My Girlfriend Left Me for another Man. What should I do?

Oh, you LOVE her?
Are you sure about that?

move on. Would you really want to take back that other guys' seconds?

If you love her why do you treat her wrongly?

Learn from it.

Next time try to appreciate the person before she leaves you. Sorry to say, once a woman moves forward, she rarely looks back.

After a few years, it gets tedious, you know? But I'm realizing more and more that she was soooo good to me. Hey, I'm a man after all. The relationship got a little boring. But now that she's gone, I feel a part of me is gone. And I feel that it would be hard to find someone so good to me.

well, he's taking my seconds, i guess i'd be taking his too.

You can't love someone that doesn't love you back.

If she left you for someone else, it's not just because you weren't treating her right, it's because she liked/loved someone else.

Move on with your life and forget about her. All you're doing is prolonging your misery by thinking about her and thinking (falsely) that there's hope for her and you.

It's over, and you have to move on.

Only boring people get bored.

Take it to heart. I tell that to my kids all the time. It's true.

Well, mate, you should CHEER and count your GOOD FORTUNE because you have been saved from a life of woe at the hands of a woman who has no love for anyone but herself and pity the fool that has taken up with her... in a year you will be able to talk with him, because he, like you, will have been used as well.

So... count your GOOD FORTUNE.

Now, brush yourself off and wait for a woman with some character to show up in your life.

miscreant is right, while guys always get nostalgic for ex-girlfriends women don't seem to look back. Find somebody new.

That shit happened to me a couple times. You find a girl who does any and everything for you, and you neglect her. Then one day she is gone and aint coming back. it sucks.

Hey bro, I am ina similar situation. First of all, she is not comming back. You have to accept that first. If she is that important to you, you can try to form some kind of freindship, but usaully they know how to break free and leave there past behind. More than likey you will not be in any part of her future.

What I did, was cry. Cry. cry. then cry some more..then try to move on.. I have met lots of women..but non that even compares with my ex. Maybe I should stop trying to compare them all with her.. after all she left me.

thanks everyone.

i am a boring person, i admit me. but i don't really mind.

to the last poster, you might be right. she left in a hurry, without warning. no talking, no sharing, no nothing. just met someone and off she went. i might be better off... but i do miss her.

Thats one reason why women never come back, they always have an exit plan. They wont leave til they have a backup.

without a backup men get horny after a week or two, and start pining for the pussy that used to be at beckon call.

women are like the bus...
another comes by every 20 minutes...
have faith...there are good ones out there
you just have to wait...that's the hard part.

keep the faith

Well, mate, you should CHEER and count your GOOD FORTUNE because you have been saved from a life of woe at the hands of a woman who has no love for anyone but herself and pity the fool that has taken up with her... in a year you will be able to talk with him, because he, like you, will have been used as well.

So... count your GOOD FORTUNE.

Now, brush yourself off and wait for a woman with some character to show up in your life.

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thanks. you are completely right.

thanks everyone. i almost called her again to beg her to let me see her. i know women hate weak men more than anything and it'll only make it worse.

i'll keep the faith and learn from this.

Live and learn. Time to move on.

You only think you love her now because she left you... you want what you can't have.

Learn from your mistakes cause if you do your next relationship could be much happier for it. As one of my hero's once told me... "I remember when I lost my first love. I never thought I would be able to fall in love again... until I met my wife."

If at all possible, fuck all of her friends, or as many as you can.

Happens all the time, just forget about her.... or put in your mind that she was a total bitch for the way that she left you and it is her loss.

It helps...

I know exactly what your going through cause ive been through the same thing and I wish some1 had told me the stuff everyone on here is telling you, but i hope you can learn from what happened to me. About a year ago my ex cheated on me/left me for another guy and I was so cut, did everything i could to get her back.. and was sucessful, she came back to me and I can tell you now nothing will ever be the same my friend. For 2 year after I got her back it was never the same, I dont know about you but normally people can never truely forgive someone for leaving them, especially for another guy. If the relationship is at the point were one of you can find some1 better then its not worth being in anyway. I broke up with the ex about 3 months ago and it was so shit for a while but better things come along, I met my dream girl after I let the ex go. It might suck now but the sooner you realise you should get over it the sooner you can. peace

Woopits_

Move on, OP. Learn from your mistakes.

It's a pity when people don't realize how good they've got it until the mate is gone. Remember this lesson in the future and appreciate your loved one, don't take them for granted even for a moment.

I have no sympathy for OP. Men lie, lie, lie, and lie some more. By admitting he was bored and took his girlfriend for granted, he is actually saying he cheated every chance he could get. The fact is that the OP cannot love. You have to learn how from your parents. If your parents are divorced or psychotic or drunk, they cannot produce human beings capable of having loving relationships. For such people who are willing to try to love, they have to go through a lot of therapy. They have to realize why they chose the person they did and why they behaved the way they did. The Op does not have that opportunity, because his ex has moved on.
I tell men that I don't care about anything, except how they treat me. If they lie to me, cheat on me, or neglect me, I am history.

Persistence pays.

Sometimes you have to lose what you have before you value it.

Keep trying!

Don't let go,hold on forever.

Move on and learn that the next time someone comes along who you enjoy being with and have deep feelings for do NOT take her for granted.

To help you get over her it sometimes helps (I am told) to have a friend who allows you to "have privileges". Easy for those who are good looking I suppose, but for most of us that is a tough one.

Now that I am older, though not necessarily wiser, I have learned that being alone is a LOT better than being with a -itch ... and as a result just go out and try to do things I enjoy and not worry about the social life aspects of life. In doing that I have found that I actually have more fun and often women just sort of appear out of the ether because I am enjoying myself. Most of the time those women are just people to do things with (not sex), which is fun because I feel there is absolutely no pressure on me to be anything but myself.

Learn to enjoy life on your own while treating people well ... and life will treat you well. People like to be around HAPPY people ... not people who are moping around feeling sorry for themselves. Learn to be HAPPY by and about yourself and life will turn out A-OK.

You only think you love her now because she left you... you want what you can't have.

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agreed.

thanks woopits, for your story.

and to the lady who said i cheated... no, i did not.