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I'm on Social Security and lost everything. Should I end it all? | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 867017  Canada07/13/2013 12:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 30117519 United States07/13/2013 12:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Don't do it OP... think of your kids... they would be devastated. If they are young - it could negatively affect them in major ways for the rest of their lives... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 12887248 If your wife is like you say - you are better off without her. Your kids will know this... Think of the grandbabies you may one day have. You will love them so much. You may have great days again OP... life works in mysterious ways. Good luck to you OP... please ignore any idiot responses. You don't need to worry about anonymous strangers. So true. Remember that providing for your kids has and always mean more than just money. Try to undo the conditioning that your wife taught you that your only value was as a source of income. You are somuch more and its time to own up to it. |
beebee  User ID: 39963392 Canada07/13/2013 12:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, the taxpayer does NOT, I repeat, does NOT support welfare, social security or any other such program. It all comes out of your TRUST. Your TRUST is the BIRTH CERTIFICATE!!! If the BIRTH CERTIFICATE had anything to do with your birth, then why doesn't it have your mother/father/guardian's signature on it? Do yourself a favor and really research this stuff. beebee |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 43282902 United States07/13/2013 12:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 32084283 United States07/13/2013 12:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've found that when things are good, they are good, then when everything is wonderful, boom, boom, boom, shit happens. You can fall into depression, anxiety, and other mind fucks, but in the end, you need to STEP BACK, look at everything you've been challenged with throughout your LIFE SO FAR, and think about the current challenge, and address it as one. Think of it this way, you are here to LEARN and EXPERIENCE, and if you give up by suicide, you have failed, and will likely need to come back (I do not believe it is Karma, but a Soul Family evaluation that determines the need), and most likely, the one that you have fallen from, is part of your soul family, doing this with a purpose, and the purpose is to LEARN and GROW. Peace. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 42729307 United States07/13/2013 12:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| PresidentCamacho User ID: 43284617 United States07/13/2013 12:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | +1 The years passed, mankind became stupider at a frightening rate. Some had high hopes the genetic engineering would correct this trend in evolution, but sadly the greatest minds and resources where focused on conquering hair loss and prolonging erections. ~ Narrator (Idiocracy) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 42389013 Canada07/13/2013 12:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Op, There are a lot of people with personality disorders and they can damage anyone that ends up in a relationship with them. Life is hard at times, but be there for your kids when you can and all this will come to pass and a sunny day will shine once again. Don't give up on life no matter how hard it gets. You lost material objects and wasted too much time with the wrong women. Your spirit within is divine and never forget that. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14703874 United States07/13/2013 12:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| anonanon User ID: 36715343 United States07/13/2013 12:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Other than that, you have absolutely no reason to ever see her again. Certainly see your children and have a good relationship with them. But avoid being around such a toxic person and then find something good to do and good people to do it with. Even tho you are on social security, there are many places where you could work part time such as a Lowe's or a Walmart. They like older employees who are more dependable than the high schoolers. Check with social security to see what the limits are on what you can earn without affecting your benefits. Then go out and find it. It will take your mind off your problems for a few hours every day and get you up and out. Look at your life differently. Ultimately, you may be far happier out of the marriage than in it. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26795689 United States07/13/2013 12:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When you feel like you have nothing left to lose, you actually have everything to gain! You are measuring your perceived 'self worth' by society's standards. The truth is 'society's standards' are just a facade - an illusion that we were conditioned to accept and subscribe to! If you lived in another part of the world you could literally own nothing and you would be just like everyone else around you and no one would think any less of you. That's the truth. You are in a unique position in your life because your circumstances have enabled you to experience a 'falling away' from the physical, superficial nature of this temporary experience we are having here on Earth. By 'temporary' I mean that your actual existence is so much grander and more profound than this temporary lifetime you are experiencing right now. It's necessary for you to feel like you've hit the 'bottom' before you can ascend to the 'top'. It's necessary for you to feel like you've lost yourself before you can really find your true self. Look at what you're going through as a challenge - a test. It's NOT the end of the world for you no matter how much your mind tries to convince you that it is. You do not have to manipulate your external circumstances to 'fix' how you feel, nor do you have to end your life. The only 'changes' you need to make are internal ones. Your perception/perspective controls how you feel and how you react to your environment and these circumstances. When your old ways of