A letter I just left for my Ex. I AM FREE!!!

I recognize the emotions and feelings in your letter to
Anne, as similar feelings I had when I finally ended a relationship with an alcoholic chick a couple of years back.

While I do not know her or you or your situation, the descriptions you used for her behavior towards you also makes me a little suspect that she was carrying on a relationship behind your back. I assume you didn't know since you didn't mention it, or I guess you could have just decided not to mention it because you had no concrete evidence.

In my experience with my own relationships as well as being on the outside looking in of close friends with similar experiences, many of the ways she treated you was due to her feelings for someone else. In some sick way, she wasn't ready to walk away from you, maybe because she wasn't as confident as she thought she was or acts. Or because the other person she's seeing, treats her like she treats you.

Regardless, good job making a decision and going through with it. I applaud you for not doing it while she was home. 10 years ago, I might have called you a pussy for doing so, but time and experience has a way of showing us how little we really know in the grand scheme of things.

She might be hurting, as I'm sure you are, as breakups are never easy. Im not sure how long you 2 were together, but Im guessing it was at least 2 to 3 years or more.

Being gone and set up elsewhere by the time she got the letter, was a good move because you're not there with her to have to go through the argument and drama of the breakup and the possibility of staying together after both of you made promises to each other and yourselves that things could change and be better.

Posting here was your way of reaching out and getting some positive feedback to help the pain and healing process. Dont worry about the haters in your thread. Chances are most of em are still living at home in the basement at their parents, confident in their relationship with their fake Real Doll and knowing she never cheats, at least not until Pop's walks downstairs while they are out swapping soda cans for spending money, and Pops decided to bang the shit out of their "girlfriend".


Treat yourself. And before you start dating again, write down on a sheet of paper what attributes of her physical beauty and personality that you really loved, and on another sheet, write up what you didn't like. That way when you decide to move forward, you will have a list of the things that you find most attractive in a woman and the attributes that you found unattractive. You'd be surprised at how handy that can come in hand later when you are scouting potential dates.

Keep your head up and looking forward to hearing about how it works out for you later.

Without condemnation, for your consideration, her point of view:

She is probably doing the happy dance too! Good luck to you! WTG

Maybe she is the one free right now, you op, are not.

Sounds like someone else has been dumped too, lol.

Honestly, what authority did you expect over a woman you weren't married to? You stated she worked. I assume you shared living expenses. Clearly you retained your own personal property. So under what moronic mindset do think she should have viewed you as a man?

You gain a woman's respect by earning it. You state you abhor feminism yet you had no complaints each month when she paid for her share of living expenses. I see so many men on GLP that rage on women for being feminist. You all want to be leaders unless it means forking over some $$$$.

I'm a stay at home wife. My husband works. The man doesn't do anything for himself other then wipe his butt. I have zero issue with that arrangement. He's paying the cost to be the boss :)

Figure out what you want before you get into another relationship...

BTW.... Today is the 31st did you leaver her hanging for the rent and utilities?

This made me think of one of my favorite movies: when I wake up in the morning and see your face it makes me physically ill and you stink...........LOL...I've watched this movie a hundred times. When she said I can't stand to watch you sleep, or eat and it makes me want to punch your face..........LMAO.....I have been married for 30 years. I can relate even though I'm still in love.

It's easy to tell the kiddies with little to no experience apart from ones that have zero luck with dating for whatever reason, and then the ones responding that clearly understand and have been there before.

For one - when he said he felt physically ill waking up next to her every morning and that she was unattractive and he hasn't felt attracted to her in a long time - He NEVER said she was actually unattractive now as compared to the beginning of the relationship.

Those reading this thread that can identify with the emotions of the OP already recognize what he's saying.

Now listen up boys and girls that are still new to dating: Her shitty attitude and the way she treated him is what lead to him finding her unattractive and the disgust from waking next to her. She could look even better than she did in the beginning. It's not her looks.

