Man Shot, family puts up memorial, scares local children. | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 28292598 United States 08/20/2013 05:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You know nothing of the guy. Weed... c'mon really? It's legal in some states and used as a medicine in most. He could have been selling it to help supplement his income. Maybe he was paying for chemo for a sick child. Way to judge. You are the epitome of a sheeple. Alcohol kills more people than WEED . People like you suck |
Elfsong (OP) User ID: 45418695 United States 08/20/2013 05:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You know nothing of the guy. Weed... c'mon really? It's legal in some states and used as a medicine in most. He could have been selling it to help supplement his income. Maybe he was paying for chemo for a sick child. Way to judge. You are the epitome of a sheeple. Alcohol kills more people than WEED . People like you suck Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28292598 Really? I have said nothing about when he was doing it, ... it was during the morning, we were just lucky that it was on a Sunday and there were no children in the area. Granted, Weed is not that bad. But I would feel the same way if he was selling Alcohol in the same manor. My point is, the Memorial is scaring the children in the area. What about their rights? People like you take great pleasure in scaring small children. working with Positive Thoughts will result in Positive Outcomes. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 45130653 United States 08/20/2013 05:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In all honesty, it's a memorial. And it is just some weed. Shit like this is why the substance is looked at poorly. A year though? I'd say 6 months at the most. Or carving something into the tree, maybe the initials and the year of birth and year of death. Still, grieving family. If you were to complain, it would be a dick move. |
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Elfsong (OP) User ID: 45418695 United States 08/21/2013 04:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Plus, kids get scared of shadows and creaks in the house at night. And a memorial should bring more vigilance to the area. My parents wouldn't let me go anywhere alone till I could drive myself. I don't like scaring children, but I think that's not a good enough excuse to take down a memorial. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45130653 Again....Really? Then I guess it is ok for you to encourage their fear about violence in their neighborhood park. I understand that they want the right to grieve, but I believe that it should be a private thing and once you have had your Memorial, move it to your own yard. Then, if you want to keep it up for a year, it is on your property and you can stare at it for a year. Keeping yourself in that constant state of grief, not moving on and healing like you should. working with Positive Thoughts will result in Positive Outcomes. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1053533 United States 08/21/2013 04:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My guess is that the memorial is actually bothering you, not the kids. Oh, they don't want to go to the park, because a man died there, making it took close to home and real. They're kids. They may never return to the haunted park, or they may be back in a month of two. As for the rest... The family is grieving and will leave soon enough. Pushing them on the issue will just get them to dig their heals in and stay longer, to keep you from harming the memory of their loved one. Worse, now, when they leave, even if you don't touch the memorial, when someone finally does, guess who is going to be blamed for it? (If you thought, not me, then I have some excellent land in Florida to sell you. A great place and close to a wetlands preserve!) |
Elfsong (OP) User ID: 45418695 United States 08/21/2013 04:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My guess is that the memorial is actually bothering you, not the kids. Oh, they don't want to go to the park, because a man died there, making it took close to home and real. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1053533 They're kids. They may never return to the haunted park, or they may be back in a month of two. As for the rest... The family is grieving and will leave soon enough. Pushing them on the issue will just get them to dig their heals in and stay longer, to keep you from harming the memory of their loved one. Worse, now, when they leave, even if you don't touch the memorial, when someone finally does, guess who is going to be blamed for it? (If you thought, not me, then I have some excellent land in Florida to sell you. A great place and close to a wetlands preserve!) Of this, I believe you are correct. Partly because I do not want to have to be reminded that this type of violence has come into our neighborhood, and partly because of the reaction I have seen from the children leaving the school down the street. I have made sure that I have not returned the park unless I have someone with me. Partly because I want to make sure I have a witness to verify that I have not touched their memorial, and partly because of the people that are there at the memorial. Like I said, if they want a year round memorial, then they need to set it up on their property. This way they can maintain it any way they want. I just do not want it outside my front door. (ok, so it is across the street, but every time I open the door, there it is.) working with Positive Thoughts will result in Positive Outcomes. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44985418 United States 08/21/2013 05:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My guess is that the memorial is actually bothering you, not the kids. Oh, they don't want to go to the park, because a man died there, making it took close to home and real. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1053533 They're kids. They may never return to the haunted park, or they may be back in a month of two. As for the rest... The family is grieving and will leave soon enough. Pushing them on the issue will just get them to dig their heals in and stay longer, to keep you from harming the memory of their loved one. Worse, now, when they leave, even if you don't touch the memorial, when someone finally does, guess who is going to be blamed for it? (If you thought, not me, then I have some excellent land in Florida to sell you. A great place and close to a wetlands preserve!) Of this, I believe you are correct. Partly because I do not want to have to be reminded that this type of violence has come into our neighborhood, and partly because of the reaction I have seen from the children leaving the school down the street. I have made sure that I have not returned the park unless I have someone with me. Partly because I want to make sure I have a witness to verify that I have not touched their memorial, and partly because of the people that are there at the memorial. Like I said, if they want a year round memorial, then they need to set it up on their property. This way they can maintain it any way they want. I just do not want it outside my front door. (ok, so it is across the street, but every time I open the door, there it is.) Wow, you must live in cave. Around my whole state there are Crosses " Memorials " of deceased loved ones Everywhere, for every reason, and they stay up, I don't know, seems like years. No one EVER gave anyone shit for putting one near their house, that's crazy. My daughter asked me once what they meant and people go there sometimes, I just explained that someone lost someone they loved and missed and they put that cross there to remember them and mark the spot that their lost Family member/Friend left this world, and it allows other family members and friends to have a place to go to drop off their love and respect. If you keep sheltering your children and essentially keeping blindfolds on them, then when they get a little older and that blindfold gets ripped off by little Tommy in school and he starts to see the world as it really is your gonna be dealing with the most curious, defiant kid ever.The only reason your kid is "Afraid" is because you allowed it. On another note, Why is your child afraid even if your with him/her? Is it that you are afraid, If so Id say most likely if you walked by on your way to playground and told them your sorry for their loss etc you'd find them to be thankful and respectful ( maybe a little late now since you had already said something to them but. ) If you wanted to play with their psyche you could do that as well at that point, Pay condolences and respect and tell them 'I feel so much safer with you guys out here, we need to put a stop to these mindless killings and crimes.' I guarantee their whole mentality for why they are standing there will change. |
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Elfsong (OP) User ID: 29511012 United States 08/23/2013 12:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If these people want a memorial of their dead loved one (who was selling drugs) and make him a hero... then put the memorial up in their front yard. Not mine. working with Positive Thoughts will result in Positive Outcomes. |
samanthasunflower User ID: 37056712 United States 08/23/2013 12:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They lost their family member, let them grieve. He was selling weed, not meth. He didn't deserve to die and they need to have time to deal with it. The children won't get freaked out about it unless adults get freaked out about it. Instead of adding to their fears, why not have them do something constructive. |
Elfsong (OP) User ID: 29511012 United States 08/23/2013 01:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They lost their family member, let them grieve. He was selling weed, not meth. He didn't deserve to die and they need to have time to deal with it. Quoting: samanthasunflower The children won't get freaked out about it unless adults get freaked out about it. Instead of adding to their fears, why not have them do something constructive. Now that is a good idea...they can go over and take it down and hand it back to the family members and ask them kindly to take it somewhere else. working with Positive Thoughts will result in Positive Outcomes. |
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