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1955 Good Wife Guide. Update.

 
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1955 Good Wife Guide. Update.
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•Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
•Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
•Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it...


•Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night.
WFT?

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UPDATE 1/12 - 9:00pm

I have to admit, when I came across this article,
I thought to myself " this is how Grandma did it".

Although I don't agree with the subservient
message, I felt the basic thought/idea had merit.
Many women would like to have this role, (minus the
subservience, and the' ok to stay out all night'), IF
their husband could 100% support the family financially.
Perhaps we yearn for simpler times and more traditional
male/female roles, mutual respect and an intact, loving family.

I started the thread with this list as a positive message for consideration, and discussion, but then decided it would die a lonely death with few if any responses.
So I composed it differently with the intent of creating controversy.

Thank you all for your responses.

There are some beautiful posts here.
Insightful, thoughtful and revealing

Well said in this post from Eazy D :
"There's some wonderful people posting in this thread! Bless you all. Modern or traditional--love, trust, and respect go a long way We can still be loving, virtuous men and women in the modern society. We just need to listen, truly listen, to the heart's yearning of those we are entwined with (hopefully) forever. "


Thank you for the discussion on this thread.
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Re: 1955 Good Wife Guide. Update.
had a friend (female married) post this to her unfortunate hubby and she was like "wtf women did this stuff?????????"

no wonder men are delaying marriage to 30+, high divorce rates, no one is saying do all that stuff lol, but nowadays theyll loudly claim they dont cook, clean, workout, diet, or anything
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this is just common sense. every woman should know and do this

well unless you are a feminist lesbo
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Come on...who does this?

.." Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice."
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My wife found this and taped it to the refrigerator. The thing is she lives it, and I would do anything she asks and treat her like a queen.

Women don't understand that if they act like women used to act, men will act like men used to act.
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My wife found this and taped it to the refrigerator. The thing is she lives it, and I would do anything she asks and treat her like a queen.

Women don't understand that if they act like women used to act, men will act like men used to act.
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cool2
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there are a few like the stay out all night one that i doubt were part of the original text. for one thing, if you husband always comes home at a certain time and then one day he doesn't come home at all... it is reasonable to worry that something bad might have happened to him. phones existed in 1955, after all. so, that seems suspicious.

also, the have him go lie down in a quiet room seems kind of odd... he's also getting dinner, a drink, a (maybe) a roaring fire.. how is he going to enjoy those things while asleep?

but, some of them... as a person who has worked seem common sense.. try to not have things be chaos when someone gets home. don't immediately hit them with questions or complaints as they come through the door.

i don't know if most people want to eat immediately after getting home though.

anyway, a lot of them seem reasonable and i have done them.
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Based on my wifes response, I don't think she agrees with these wonderful points of advice. I think there were some 4 letter words in her rant! I sure love her!
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Come on...who does this?

.." Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice."
 Quoting: ancha


Are you a woman or a man? real women treat their men like they should,and real men treat their women like they should, respect gets respect.
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One reason why western men find women from Asia and Latin America appealing. These women tend to be old fashioned... Not always, but more than the average.
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bsflag

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I wouldn't expect all that stuff, but I will say if I had a wife like that I'd cherish her to the ends of the earth. My wife holds the couch down. At least she does go to work a couple days a week.
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My Grandma truly did these things. She would peel his tomato's , lay out his cloths everyday, meals were all ready and she looked like a goddess doing it.


They were married 63 years before his death.
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"Sometimes the object of the Journey may not be the end, but the Journey itself".....
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men need someone to raise them seriously. it's like they never learned growing up but then they find somebody to do all the heavy lifting while they bring home the bacon. and it was and is still a full time job. if you love each other, you will both do your part to make each other happy.

People have no loyalty to anyone but themselves anymore. they want to find a replacement before they boot the first manor woman out the door. it's wrong. and if you go around behind someone's back its wrong.
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I would settle for no dinner and a Bj when i got home ....Thats what realy keeps us men happy ....That an samwiches
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Seems like a fair deal for 20 yrs longer life expectancy and hubbies pension payout
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this is just common sense. every woman should know and do this

well unless you are a feminist lesbo
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Mhmmm I agree if you can't treat your husband like a king you don't deserve to have one...and you probably don't love him either
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men need someone to raise them seriously. it's like they never learned growing up but then they find somebody to do all the heavy lifting while they bring home the bacon. and it was and is still a full time job. if you love each other, you will both do your part to make each other happy.

People have no loyalty to anyone but themselves anymore. they want to find a replacement before they boot the first manor woman out the door. it's wrong. and if you go around behind someone's back its wrong.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2086586


men need someone to raise them seriously. it's like they never learned growing up but then they find somebody to do all the heavy lifting while they bring home the bacon. and it was and is still a full time job. if you love each other, you will both do your part to make each other happy.