I've dated too many hot chicks that have piss poor attitudes and treat people like shit. That same chick you met that was so smoking hot, soon looks far less appealing because you no longer see the physical beauty. What you see is the "ugly" that is within her and slowly leaks out, day after day, until you don't even recognize her.

Hence the old saying "She may be hot, but somebody, somewhere, is already sick of her shit"

I don't want anyone thinking Im a misogynist. The above reference and descriptions works both ways, for a guy or a girl.

Again, I think you did the best you knew to do with the experience you've had with her in past arguments. At some point, your sanity took over and decided there was no way you wanted to do this face to face and risk the false promises both would make, and risk being in the same place again in 3 months.

Last Edited by Mr.Evil on 03/31/2013 08:43 PM

Sooooooooo....

Because she didn't like YOU, it's "misandry"?


lol Take it to Henry Madcow.




Maybe she just wasn't that into you.



lol

I think the personal attacks about her physical state were knd of over the top. I think there will be enough unhappiness without insulting her physically.
I hope you get what you want out of life though. Break ups are never easy no matter the reason.

There's probably a reason why she became the woman she is today (uhmm... you), but you didn't bother finding out why, did you?

or maybe she is a totally self-centered person who never considers anyone else's needs except her own, as the OP states. People like this (both male and female) do exist.

Just another A.I. gaining respsonse to stimulis.

Bravo OP,

Frankly, you'd be better off with a Reall Doll.
She won't speak, but you won't have to listen to any b/s either:)

But there had to be hundreds or thousands of SIGNS before and at the beginning of the relationship. People just go blindly into relationships and expect the person to fulfill all their dreams. When good judgment and discernment is not used in choosing a mate, then it can't end well.

You could have took the high road and left out the first paragraph, OP. If you are already leaving, no use rubbing salt in the wound by attacking her self esteem. You wouldn't enjoy a letter from a woman leaving you saying your dick is too small and you smell like ass or something.

You could have handled it a bit more maturely, but good luck with your future.

U sound childish, how old are u?

U sound childish, how old are u?

Hey OP you could've at least shown some creativity and either:

1) Hired someone else to give her the news. Maybe by phone. That would be fun and you could listen in.

2) Trained a parrot to give her the news. I like that.

You're gonna have trouble in life, pal. I just sense it somehow.

Any breakup that is without bloodshed is a "good breakup".

I also think that both the OP and his ex are better off without each other. Obviously the communication (from the Latin word: "communis", meaning to share) wasn't there from the start.

Make sure that your next relationship starts out by you being upfront with your expectations and what you will and will not tolerate. Allow your partner to express her expectations as well. If you can't find middle ground to build a lasting relationship on, why put in the labor?

One more point: The negative things you wrote about your ex in that letter are the very things that kept her from acquiring a better man that yourself. It's a universal law - I post it without personally passing judgment.

Once you decide to break up, it is akin to planning a war. YOU want the upper hand, you want to prevent any issues with overly emotional people. So you plan ahead!

I was with my BF for two years, found out I was pregnant, at first he was happy, then for inexplicable reasons, turned sour on the situation, threatened to throw me down the stairs to cause a miscarriage if I did not abort. So I got the $600 from him told him I had the abortion, started saving money to move out. After he thought the abortion was done, he starts bringing another woman into our house. When I moved out, I left him a note on the bed, saying I did not go through with the abortion, used his money for a down pmt on an apartment and would be in contact. I had twins and owned his balls for 20 years. POS. He married that bitch and now has cancer and they are so estranged that he is basically sitting there alone, dealing with chemo and slugging down vodka all day long while she goes about her life. I hope he's enjoying reliving his stupid decisions as his life comes to a close. Karma's a bitch too.

Later married someone, found out from his best friend that he was cheating on me all over town (he told me later he was a sex addict) and planning to take some other chick on a vacation. While he was gone on his vacation, I moved out, taking everything, even the toilet paper on the holder in the bathroom. And taped a note to the door telling him why I was gone and divorced his ass. No way was I going to go through trying to sort through possessions with that POS after what he pulled.

