I wouldn´t say it´s you.
It´s just that relationships mostly are not based on some substance. It´s necessary for both persons to dig deeper and that scares the shit out of the people. Facing your own is the hardest and that is relationship is about.
Everything is in a transformation process, there is a call in the soul, some hear it, most not.

But right now, that doesn´t matter so much anymore.
Just let everything go.
This is the thing, that works best for me, besides everything.