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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26396568  United States06/03/2013 10:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36597376 United States06/03/2013 10:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yeah, sounds like you are pussy-whipped OP. You are the sole provider and she gets bitchy if your grown kids as for help money, you say no, meanwhile you support her 20 year old son and 21 year old girlfriend? Glad I am not your son because you sound like a real douche, leave her and take care of your actual family. It is obvious she is with you for financial support...you are 14 years older? Let me guess she is in her 40s and you are pushing 60? Cmon man, don't you see it? |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 40051142 United States06/03/2013 10:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She needs to find a job. That will take the guilt off of her and help you so that you don't have to work harder to make up for the difference. Also, I think that it's time to start letting the teat dry up and wean those adults. They should be able to take care of themselves. I know I sound a little harsh, and that it's easier said than done, but it's an easier fix than it seems.  |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 40979355  Australia06/03/2013 10:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 40639534 United States06/03/2013 10:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 26396568 United States06/03/2013 10:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 33560264 United States06/03/2013 10:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Do any of these kids work? IF not, it's time for them to start and start helping with bills.. If I were you, I would divide the bills up between them. IF they're not paid- they do not get it.. Start with Cable and internet. Buy yourself a USB AT&T card for your personal connection and take it with you when you leave for work. Stop busting your ass so they can sit at home and mooch off of you.. Or at least kick them out and only bust your ass for yourself. It's obvious they are taking blatant advantage of you. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19712778 United States06/03/2013 10:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Search the internet for the miracle nut growing formula. Take said formula. Poof Problems gone. TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS.. not hers |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 26396568 United States06/03/2013 10:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop supporting her 20 year old son and his girlfriend for a start and make them get jobs. If she hates the fact that you have to work to feed them all then she is being selfish in my opinion. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 41031800 tried that she got pissed saying all our trouble is because of my kids argument I want to avoid |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 26396568 United States06/03/2013 10:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Do any of these kids work? IF not, it's time for them to start and start helping with bills.. If I were you, I would divide the bills up between them. IF they're not paid- they do not get it.. Start with Cable and internet. Buy yourself a USB AT&T card for your personal connection and take it with you when you leave for work. Stop busting your ass so they can sit at home and mooch off of you.. Or at least kick them out and only bust your ass for yourself. It's obvious they are taking blatant advantage of you. I pay for everything and they all have cell phones. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 40979355 Australia06/03/2013 10:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 26396568 United States06/03/2013 10:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19712778 United States06/03/2013 10:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop supporting her 20 year old son and his girlfriend for a start and make them get jobs. If she hates the fact that you have to work to feed them all then she is being selfish in my opinion. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 41031800 tried that she got pissed saying all our trouble is because of my kids argument I want to avoid You are not looking for advice.. Clearly. Stop being a bitch and stop avoiding arguments. What are you afraid of? She's going to leave you? Not fucking likely.. You should be so lucky. Lay down the law and be done with it. Stop being a little scared bitch who is afraid of confrontation. Jesus fucking christ, little girly guys like you piss me off. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 33560264 United States06/03/2013 10:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Do any of these kids work? IF not, it's time for them to start and start helping with bills.. If I were you, I would divide the bills up between them. IF they're not paid- they do not get it.. Start with Cable and internet. Buy yourself a USB AT&T card for your personal connection and take it with you when you leave for work. Stop busting your ass so they can sit at home and mooch off of you.. Or at least kick them out and only bust your ass for yourself. It's obvious they are taking blatant advantage of you. I pay for everything and they all have cell phones. Telling you man, shut their phone off. Turn the internet and Cable off. They will then have a reason to become adults and work for a living and help out, or move out.. Seriously, you will kill yourself for their gain. Tell them this saturday, you're going to drive them around and collection / turn in job applications. And follow that through. My Ex's son still mooches off of her and her new man, he's 30 next year. Refuses to work, will not hold a job longer than a month and lies about why he gets fired or quits, stays up all night, sleep most of the day etc.. I have a new life, women etc.. I'm soo much happier. Grass on the other side isn't always greener because there's more shit.. ; ) |
