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Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?

 
Anonymous Coward
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11/16/2013 12:36 AM
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Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
I think I am having serious mental health issues following the suicide of my loved partner of 3 years.

He took his life only a month ago, but for me the pain of losing him just gets worse as the days go by.

I have been unable to return to work, and concentrating on anything is very difficult.

Is there anyone here who has been through something similar? And how did you cope/ get through?
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
Maybe you should talk to a therapist about it. That's a very traumatic situation.
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11/16/2013 12:39 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
No, but my baby daughter died.
14 years ago.
Cope? I've never gotten over it and likely never will.
Some things you don't ever get through, you just endure.
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11/16/2013 12:40 AM
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Attend a suicide awareness group. Talk to others who have experienced loss.

And I know you will read this but it won't ease the pain... But it was never your fault.
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11/16/2013 12:40 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
I think I am having serious mental health issues following the suicide of my loved partner of 3 years.

He took his life only a month ago, but for me the pain of losing him just gets worse as the days go by.

I have been unable to return to work, and concentrating on anything is very difficult.

Is there anyone here who has been through something similar? And how did you cope/ get through?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50049172


Harden the fuck up
Anonymous Coward (OP)
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11/16/2013 12:42 AM
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Yeah, I might have to go and see a counsellor/therapist or someone qualified.

I'm usually such an independent woman,I can't stand the thought of sharing my innermost feelings with some twerp who has gotten all of their 'education' out of books instead of actually having experienced something like this in real life.
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11/16/2013 12:43 AM

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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
He made the decision that he wanted to see God via the early bird special.

Now take care of yourself.
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11/16/2013 12:45 AM
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Try to spend time with some good friends. Forgive and let go with love.
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11/16/2013 12:46 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
No, but my baby daughter died.
14 years ago.
Cope? I've never gotten over it and likely never will.
Some things you don't ever get through, you just endure.
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I am very sad to hear that you are still enduring such pain after so many years. Thankyou for your post
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11/16/2013 12:48 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
Attend a suicide awareness group. Talk to others who have experienced loss.

And I know you will read this but it won't ease the pain... But it was never your fault.
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Yes, a group might be good for me, rather than one on one counselling. It's actually very hard not to feel some kind of responsibility for what happened, but I appreciate your kind words.
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11/16/2013 12:50 AM
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He made the decision that he wanted to see God via the early bird special.

Now take care of yourself.
 Quoting: WhatsItAllAbout Alfie


He didn't believe in God, and it was too early, he was only 45.

Trying to take care of myself now, but very difficult.
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11/16/2013 12:51 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
I think I am having serious mental health issues following the suicide of my loved partner of 3 years.

He took his life only a month ago, but for me the pain of losing him just gets worse as the days go by.

I have been unable to return to work, and concentrating on anything is very difficult.

Is there anyone here who has been through something similar? And how did you cope/ get through?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50049172


I am not surprised it gets worse as the days go by. First you must have been in shock and disbelief. Now as days go on reality is setting in. Try and return to work even if you don't function as well as normal.

Be kind to yourself and do something, anything, you like every day.

I am so sorry this has happened to you. Can't imagine how his parents feel. You need to force yourself to live as normally as possible until you are back to normal life for you.
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11/16/2013 12:52 AM
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sorry op, but we all have to confront the deaths of those we love eventually unless we die before them of course. only one thing that heals the pain and thats time, you never totally heal but in time those deep cuts become scars.
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11/16/2013 12:54 AM
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Try to spend time with some good friends. Forgive and let go with love.
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Thankyou for posting. Yes, I am blessed to have some really good friends who I can be myself around.

But they also have lives to lead, and I really don't want to burden anyone I love with this tremendous pain that I feel.

I am trying to forgive him, at the moment my emotions are still swinging from unbearable sadness to anger and back again.
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11/16/2013 12:56 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
Look up Ortho mOlecular medicine. It is taking mega doses of vitamins and minerals like medicine. You probably need a huge boost of vitamin b comPlex and vitamin c among others. It is mOre of a natural way of getting your brain chemistry back on track.
Therapy is good too.
Energy healing like reiki would be great too.
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11/16/2013 01:02 AM
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Can you remember his face,his mannerisms,the times you had together if you can then realize he hasn't gone anywhere he just no longer is available as flesh and blood.
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
Look up Ortho mOlecular medicine. It is taking mega doses of vitamins and minerals like medicine. You probably need a huge boost of vitamin b comPlex and vitamin c among others. It is mOre of a natural way of getting your brain chemistry back on track.
Therapy is good too.
Energy healing like reiki would be great too.
 Quoting: new & improved


Thankyou, I will look that up. We actually have a heap of vitamins right here at home as my son works for a big alternative medicine company and he brings home a lot of stuff.
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11/16/2013 01:04 AM
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Can you remember his face,his mannerisms,the times you had together if you can then realize he hasn't gone anywhere he just no longer is available as flesh and blood.
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I think about him all the time, sometimes find myself laughing at a memory of what he did.