People have no loyalty to anyone but themselves anymore. they want to find a replacement before they boot the first manor woman out the door. it's wrong. and if you go around behind someone's back its wrong.
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Same can besaid for a lot of women
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Come on...who does this?

.." Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice."
 Quoting: ancha


Years ago the husband was the bread winner and the wife stayed home to take care of the kids and the house and yes women use to treat their husbands like that.My grandmother was like this with my grandfather.In return he treated her very well.They were together almost 60 years.
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THANK YOU GLOBALIZATION
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My wife found this and taped it to the refrigerator. The thing is she lives it, and I would do anything she asks and treat her like a queen.

Women don't understand that if they act like women used to act, men will act like men used to act.
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YES! Men are not men because women are not women
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My wife found this and taped it to the refrigerator. The thing is she lives it, and I would do anything she asks and treat her like a queen.

Women don't understand that if they act like women used to act, men will act like men used to act.
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You go first.
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Come on...who does this?

.." Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice."
 Quoting: ancha


Are you a woman or a man? real women treat their men like they should,and real men treat their women like they should, respect gets respect.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2086586


Exactly. I take off my man's shoes (even though he is kind of unsure about how to react still) and often sit on the floor- massaging his feet when we watch a movie or something.

I prepare the bed for him, undress him and always ask if he needs any massages or different pillows, etc. I do this before I take a shower (which is the last thing I do before bed). Then, I crawl in beside him- he gets to rest a bit and I am all clean.

Personally, I have no issue being a woman. I enjoy it- the traditional roles are good for me, as long as he is a man- I don't have to worry about maintaining my car or the outside of the house. He is fed and we take great care of one another.

To each their own, but, damn it- I have been out there- alone for 7+ years after the death of my spouse, and, now I appreciate every second with the man I love. I don't want to compete with him- we aren't the same. Neither is 'better', we are different. We know one another and we are good with traditional. Thank God.
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If women acted like this I would be begging my boss to come home early each day.

But sadly I have been reduced to be happy enough that at least I am not being cheated on. As far as I can tell.
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My wife found this and taped it to the refrigerator. The thing is she lives it, and I would do anything she asks and treat her like a queen.

Women don't understand that if they act like women used to act, men will act like men used to act.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8294905


You go first.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 52395565


I cant see it ever being like that again.The world has changed and people have become very self centered.With all the modern technology things have went downhill instead of improving as far as relationships.
Now most spend their time after work on Facebook or on their cell phone texting others and ignore each other in the same house.
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You can have feminist beliefs but still want to take care of your man! 1955 advice goes a long way in 2014, may need updating; encourage your husband to park his ass in front of the tv for 3 hours playing c.o.d. so he works up an appetite to eat the hearty meal you nuked for him!
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I would settle for no dinner and a Bj when i got home ....Thats what realy keeps us men happy ....That an samwiches
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lovecomm Crude people like you deserve the sluts that you get. Tho I pity your children.
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Come on...who does this?

.." Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice."
 Quoting: ancha


Are you a woman or a man? real women treat their men like they should,and real men treat their women like they should, respect gets respect.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2086586


Exactly. I take off my man's shoes (even though he is kind of unsure about how to react still) and often sit on the floor- massaging his feet when we watch a movie or something.

I prepare the bed for him, undress him and always ask if he needs any massages or different pillows, etc. I do this before I take a shower (which is the last thing I do before bed). Then, I crawl in beside him- he gets to rest a bit and I am all clean.

Personally, I have no issue being a woman. I enjoy it- the traditional roles are good for me, as long as he is a man- I don't have to worry about maintaining my car or the outside of the house. He is fed and we take great care of one another.

To each their own, but, damn it- I have been out there- alone for 7+ years after the death of my spouse, and, now I appreciate every second with the man I love. I don't want to compete with him- we aren't the same. Neither is 'better', we are different. We know one another and we are good with traditional. Thank God.
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I totally agree with your post..The underlined is what most cant grasp.
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•Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

-- HELL YEAH!!!
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•Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
•Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
•Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it...


•Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night.
WFT?

Much more at link.
 Quoting: ancha


Actually, I left my good paying job to be a traditional , stsy- at-home wife. I do all that stuff and more (since I'm educated and have other skills). I've never been happier and my husband has never been healthier, less stressed and more at ease in the world. He has a stressful job at times, I make sure the home is calm and orderly/clean, etc. Its been paradise. If I only knew then what I know now.... corporate America almost killed our passion, we never had time to enjoy each other when i worked.
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These are the most important imho...why can't women AT LEAST do this??


*Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

*Don't greet him with complaints and problems.





GLP