Question for homewreckers and cheaters

Any info would be appreciated Id like to get to the nature of infidelity and how our species views it from a sociological point of view

the lust outwieghed the critical thinking

Is infidelity created in our culture, is it human nature, does our upbringing play a role, what about personality traits and age how do they fit in, or is it just a game we play to mend old wounds?

There are those who don't cheat, what sets them apart? Is it gender or will power, mabey a difference in intelligence or moral belief systems?

Why dont u google it????????
Or ask a therapist


This is a conspiracy site....
Not a Dr. Office or "cheaters"

But since ur already here ;

Pretty obvious people cheat cuz their selfish and cant cope w life in a healthy and straight on way.. Cuz their liars ... Cuz they are opportunists ...

R u seriously this retarded???? Maybe thats why
Cuz some partners dont talk to their SpOUSES and would rather blab online to strangers in an inappropriate forum....

Hello the world is going to shit!
Need i say more???
Maybe cheaters enjoy stealing other trust and lying and enjoy manipulating because they are sociopaths and arent capable of being human... Just mimicking to get what they want..And target vulnerble people .. Its an empty lonely power trip ... Always ends in disaster lol
Their only cheating on themselves At the end of the day and destroy theor word and reptuation
Karmas a bitch
Never to be trusted again is a heavy self destructive pattern... And burden THEY bear ... And impose on others..

In short? Because their douchebags w no self respect or self control

takes 2 to tango

he/she just doesnt love you anymore, otherwise they simply wouldnt do it

this is a hard fact that the cheated-on seem not to grasp. people in love do not even look at others, theyre not interested because they love YOU

your loved one wasnt 'kidnapped by lust' against their own free will


just human nature, and generally theres probably no 'draw', it really does 'just happen' if 2 people are in the right place at the right time


no 'answers', and its been going on since the year dot. why? because monogamy is generally forced because of the children, hence the divorce rates


look, fact - if people LOVED EACH OTHER they would stick together til death

you cant legislate against people falling out of love

I have never cheated on my lady, 14 years now! I did have a girl one time try and come on to me.. I admit I almost lost my path but my better self stopped that from going anywhere. I did feel bad for entrancing the thought though. I have a very strong family moral ad that really is the nail, I love my girlfriend and kids and would never jeopardize that for some quick snatch,

I'm too lazy to cheat ...

What about affairs? Is lust outweighed by critical thinking during the entire affair? Are we just that animalistic to succumb to our primal sexual needs? If so then how can we as a species believe we are supposed to be in monogamous relationships

As Betty would put it...


A clean up woman
Is a woman who
Gets all the love we girls leave behind
The reason I know
So much about her
Is because she picked up a man of mine
Chumpin' Slick
Was my ruin
'Cause I found out all I was doin'
Was makin' it easy
For the clean up woman
To get my man's love, oh, yeah
Just makin' it easy
For the clean up woman
To get my baby's love, uh-huh
Mmm-hmm
I took this man's love and put it on a shelf
And like a fool, I thought I had him all to myself
When he needed love, I was out havin' fun
But I found out all I had done
Was made it easy
For the clean up woman
To get my man's love, uh-huh
Yeah, that's what I did
I made it easy
For the clean up woman
To steal my baby's love, oh, yeah
The clean up woman
Will wipe his blues away
She'll give him penny lovin'
24 hours a day
The clean up woman
She'll sweep him off his feet
She's the one to take him in
When you dump him in the street
So take a tip
You better get hip
To the clean up woman
'Cause she's tough
I mean she really cleans up

Men innately want to spread their seed to as many women as possible.
It is not natural for men to be faithful.

My husband cheated with the babysitter 12 years ago. We worked it and remained together. I realize that he is not an innocent victim, but I have often wondered what would posses a woman to become involved with a man that she is fully aware is married with children.

I've never cheated, and do not plan to. This is because I respect my partner enough to not hurt them that way. People who cheat are selfish. The end.

Who really says we are supposed to be in monogamous relationships our parents the media the education system religion? Maybe the world would be better off if we just loved one another without expectation or commitment?

This is bull. Love is an action - a decision, not a feeling. I think the main reason people cheat is because they either don't realize this, they aren't careful enough in protecting their marriage, or they are just narcissistic. Some people are highly narcissistic, even to the point of being vengeful and seek affairs to deliberately hurt their spouse.

AMEN! That's the bottom line.

Women use sex to get love - men use love to get sex.

Yes, self reliance. But to achieve this, women need equal pay and equal rights.

Then we can all be single and just fuck buddies.

I would think men would love this arrangement.

Love this! My ex-husband started an affair and decided he didn't want to be a full time father anymore a week before our youngest's first birthday. He left, eventually filed for a no-fault, and for the past 7+ years has been getting his emotional and sexual needs met with another man's wife - right under his nose. Sometimes all three of them and the kids spend the weekend together. (Never in a million years would I think he was capable of this, but here we are). Anyway - i figure the best revenge is letting them have each other.

Well, I'm not a cheater but my husband and I jave only jad sex once in the last six months so I'm considering it. It doesn't matter if I cook, clean, dress up nice, hug him, or tell him that I love him and want him. The fact is he obviously doesn't want me anymore. I guess he doesn't ask for a divorce because of our five year old child. I have that reason and the fact that I still love him. But, I am very lonely and if someone came along and showed interest, I might not be able to resist. Its not the sex I miss from my husband. It's being wanted and feeling intimacy with someone. I could live without passion and romance. But, I can't stand feeling rejected all the time . Sigh.

there are cheating men, but I think there are more cheating women. the ones I have seen all didn't care for their husbands anymore, and had no problem sleeping with another man. also I think most of them were sleeping around to test the waters, looking for another man to finally leave their husband for. mr. right #2. that's how women are, a lot more selfish and disloyal than what "women" are supposed to be. a lot of women are wretched creatures under the surface.

the men I have seen cheating did it for a good time (which was not a good thing) but I have never seen a man doing it with the idea of shopping around for a different wife.

Fair enough, but then WHY CHEAT?

Why not just put the goods on the table and be done with it? Why the charade?

Sometimes the man lies about his wife. That they are separating or they have an open marriage. This works better with younger girls. If the girl hasn't had any real experiences and a guy is showing her attention, sometimes she can be drawn into it. He's doing it for variety more than anything else.

The only time you're a cheater is when you've made a commitment to someone saying you won't. It's usually the single party that takes the blame because no-one wants to blame the person they love, although that's the person who should take most if not all of the blame.

Another question

Why get mad if ur partner enjoys sex with another, u should be happy for them.

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Because marriage is HARD.






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Last Edited by Agent Tray on 04/29/2013 10:54 PM

I question if monogamy is a natural human inclination or just indoctrination.

Last Edited by Agent Tray on 04/29/2013 10:54 PM

Why do u think men need to spread their seed.
Of course it's not natural.

It's natural for a lot of people but maybe not everyone is up for it.