But he is gone, I don't feel him around me at all.
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11/16/2013 01:05 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
We lost a co worker to apparent suicide about 3 years ago. very sad. Hunters found him in the woods and found his truck.
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We lost a co worker to apparent suicide about 3 years ago. very sad. Hunters found him in the woods and found his truck.
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Died of Gunshot wound to the face.
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11/16/2013 01:06 AM
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hugs I am sorry op. One of my co-workers lost her son to suicide. I felt/feel so bad for her.
He was a exceptional human being and so the pain is that much greater.
There is never a day that goes by, that I don't think about that loss.
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11/16/2013 01:09 AM
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its not your fault
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11/16/2013 01:18 AM
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sorry ophf
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11/16/2013 01:20 AM
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Can you remember his face,his mannerisms,the times you had together if you can then realize he hasn't gone anywhere he just no longer is available as flesh and blood.
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I think about him all the time, sometimes find myself laughing at a memory of what he did.

But he is gone, I don't feel him around me at all.
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As i have said, harden the fuck up
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11/16/2013 01:23 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
I'll say a prayer for you tonight and also for all others that have felt helpless.

Please believe that your partner was hurting, and had no thought of those left behind. So overwhelmed in their sickness, at least they are now free of this world.
Depression is a evil and dark thing.

Move on, as our lord commands us. hf
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11/16/2013 01:24 AM
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Can you remember his face,his mannerisms,the times you had together if you can then realize he hasn't gone anywhere he just no longer is available as flesh and blood.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31894440


I think about him all the time, sometimes find myself laughing at a memory of what he did.

But he is gone, I don't feel him around me at all.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50049172


As i have said, harden the fuck up
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50050471


Why? What if I don't feel like 'hardening up'?

You sound callous and cold, like someone with a heart of stone.
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11/16/2013 01:27 AM
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I'll say a prayer for you tonight and also for all others that have felt helpless.

Please believe that your partner was hurting, and had no thought of those left behind. So overwhelmed in their sickness, at least they are now free of this world.
Depression is a evil and dark thing.

Move on, as our lord commands us. hf
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50042377


Thankyou for your post...in time I will have to move on.

I know he must have been hurting, but I wish he hadn't kept those emotions bottled up inside, I wish he'd have told me how he was really feeling.

There were no signs...no indications of what he wanted to do.
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11/16/2013 01:28 AM
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I am so sorry, op.

I lost my beloved brother, a hopeless (in his mind) addict on January 1, 2009.

He was the most fucked up person I knew. I tried to help, but the big puffy narcotic cloud in the sky took him away.

I slept under the tree he hung himself on, amongst the crack pipe and fog that time would toss my way to placate my sorrow.

That night under the tree was stupid, its what he would have hated. Self-pity ruled, and had he been alive, he would have lol'ed at me.

He never was buried, I never got to say goodbye.

He is at peace and I am 100% ok with that.

If you have issues, please don't hesitate to get help. It only gets better once you give up the facade of absolute control.
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11/16/2013 01:34 AM
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Can you remember his face,his mannerisms,the times you had together if you can then realize he hasn't gone anywhere he just no longer is available as flesh and blood.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 31894440


I think about him all the time, sometimes find myself laughing at a memory of what he did.

But he is gone, I don't feel him around me at all.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50049172


As i have said, harden the fuck up
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50050471


you have a lot of life lessons to learn if your advice is to "harden the fuck up"
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11/16/2013 01:35 AM
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Re: Has anyone else here lost their partner to suicide?
I'll say a prayer for you tonight and also for all others that have felt helpless.

Please believe that your partner was hurting, and had no thought of those left behind. So overwhelmed in their sickness, at least they are now free of this world.
Depression is a evil and dark thing.

Move on, as our lord commands us. hf
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50042377


Thankyou for your post...in time I will have to move on.

I know he must have been hurting, but I wish he hadn't kept those emotions bottled up inside, I wish he'd have told me how he was really feeling.

There were no signs...no indications of what he wanted to do.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 50049172


Even the "no indications" are a indication of his sickness.
Please believe that your partner was not thinking as you or I would think.

He chose to leave on his own terms.
Tonight I will say a prayer for you and him and all those hurting.

Life can be cruel, but our lord commands us to be strong, and loving in his name.

Rest assured that he has numbered each of our hairs and knows of our suffering.hugs
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11/16/2013 01:41 AM
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I am so sorry, op.

I lost my beloved brother, a hopeless (in his mind) addict on January 1, 2009.

He was the most fucked up person I knew. I tried to help, but the big puffy narcotic cloud in the sky took him away.

I slept under the tree he hung himself on, amongst the crack pipe and fog that time would toss my way to placate my sorrow.

That night under the tree was stupid, its what he would have hated. Self-pity ruled, and had he been alive, he would have lol'ed at me.

He never was buried, I never got to say goodbye.

He is at peace and I am 100% ok with that.

If you have issues, please don't hesitate to get help. It only gets better once you give up the facade of absolute control.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 48626793


Thanks for your post, I am glad your brother is at peace, and glad also that you are okay.

Time will tell if I gather that kind of wisdom or not