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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 31128946  United States05/02/2013 02:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14207070 United States05/02/2013 02:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | appreciate the time you had with him and what kind of person he was. that's all you can really do. my dad passed six years ago. he always meant well, but his demons got in the way. he was not the best dad, was selfish, let down his family, etc. despite all that i still love and miss him so i know how you feel. |
| M*walk Low Earth Orbit  User ID: 1067150 United States05/02/2013 02:15 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's been almost seven years since my dad passed. Today, my cousin showed me a picture of him she found when cleaning out her house. My cousin's little boy who was two at the time was sitting on his lap, and pulling on his beard. That boy died of a brain tumor shortly after my dad died. Seeing the picture of the two of them together was just too much for me. I burst into tears. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31128946 I miss my dad so much. He was the best dad in the world. He never wanted anything for himself. It was always about providing for the family. He worked crazy hours, but would drop what he was doing to spend time with me. People say that you get over it, but I don't think I ever really will. I have only learned to pretend to everyone that I am. You'll see him again, on the other side. I promise. “The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants.” |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 31128946 United States05/02/2013 02:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | appreciate the time you had with him and what kind of person he was. that's all you can really do. my dad passed six years ago. he always meant well, but his demons got in the way. he was not the best dad, was selfish, let down his family, etc. despite all that i still love and miss him so i know how you feel. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14207070 I'm sorry about your dad. I know it wouldn't have mattered what my dad did. I still would have loved and missed him because he was my dad. I guess though what's difficult is that he was so great. I'm a mother now, and he has never met my daughter. I know he would have been the world's best grandpa, but she'll never know him. It's hard for me. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 31128946 United States05/02/2013 02:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's been almost seven years since my dad passed. Today, my cousin showed me a picture of him she found when cleaning out her house. My cousin's little boy who was two at the time was sitting on his lap, and pulling on his beard. That boy died of a brain tumor shortly after my dad died. Seeing the picture of the two of them together was just too much for me. I burst into tears. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31128946 I miss my dad so much. He was the best dad in the world. He never wanted anything for himself. It was always about providing for the family. He worked crazy hours, but would drop what he was doing to spend time with me. People say that you get over it, but I don't think I ever really will. I have only learned to pretend to everyone that I am. You'll see him again, on the other side. I promise. Thanks.  You sound so sure. Are you some kind of medium? |
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| CrapWhisperer User ID: 4126031 United States05/02/2013 02:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | {{{{{hugs}}}}} I don't think some pain ever really goes away either.. there are days it's less in the forefront but this is only a testament to how true your love for each other and why the bond remains unbroken But maybe in people God plants a seed, and only when they've bloomed to their fullest beauty does he pick them to come home. It's your duty to still keep blooming right now. Some days will be more awful than others but try to find some peace in knowing that one day it will be your turn to meet again in that heavenly garden. “The illusion of freedom will continue as long as it's profitable to continue the illusion. At the point where the illusion becomes too expensive to maintain, they will just take down the scenery, they will pull back the curtains, they will move the tables and chairs out of the way and you will see the brick wall at the back of the theater.” -- Frank Zappa |
| LiamJones User ID: 27821942 United States05/02/2013 02:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He was a wonderful father and I have nothing but happy memories of him. This has made it very easy to cope for me - there were no negatives in his life and he lived to a good age. He leaves behind children, grandchildren and even a couple of great-grandchildren. Of course I'm desperately sad that he's gone, but I pray I can live such a long, happy and productive life. |
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| goodmockingbird User ID: 24568365 United States05/02/2013 02:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | People say that you get over it, but I don't think I ever really will. I have only learned to pretend to everyone that I am. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31128946 People who say to get over the death of a father are fools. We integrate it, we adapt around the loss. We remake ourselves with his memory and legacy internalised. It's okay to miss a father, miss him intensely, even decades later. No sense in pretending we are 'over it'. Over the shock, over the pain perhaps, but 'over' the loss? Never. The one man who would give everything for us is gone. Gone on ahead, perhaps, but gone from this life. We remake ourselves as best we can as a living honor to his memory. And I think we will be in presence again.  