My wife died one year ago today, is it OK if I cry a lot?

Cause that's what's happening.

I really don't care what you think, and I'm not just fishing for sympathy.

Death Don't Have no Mercy.

OP, it's more than justified to cry for and mourn the loved ones. However, I would like you to look at it from the bright side as well. You met a wonderful person in your life and you shared precious time together, filled with cheer and joy. Since you will always remember her, she will always be there with you.

It seems that you loved her so much, this I would assume that you went through wonderful experiences with her. I am not telling you to live on the memories, but if you remember the positive stuff that you went through and think about how it can feed your thoughts in a positive way, I am pretty sure than you will be able to move on with your life. Think about that nice walk in the park, or that road trip you did together. Think about the nice moments you had, instead of the pain that you feel.

Last but not least, if you go through the healing process with friends and relatives that are there to support you in your hardest moments, you will realize that you still are loved and wanted and have other things to live for.

I am not saying that it is easy, but positive thinking and being near loved ones is essential to go through this process of self-healing.

Condolences. That sounds lame, but I mean it.

Condolences. That sounds lame, but I mean it.

Well fuck, man, of course it's okay.

The ones who don't, are the ones to feel sorry for OP.

So sorry for your loss, OP.

Crying is a great release when you miss the one you love but there is also something else that has helped me when I have rough days missing my husband.

I write him letters with news of my current life and about the kids. Or sometimes I write about memories of things that we did together. I then find myself laughing at some memories of funny things that happened to us and swear I even hear him laughing also. I always start out crying when I start to write but often somewhere in the letter I will find myself smiling or laughing. Just wanted to share that idea. Maybe it will help you also.

Wow, not one asshole response in 2 pages. There is still hope for the human race.

actually if i died i would wnt my partner not to suffer but carry on living and giving his love to someone who also deserves it.
grow some balls, find someone new, build a new life.
what is past, is past, we cant change that so it would be a mistake to waste lifetime.

I lost my wife 26 years ago when she just turned 40. It took a year before I cried. When you love someone it is good I think to try and remember all the good times. She was the love of my life and I try to not think of her death but all the good times we had. Ten years later I remarried and my new wife is great. You don't forget but you learn that life goes on and we all have our time to go. Feel grateful for the good times you had together. When it is over you have to move on but that does not mean you don't keep those happy memories. Death is part of life and we all get our turn.

Cause that's what's happening.

I really don't care what you think, and I'm not just fishing for sympathy.

Death Don't Have no Mercy.