Yeah, the element of surprise, when used on POS people, is a good time. If they were decent, you wouldn't be leaving them in the first place or, would treat them with some respect in the breakup. But when they do nothing but shit on you, they deserve NO respect and it's all about extricating with YOUR best interest in mind. So as a woman, I say congrats to the OP for taking his shot at a better life and going about it by doing what's best for him.

sure there was. I don't need the op to tell me that for me to know that. Nor do I need for him to write up a couple of volumes just so i can make a more accurate appraisal of the situation.

Im not implying he was the angel. I'm simply responding to him leaving and moving on the way he did.


You can use the best judgement / discernment in the world and it's still no guarantee that it's going to work out any better than it did. There are simply too many variables between 2 people in today's world.

Every tv show out there uses programming to teach both guys and girls to fuck who you want even if in a relationship or marriage. Screw the repercussions. Go out and find a new person or have multiple relationships. The law doesn't prohibit but it does prohibit the emotionally destroyed person in the relationship from getting answers or trying to talk to someone afterwards.

It's assault if you yell in a girls face and make them feel threatened even without any physical encounter. Yet, someone can cheat their ass off, take every dollar in their accounts and move off with the kids and a lover, and emotionally destroy someone to the point of insanity, but there's no law for that crime, although it's a hell of a lot more damaging than someone yelling in your face.

If we created a law against infidelity or at least locked down protocols so that there's no financial incentive for a woman to get married, cheat, and move on with someone else, taking an alimony check, half of their ex's pension / retirement, and a hefty child support order if there's children involved, you'd start seeing less of these cases. And maybe over 30 years, maybe the marriage to divorce ratio could go back to 1 for ever 4 instead of almost a 1 to 1 ratio.

That and stop promoting it like it's just changing your mind over a lunch choice, and you'd see a difference in the current trend.

That won't ever happen, because we know TPTB started a war on the family as we used to know it, in the past 50 years.

In any case, I'm still with the op. he took the same way out 99% of women do now-a-days, but at least he left a letter. Most of them now just stop communicating, disappear, and you get left with zero closure. Bravo for a guy doing the same thing, with the exception of leaving a letter so that she knew why he left, and in a manner to avoid drama that could escalate to him ending up in jail.

Last Edited by Mr.Evil on 03/31/2013 10:50 PM

Got any naked pics? I might be interested.

oh the op started the other thread here .haha Thread: My Ex just left me this letter!!! I'm so upset

If you guys were married, her lawyer is going to eat you alive in court using that letter.

I've never had a chick violate my sovereignty. Of course, that's an act war.

The letter to my ex.
"Goodbye bitch! Don't ever visit or call me again!"

wimp got his feelings hurt. boohooo...

You don't deserve to be married.. puss...

^^^ This coming from another woman I agree completly. This is very close to my heart. Guys please there are some woman like myself not very enamored with the whole feminism movement as time goes by I feel there are fewer and fewer. We would love to step back and let the men lead the household but you have got to make it easier on us. The stakes are too high too easily detrimental to our well being in the long run if we are not given a little bit of help to take the risk.We stand beside you wanting more than anything to be your partner, love you, and help you become more than you may have ever realized. You can't do that alone anymore than we can.

Well at least you let her down gently... OUCH!

Also brave of you to put it into a letter.

Good luck to both of you however, I hope you both find someone lovely to share your lives with?



P.S. How does a woman deprive a man of his masculinity? Did her actions psychologically force you to go buy a handbag?

op-- theres no point in let her bitch at you one more time..
jail was next.. they know that move..
crazy psicho.. let her taste it now..
as to all the misandry shown here.. get ready bitches.. you r next!
we can always get up.. alone.. not by rubbin a pennis..
thanx the universe u didnt have a kid like I did..
as for todays women.. they r getting hammered in the eotional level w the new vibrations in the planet..
you must stay focused..! good luck!