just let things happen. Don't look towards the future, look at the now. Who cares about "awkward"? If it feels awkward to you, say it out loud. I do, and it just breaks the awkward moment...onto the next one.

If you're nervous, having a shy moment, feeling awkward, say you are. I'm all of those things at times, and I just let the guy know that I'm aware I am, it just makes me feel better. I don't pretend that I'm not, nor do I pretend that I don't know I'm being shy/awkward because that just makes it more awkward. Acknowledge it, and then move on.

You again, OP -- the chick hung up on the guy from work. Get over it, for the trillionth time!!!

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Thank you, I try to inject humor. I don't say it's awkward, I will. I just lose all self confidence when he's near. I have a desire to keep my distance, when in reality, I want to be close to him.

Thank you for sticking with my thread. :)

How do I strike while the iron is hot? We are cool one day, then awkward the next.