| Users Online Now: 1,859 (Who's On?) | Visitors Today: 416,599 | |
| Pageviews Today: 674,568 | Threads Today: 222 | Posts Today: 4,107 |
| 08:22 AM | ||
| Users Online Now: 1,859 (Who's On?) | Visitors Today: 416,599 | |
| Pageviews Today: 674,568 | Threads Today: 222 | Posts Today: 4,107 |
| 08:22 AM | ||
Husband watched porn while I am pregnant. I feel insecure. Any advice ? | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 41936242  United States07/15/2013 08:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 40208301 United States07/15/2013 09:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am 6 months pregnant with our second child and I just learned when I got my internet hooked up my my husband immediately started watching porn. I found out because of that lovely history button to past sites. I had suspicion since he left lotion by the computer. Need I say more. I know he has viewed magazines in the past 11 years, and I've given him a piece of my mind about it, but this time it bothers me because I am not the fit person I use to be. But from my perspective I am not a huge pregnant lady. Just all belly. I never use to care because I felt there was no competition with a dirty girl in a magazine. I used to work out all the time and felt pretty good about myself. I know my hubby has issue with having sex with me being pregnant but I could use some advice with anyone in my predicament who may have gone or is going through the same thing. I am looking for positive advice only. I have never been through a problem like this before with my husband. I've talked to him about it and he's stopped but I'm still a little paranoid and insecure and any advice you could give would really help me out. Thanks for your answers. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 42910442 Assuming this is a genuine problem that you would genuinely like to solve.. Since you looked at the history, watch what he's been watching and be prepared to try and emulate what he desires. He'll be surprised and very appreciative. Like someone previously said, keep his prostate empty. DON'T listen to females that tell you to take an aggressive stance against him, especially considering your family. Women who do that either want to emasculate a man or they want to be single. If you want an emasculated man, just get a woman with a strap on because all you care about is having an appendage. Trust that he loves you, if you can't bring yourself to fulfill his desires then your relationship shouldn't be. Also, a little peace and quiet does wonders. Not like silent treatment but actual consideration of his quiet thoughts. Try not to vocalize every single thought you have, and keep pertinent stories to the basic who-what-where-when. He already has a lot on his mind, being pressured to act like he cares about an essay you memorized about what color you painted your toe nails and why just puts more unnecessary stress on him. Men are not women. Get a female friend to talk about petty things with. I repeat. MEN ARE NOT WOMEN. The only reason he doesn't tell you these things is because he truly loves you and doesn't want to hurt you feelings, so if you truly love him you'll try these things for at least a week. Keep in mind, love is real, but so are all the other thousands of combinations of chemicals in our bodies we call emotions. We are biological. We are animal. Our rudimentary roles must remain. Men are security. Women are satisfaction. Stop complicating things and you'll be better off. If you want to be alone or with a woman, ask a woman for advice. If you want to be with a man, ask a man |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 31128946 United States07/15/2013 11:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, I am so sorry. I know you must be so hurt. Let me just say, that is the most SELFISH thing I have ever heard. Here you are, being a good wife, carrying his baby, about to go through the pain of childbirth, and he is looking at other women. I've been pregnant, and it's hard enough because you feel big already...but to have your husband look at non pregnant women is just cruel and hateful. He has no respect for your feelings at all. Furthermore, he is committing adultery. Jesus said that a man who had lust had already committed adultery in his heart. God hates adultery, because it betrays your relationship, your trust, cuts down your self-esteem as you are feeling you can't "compete" with this porn, and ultimately destroys your marriage. Pornography is an addiction, so he the more he looks at it, the more he will want to look. Men often say that there are no "feelings" for the girls they're looking at, so it's not personal. They are wrong. It's absolutely personal, because they're breaking their vows to you. In addition, you are being robbed of energy, time, and affection . That time that he's spending staring at the computer, idolizing a naked woman he doesn't even know, he could be telling you how telling YOU how beautiful YOU are instead! I'm serious. It is a husband's job to encourage his wife...especially during times of insecurity. By building your self-esteem, he also builds up the marriage. Ultimately, I would recommend Christian counseling. Most men will fight you on this, but tell him you've had enough. Tell him "It's either porn...or me", and that he will lose his family if he doesn't cooperate. This sounds like tough love ,and it is. If you don't do this now, porn will destroy the marriage later. Remember, you are a good wife. You obviously love and care about him, and are bearing him his child. You DO NOT deserve this. Also, you ARE beautiful. Childbirth is a beautiful thing. You will be in my prayers. God bless, friend.  |