thinking and processing this world are no longer sufficient and no longer functional for you - that's your sign that it's time to part ways with the old methods and ways of thinking and open yourself up to try something new. That it's time to become a innovator and push your normal boundaries of perception. Stay here and go through the process of re-inventing yourself. One day you are going to look back and see the higher purpose in having gone through this challenging experience in your life and ultimately be thankful that you did. "What you do today can improve all your tomorrows" |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 4284512 United States07/13/2013 12:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19490298 United States07/13/2013 01:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | SSDI is an insurance program that you paid into. No reason to feel guilty about anything unless you think you lied about your disability. No reason to hang your head low. Fuck anyone that tells you any different. A federal judge ruled your case, not the court of public opinion. I get both V.A. and SSDI and my body is beyond repair. I'm not going to let anyone put me down. Hold your head up and don't ever think of throwing in the towel. That's an easy out and too many people rely on you to live. People love you. Don't hurt them by being selfish. |
| olv User ID: 43255419 United States07/13/2013 01:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| KK User ID: 40337870 United States07/13/2013 01:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hang on, hang on, hang on!!! It will look better sometime; it will be better sometime. And, as far as the Social Security goes: #1: You paid into Social Security when you worked--it is not an entitlement, it is a type of savings plan. It is not welfare. #2: The government spends more on one worthless bomb than they would spend on keeping you going for years and years. Do the math; it will give you a reality check. As far as the rest goes--I am sorry about the way you have been treated. I have been there and I get it. Please hang on; life will change. |
| KK User ID: 40337870 United States07/13/2013 01:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hang on, hang on, hang on!!! It will look better sometime; it will be better sometime. And, as far as the Social Security goes: #1: You paid into Social Security when you worked--it is not an entitlement, it is a type of savings plan. It is not welfare. #2: The government spends more on one worthless bomb than they would spend on keeping you going for years and years. Do the math; it will give you a reality check. As far as the rest goes--I am sorry about the way you have been treated. I have been there and I get it. Please hang on; life will change. |
| A. Nonymous User ID: 40520729 United States07/13/2013 01:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "I'll most likely never amount to anything in the future and frankly I been hoping for the weekly doom posted on this site that never happens. Yay or Nay? This doesn't mean I am going to do it now nor does it mean I will do it in the future. I just grow tired of trying to figure it out myself." I know it is hard but you cannot do anything to harm yourself..Take one day at a time and things will eventually fall into place. It seems to me that you are better off without this woman who only brought you down leaving you with thoughts of misery and thinking of doing something which you can never undo. |
| LOU LA BELLE User ID: 2328655 United States07/13/2013 01:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am not the OP. But I personaly want to thank my glp family for the warm responses to him.I know what depression feels like, and I have to love it that I am reading wise and compassionate words from everyone. Thanks guys and gals,You are the reason, I come to this site, Bless you. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 43287894  Romania07/13/2013 01:08 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get your head right and start again. Somewhere out there is a woman waiting for you who will love you and work towards a happy family with you. The children will grow and see both their parents for what they are and make their own decisions about it. Quoting: Anonymous coward 1408355 Give yourself a bit of time, be kind to yourself and start doing something you like. Exercise or whatever for a start. I wish you the very best. Yeah, because there are women lining up around the block for guys on social security. There are alternatives until the situation is remedied. [link to www.adhuntr.com] |
| ElectricKoolaid User ID: 27383605 United States07/13/2013 01:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am one of them people you all bitch and complain about. How your tax dollars go to fund people who aren't worth it. I am one of them people, I feel don't deserve it. My marriage fell apart, I got blamed for everything that went wrong. I disagree with that, however I did my share of damage. Everything I inherited she kept. Everything that was community property she sold or gave away. I do go through terrible times in my own mind and I can't quite control that. I worked as hard as I could to provide for my family for many years then I lost my job because the wife said it wasn't her job to drive me to work. I did the only thing I could to continue providing for my family. I fought to get Social Security. She wouldn't get a job because she says "What kind of man makes his wife work?". I have a current court battle going on and don't really even care. My question is to you,I am not suicidal at this moment in time but have fought it for most of my life. Should I give in to the temptation next time or try to battle it out? I have considered blocking my wife and children from the Funeral as my children should not have to experience it. The wife, simply, I don't want her there. I feel she would have some sick satisfaction of seeing my dead body thrown into the ground. So this is the question. If I ever decide to do something like that in the future, Should I and save all you the money you put forth to help me and my family live the meager life we have endured? I have no weapons or plans just mulling it over. I am miserable and every time I see her I get even more miserable. She mentally and emotionally abused me but denies it to the end, even though people have witnessed it. She did say she hates me and can't stand looking at me and that was what set off our separation this last time. I'll most likely never amount to anything in the future and frankly I been hoping for the weekly doom posted on this site that never happens. Yay or Nay? This doesn't mean I am going to do it now nor does it mean I will do it in the future. I just grow tired of trying to figure it out myself. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1907998 Please, sir...be strong. All of this passes on eventually. Try to stay healthy and the rest will take care of itself. -- EK |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19880158 United States07/13/2013 01:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you off yourself, you are letting that cunt win.. Fuck her.. you are stronger than that. Your purpose in life is to prove to your kids you are the good one and she is a piece of shit. You will come back even stronger.. but it takes time.. If you gotta scream.. do it.. vent! but never surrender! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25374084 United States07/13/2013 01:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | One other thing to consider and it's an external force. We've all heard of H.a.a.r.p. right? Well, I did a little research and found this is one of their frequencies that they like to use, and guess what it does? 3.5 Hz Depression & Anxiety. Don't let them win. If they do manipulate your emotions with that shit, then know it and fight it. Your power is your knowledge and your knowledge is your defense. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 10422312 United States07/13/2013 01:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hey OP hang in there and try to bring your focus back to the world that God created, not the one that man created. Go swimming at a lake early in the morning or late at night. Go for a walk on a country road. Go hiking in the mountains or woods. Make sure that there is a stream or lake that you can watch during the trip. A wise man once said that there is no problem that you can't walk off. That doesn't mean that you will necessarily solve the problem, but just that you will come to peace with the problem if you walk long enough. And to be honest, some of my best and longest walks have been in one of the biggest cities in the US. I just kept walking until I was at peace with the world. Finally, regarding your wife, the comedian Louis CK has a funny bit about boys and girls. He says, "Boys fuck shit up, girls are fucked up. Boys do damage to your house that you can measure in dollars like a Hurricane. Girls, like, leave scars in your psyche that you find later like a genocide or an atrocity." I think his quote may be applicable. Hang in there man! Get out and get away! Breathe some fresh air and forget about this BS for a second. PS to answer your question; my household income is $250k per year this year and will be larger next year. We are completely OK with you chilling out on our dime until you get back on your feet, which you will once this period is behind you. We were both struggling until we had the opportunity to pursue an advanced education that changed our lives. The advise I gave you is the same thing my wife and I use to get perspective on our high pressure jobs. Good luck brother and hang in there! |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 1907998 United States07/13/2013 01:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I been happy lately away from her but when I think of her it is like all that happiness just disappears. My family sees me be happy when I am not around her. My mother said I was like a zombie when I would visit. Dead on the inside but walking and talking. I want to be happy but like I said, she just sucks the life right out of me. I am sure lots of men have experienced that in their lives and I feel for them. I never beat her as she claims I do. I guess some people call pushing someone away as abuse. But all the absolute horrible things she said to me wasn't. It is just easy to lose hope in this trying world we all live in. I lived in hell for most of my life and had bad experiences. My mother feels responsible for letting me live alone when I was in High school but I tell her my experiences make us who we are today. I hold no ill will to her for that. She is a good mother now. You all have kind words and are very intelligent. That's why I came here to ask. I am sure many of you have experienced the same thing in life and made it through to be stronger. I thank you for that. Peace my friends, I do come here a lot. |
| MrUncreated User ID: 14759572 United States07/13/2013 01:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | One other thing to consider and it's an external force. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25374084 We've all heard of H.a.a.r.p. right? Well, I did a little research and found this is one of their frequencies that they like to use, and guess what it does? 3.5 Hz Depression & Anxiety. Don't let them win. If they do manipulate your emotions with that shit, then know it and fight it. Your power is your knowledge and your knowledge is your defense. Is that true? I always wondered about that. It doesn't surprise me. Those motherfuckers. OP, don't kill yourself over some lowlife sperm dumpster. She'll probably end up with someone who beats her regularly, and she'll be wishing she had you back. But even if she bursts into flames, don't waste an ounce of piss to put her worthless ass out. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 41197959 United States07/13/2013 01:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I always respect a persons decision to check out of this shitty game on this godforsaken planet. But don't you ever do it over some selfish, self centered stupid, worthless fuc&king cunt!!! Your better than her! Don't give her the satisfaction! Keep in mind brother. All problems can be solved with a 25 cent bullet and a shovel!! Get back on your feet and show her what she lost!! |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 1907998 United States07/13/2013 01:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