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SaltyFlats  User ID: 35489870 United States06/03/2013 10:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been in cellular on the B2B front for over a decade with accolades. In 2011, I launched a retail store and crashed and burned! I have no shame in admitting that... That said, I've been surviving selling my old inventory and being clever on buying marketing and selling on Ebay. I'm training for a triathlon on Clearwater Beach in August and Ebay is gonna be my income until after race day and I get serious on bouncing back. Push her to sign up and start selling all the old junk in the closets ya'll don't care about. For real.... Last Edited by SaltyFlats on 06/03/2013 10:41 PM For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring. -Carl Sagan. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 26396568 United States06/03/2013 10:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 26396568 United States06/03/2013 10:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been in cellular on the B2B front for over a decade with accolades. In 2011, I launched a retail store and crashed and burned! I have no shame in admitting that... Quoting: SaltyFlats That said, I've been surviving on selling all my old inventory and being clever on buying and selling on Ebay. I'm training for a triathlon on Clearwater Beach in August and Ebay is gonna be my income until after race day and I get serious on bouncing back. Push her to sign up and start selling all the old junk in the closets ya'll don't care about. For real.... I get that plus she is a talented candle a soap maker |
| Mr. Reality User ID: 1350479 United States06/03/2013 10:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Lay down some ground rules for those lazy kids. If they are going to live at the house they will have jobs, and will help buy stuff for the people in it. “When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty.” -- Thomas Jefferson "My 2nd Amendment will Die with Me" -- iwinallday |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36199488  Germany06/03/2013 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| samanthasunflower User ID: 37056712 United States06/03/2013 10:38 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sounds like she really doesn't know what to do with herself. She needs to get out of the house, even if she has to take a minimum wage job. As for the adult leeches, they need to move out. The boyfriend needs gone this second. Your step children should be given a 30 days notice to find a job and start paying you rent, with a move out day from the house set. Save the rent money to pay their first/last/security deposit. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36876191 United States06/03/2013 10:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| wisc_natureboy User ID: 38787568 United States06/03/2013 10:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm guessing there are a few idle hands. Eating food prepared from raw ingredients is not only less costly, it tends to be more healthful. I had a similar 'issue' when my ex-gf's kids friends were eating at my house more than at their own homes. Soon we had sacks of rice, potatoes, dried beans, and dehydrated veges. Soon enough the kids friends stopped eating over, then not too long after that, the gf and her kids moved out. LoL. We all breathe the same air. .-.. --- ...- . / .- .-.. .-.. |
| Useless Cookie Eater User ID: 29696048 United States06/03/2013 10:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Grow a set of balls would be a good start.  |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36199488 Germany06/03/2013 10:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yeah. Grow a pair of nuts and leave. You are an ATM for her; nothing more. Pack up, leave, with no forwarding address for her. Life is too short to messing around with single (formerly) moms. They are nothing but trouble from get go. Your kids are grown, why would you need this hassle in your life? Dump her. And run like hell. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36199488 Germany06/03/2013 10:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Grow a set of balls would be a good start. Dang, we posted the same thought at the same time. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 33560264 United States06/03/2013 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Does your wife have any respect for you at all? I ask because I would never think of treating my husband that way. Food for thought. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27666882 guess what she asked of her ex husband ... 0.00 he never paid a dime for the 4 kids it was all on me She's playing you. |
| Useless Cookie Eater User ID: 29696048 United States06/03/2013 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My second marriage. She had a very nice paycheck but a difficult job. A career job she hated. Me, I am self employed with a very physical manual labor Job have to bust my ass. Her job is gone unemployment run out. But she doesn't get why I have to work more. She knows deep down that It's up to me to work more. But she feels guilt that I am 14 years older and not only supporting her but her kids and their kids friends. My kids have grown but if they need help she is not down with that. She knows that her family will suffer. But I support her 20 year old son and his 21 year old girl friend plus her daughters boyfriend that eats us out of house and home. But she hates when I work. I don't mind it is harder but I would die for her. But we never fought over money and know it is like 45,000 a year off Our income and its all on me to make it up. But she is insecure because of it. Any advice at wits end. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26396568 Grow a set of balls would be a good start. Dang, we posted the same thought at the same time. Great minds think alike. The guy is a doormat....being stepped all over. |
