My wife died one year ago today, is it OK if I cry a lot?

cry on brother

I would hope you would.

It means you really loved her.

Best of luck to you.

im sorry for your loss

Yes. It's ok. It may be years before you go a day without thinking about your loss.

I wish you peace and I hope you are able to work through your grief.

Thanks guys.

Yes it's OK. Hope the sadness eases up for you OP.

:celestialheart:

Sorry OP.


Cry like its your job.

Nick@


Last Edited by Nickadeemus on 06/21/2013 10:28 PM

I'll cry for you brother. Marriage is a beautiful thing & the love of a good woman is very hard to find these days.

That's a nice photo, thanks.

didn't really expect this sort of reaction.

It's o.k. It's hard losing a spouse. I've heard it taking up to 3 years.

My father reached a very low point after his loss. He went to the doctor and they gave him meds. He didn't want to rely on them and reached out to the Lord in prayer. The next day, he told me the sadness/depression was lifted.

I'll pray for you.

Yes, it's ok.

You are in my prayers OP.

Her hand is on your shoulder.

Much love to you.

I saw a study done where it ranked different stresses human beings suffered & losing a spouse in the course of a long term marriage was #1.


Followed by child


Followed by parent (mother/father)


I just celebrated my 20th anniversary last month & have been with my wife since we first started highschool & I can totally agree with this.

My heart goes out to you OP.

Don't let anyone fool you. It takes a lifetime. Lost mine in 96. It still hurts.

Thanks. We were married for 28 years, I'm not a kid. I lost my dad a few years ago, but that was nothing like this. I miss her so much I can hardly stand it.

Thanks to all of you, if I don't respond to each post I hope you'll understand.

Hang in there, bro.

Yes you should cry

I send you hugs.

Talk as much as you like.

We are here for you.

Big boys don't cry but real men do.....

My wife, of 34 years, died 3 years ago and it is still hard to take. Only thing that helps is to stay busy so I don't think about it too much. But yes I cried for the first year or 2, it is only human.


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So sorry OP. It is still so recent. It takes about 5 years to adjust to it. Try and be gentle on yourself and spoil yourself a bit.

How do you get over your first love....especially if that first love became your wife for 20 or 30 years & she's no longer around?


You don't.


I know this may sound selfish, but I really hope I go before mine does.

I lost mine in 99....still hurts. Havent got remarried because I haven't found anyone that matches up to him. I think the major sadness tends to cut out at the 5 years mark though. Here is a forum for you to share your thoughts with others that have also lost a spouse etc;

[link to www.otrib.com]

Man, cry all you want. My heart goes out to you, if I lost my wife...

Man, there's a lot of grief at that site, thanks.

Best to you.

Absolutely.

Condolences. That sounds lame, but I mean it.

OP, it's more than justified to cry for and mourn the loved ones. However, I would like you to look at it from the bright side as well. You met a wonderful person in your life and you shared precious time together, filled with cheer and joy. Since you will always remember her, she will always be there with you.

It seems that you loved her so much, this I would assume that you went through wonderful experiences with her. I am not telling you to live on the memories, but if you remember the positive stuff that you went through and think about how it can feed your thoughts in a positive way, I am pretty sure than you will be able to move on with your life. Think about that nice walk in the park, or that road trip you did together. Think about the nice moments you had, instead of the pain that you feel.

Last but not least, if you go through the healing process with friends and relatives that are there to support you in your hardest moments, you will realize that you still are loved and wanted and have other things to live for.

I am not saying that it is easy, but positive thinking and being near loved ones is essential to go through this process of self-healing.