I Support Our First Responders |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 31128946 United States05/02/2013 02:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I lost my father just a few weeks ago. He died an unpleasant death from fast-moving cancer. Just before he died he got to meet my 18 month old baby boy who he had never met before as we live 4,000 miles away. He was holding on for that moment. Once we left he passed very quickly. Quoting: LiamJones He was a wonderful father and I have nothing but happy memories of him. This has made it very easy to cope for me - there were no negatives in his life and he lived to a good age. He leaves behind children, grandchildren and even a couple of great-grandchildren. Of course I'm desperately sad that he's gone, but I pray I can live such a long, happy and productive life. I'm so sorry about your father. That's a blessing that he got to see your son. I'm sure he was waiting for that moment. I can't imagine living 4,000 miles away. That's probably another reason I took it so hard. We died when I was only 19, and I was still living at home going to community college. We had just reached a point in our relationship where I was an adult, and could become "friends". |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 31128946 United States05/02/2013 02:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | People say that you get over it, but I don't think I ever really will. I have only learned to pretend to everyone that I am. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31128946 People who say to get over the death of a father are fools. We integrate it, we adapt around the loss. We remake ourselves with his memory and legacy internalised. It's okay to miss a father, miss him intensely, even decades later. No sense in pretending we are 'over it'. Over the shock, over the pain perhaps, but 'over' the loss? Never. The one man who would give everything for us is gone. Gone on ahead, perhaps, but gone from this life. We remake ourselves as best we can as a living honor to his memory. And I think we will be in presence again. You said it so well! The wound heals, but the callous is always there. There have been times I was afraid, or uncertain of what to do. I know in my heart that if he'd been here, he would have been able to fix it. He would have moved Heaven and Earth for me. I needed him, especially as young as I was when he died. This caused me to become angry and bitter for years. But, it's not just about needing him. It's about our love for each other. I miss him...his jokes, his stories, his kindness. I can't wait to see him again. |
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| PopeJean User ID: 9557683 United States05/02/2013 02:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So sorry for your loss, OP. I lost my dad 15 months after my mom. And not quite a year before I got pregnant with my son. It is so hard, knowing how they both would love their grandchild. I feel for you. I too believe that you will be reunited with him again, for we are all eternal beings of light, without end :) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 39071320  Canada05/02/2013 02:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's been almost seven years since my dad passed. Today, my cousin showed me a picture of him she found when cleaning out her house. My cousin's little boy who was two at the time was sitting on his lap, and pulling on his beard. That boy died of a brain tumor shortly after my dad died. Seeing the picture of the two of them together was just too much for me. I burst into tears. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31128946 I miss my dad so much. He was the best dad in the world. He never wanted anything for himself. It was always about providing for the family. He worked crazy hours, but would drop what he was doing to spend time with me. People say that you get over it, but I don't think I ever really will. I have only learned to pretend to everyone that I am. My heart go with you OP, I lost my dad when I was 6. It's a curse and a blessing since I only have vague memory of him, so I don't miss him much but still... |
| russ59dd User ID: 1230186 United States05/02/2013 02:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My Dad passed 9-9-2005. I still tell him I miss him and love him and thank you. This is what happens when you have a good father. As others have said, he would want you to live your life well and enjoy it. They don't want us to forget about them, but too much grief may limit them...there is something else, I am 100% sure of that, and will write again to tell you of my experiences |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 34411972 Canada05/02/2013 04:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's been almost seven years since my dad passed. Today, my cousin showed me a picture of him she found when cleaning out her house. My cousin's little boy who was two at the time was sitting on his lap, and pulling on his beard. That boy died of a brain tumor shortly after my dad died. Seeing the picture of the two of them together was just too much for me. I burst into tears. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31128946 I miss my dad so much. He was the best dad in the world. He never wanted anything for himself. It was always about providing for the family. He worked crazy hours, but would drop what he was doing to spend time with me. People say that you get over it, but I don't think I ever really will. I have only learned to pretend to everyone that I am. :( I'm so sorry for your pain. I can't even imagine the thought of losing my dad. |
| JUST HERE User ID: 25610447 United States05/02/2013 11:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I lost my wife over 5 years ago. I still have sad days and can still cry. I ain't easy losing a loved one. Harder if that loved one loved you back. Quoting: indiandave we are in the same boat  , lost my wife in 2008 , still cry each dayLast Edited by JUST HERE on 05/02/2013 11:08 PM :glp sign: |
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