if i know my friends wife is cheating on him.

bro's before ho's

no. he told me when he was cheating on her. And he was at work. she dropped him off at work because come to find out her car had something wrong with it. so she said she need his car and dropped him off at work. He actually hasn't cheated on her in a couple years. im not sure if he just grew up or the opportunity hasn't presented itself but its been a couple years since he cheated on her far as i know. seems he as been more serious the last couple years.
But he never told her had been cheating before. She suspected but i never admitted it.

I REALLY assumed because his wife knows i know she is cheating and caught her. She would have told him and just come clean. im still surprised she hasn't and cant figure out why.

Very very awkward, talking to either of them or seeing either of them now. why i was thinking i would just avoid them for a few weeks and maybe it will hit the fan without me getting the back lash of it.

Because she is aware that you saw her, she is already scheming to poison your friendship and probably already scheming divorce is she wants to leave.

YOu should send him an anonymous email or a letter and send any evidence.

Your friendship will probably end with this dude because she knows you saw her, so the best you can do is try and help your friend out and walk away from the two losers with your own dignity intact.

other thing is, well i told my wife. Obviously, she was with me in the park and asked me when i went back over to her if it had been his car. well, i just spilled it and told her. Now im wondering who she told. She knows them both too. He is more my friend, but she knows them through me. we also have a couple other friends in common.....

Or course not, but later on in life after he finds out from someone else, and then finds out the OP knew, he wont be friends with him either.

Tell him now if you want to remain friends.

Dont tell him if you dont care about him.

He will find out sooner or later about his wife, and it could really cost him more than just his wife.

ie if she takes his house, car, kids, etc, etc.

If he knows, at least he can prepare something and act first.

If you are not really true friends, dont do anything.

make him read this thread!

I've seen a lot of 'murder' programs that sound just like this... stay away!

might actually be the best way if i decide to say something. because i cant even think of how i would tell him his wife was cheating on him, or make him believe me.

so what does he think of his wife? will this hurt him a lot if he learn?

couple years ago. when they were less serious. He was already cheating on her. i think he would have been mad.

since he has buckled down in the last couple years in the marriage. i actually think this would devastate him now.

what could be said anyway?

"hey dale i saw your wife getting fucked in your car the other day"

Dont tell him. Though it is getting complicated as she knows you know what she did. Maybe talk to her? What if it is nothing serious and she has already regreted it?

you should have taken a picture. Good blackmail evidence to get her to fuck you.

if you didnt tell here there is no reason you should tell him

Don't tell him directly as you, but make sure he finds out.

They are goona be toast either way so tell him

He will be your freind in the future if you tell him,
he will not if he finds out you knew

So you can either tell and be a good freind or lose your freind

either way that pig whore is toast

There is only one relationship to save in that mess and thats your freindship. FORGET THE WHORE TELL YOUR FREIND

If you do have to tell him directly, say Look, I have to say something that's going to suck to hear ad I want you to know that we never have to mention it, talk about it, or remember this conversation happened again if that's what you want.

This is the only truly adult answer on the thread. The responses are great for an education on just how depraved popular culture is today however.

For those who's saying that he'll resent not being told, well, you see, that's entirely up to the word, or lack thereof, if admitting knowledge.

If you mind your own business, you'll be busy all the time and won't post threads like this.

If I knew without a doubt that my friend's spouse was cheating on them I would tell them. I know I would want to know and I would be pissed if I knew my friend knew something and didn't tell me.

I can't believe none of you would tell your friend. If my girlfriend knew my husband was cheating on me and didn't say anything she wouldn't be my friend for very long.

I wouldn't be able to look my friend in the face as she's telling me she has suspicions her husband is cheating and I tell her not to worry or some crap.

If it's someone I'm just familiar with I wouldn't say anything but if it's a fairly close friend I'm telling.

well I called over there. she said he wasn't home and asked me not to call back.
I tried his cellphone. no answer. I didn't think it would be appropriate to leave it for a message.

Depends on the cheating i guess (where it can lead) and how your friend will cope with it. Many people just dont want to know, they prefer to ignore the signs that are obvious for everyone else but them.

Been through this before. Say nothing. If you tell your friend, you will have to produce proof. If you show proof, you will lose your friend. If you don't show proof, you will lose your friend. If they get divorced, you will be to blame. Shut up, look forward, and say nothing. She will be caught eventually.

Gotta love how 100% of the bean flicking 300lb females say MYOB, while all guys say TELLHIM!

I have samedilemna but i dont have 100% confirmation. My friends uber hot wife cheated onhimbefore, admitted it, they worked it out supposedly and stayed married, here we are 4 years later andi think she's cheatin again..
What do the non-bean flicking Glippers make of these behaviours for hot wife:
Daily, sometimes multiple per day, trips to "the store" for anything from milk, to hair products to candy. Sometimeslate at night too, andwelive in ahigh crime area....

Telling him she's going to location "a" and then calling to report car broke down in area "b" across town from "a"....

Walking aroundin street in front ofhouse to make cel phone calls because "cel has no reception inside house"...

Stay at home mom , but always pawning kids off on babysitter or neighbors while hubby away at work- used to be VERY frequent. Hubby works nights sometimes graveyard 12's

Frequently makes point of saying "i dont care" when we joke about hookers or other women (while we hang out, or party at friends houseboat...

Whaddya think gliptards, how could confirm extracurricular dick action??

That's what ive been doing for a week. Im going to have to just avoid them both if I keep doing this. it is too awkward for me knowing and acting like I don't. Especially when he is telling me his wife isn't acting like she normally does and she is giving me strange looks.

she is going into damage control mode now

I also have that picture of her in my head of her staring back at me naked while she was doing it. I also cant help but wonder if she even stopped realizing she had been seen or just kept going. Granted,it was only a couple seconds I looked in the car but Its like a still frame image in my head. I cant look at her the same. When I looked at her when she answered the door the other day that picture in my mind of her naked and fucking and staring back at me comes up while im looking at her.

And I do wonder, if she just kept going or it was just to quick a moment to stop and she needed a couple seconds to react and stopped after I had walked away.