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Anonymous Coward User ID: 27068907 United States 01/12/2014 12:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is as it should be. Women back then were classy and sophisticated. They took care of their houses and husbands and also found time to take care of themselves. Feminism has turned women into men. Quoting: casseopeia Fascinating Womanhood is an excellent book for the "traditionalist" woman. Becoming a member of the labor force in this industrial society is liberation. Go figure. Yeah! What a bunch of idiots. Womens Libbers drove us right into modern form of slavery. Wowee. Now we get to cook, clean, raise the kids, take them to all activities, and we get to work, too. We sure are liberated. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44878481 United States 01/12/2014 12:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I would settle for no dinner and a Bj when i got home ....Thats what realy keeps us men happy ....That an samwiches Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51584912 :lovecomm: Crude people like you deserve the sluts that you get. Tho I pity your children. What's wrong with getting a bj from the person you're married to? Good luck with that... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 32337439 United States 01/12/2014 12:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not 100% like this with my parents, but a good portion is. They're happily married 30+ years and still going strong. Dad goes out early in the morning and brings home the paycheck, mom keeps the house/finances in order. Takes two to tango. Btw, Mom has a professional degree but prefers to stay home, so it's not like she can't "liberate" herself since she already did and couldn't stand the long hours. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 38832813 United States 01/12/2014 12:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't need someone to take care of me like a fucking slave, but if a couple wants to have a family, women should stay home with the children and do housewife work and men go to work. I think that's logical, unless you're a feminazi cunt. Quoting: Manu-K It IS logical, isn't it? It's a shame they've made it next to impossible to do it anymore. It's a huge sacrifice now for a man to be the sole breadwinner while the woman minds the kids. I admire any man who does this, truly. I worked for 16 of the 20 years I've been married waiting tables 12 hours a day 6 days a week... And I still did the housework.. BUT.. That's because of my OCD and I can't stand someone else trying to organize my house they way I NEED it to be. So I just don't bitch about it, because if I want it done right, and right now, I have to do it myself. It's therapeutic (I think that's my favorite word of the day) Would you quit your job if you could, or do you work because you want to? Waitressing is not a bad gig for the most part, depending on where you work. You'll never get rich, but it's the highest paid "unskilled" labor out there, besides bartending. I stopped working after our last baby... no one could ever have told me what a difference there was in having four compared to three lol... i miss the social aspect.. and yeah the $$ was pretty awesome but i am forever greatful that i can be home with them all.full time now |
Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 12:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I would settle for no dinner and a Bj when i got home ....Thats what realy keeps us men happy ....That an samwiches Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51584912 Crude people like you deserve the sluts that you get. Tho I pity your children. And what's with the weird, irrelevant pic? Don't mind her, she's mentally handicapped. I'm pretty sure "she" is a he. What? No soft core asian or hebrew teen porn tonight Judethz? I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
Manu-K User ID: 37755563 Spain 01/12/2014 12:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Judethz Crude people like you deserve the sluts that you get. Tho I pity your children. And what's with the weird, irrelevant pic? Don't mind her, she's mentally handicapped. I'm pretty sure "she" is a he. What? No soft core asian or hebrew teen porn tonight Judethz? Yeah I've heard that before. For some reason I always imagine her as some old bitter lady. Banned as usual. “It is far easier to be a weakling than to be a Real Man. Were the Earth less harsh or the circumstances of life less austere, man would destroy himself before the shrine of the languid goddess. Only Real Men can with safety destroy the tangled forests and wilderness of Earth and make from them gardens, but will those who inherit the gardens be Real Men? The law decrees that they must be, or the wilderness will reclaim its own.” |
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Manu-K User ID: 37755563 Spain 01/12/2014 12:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think she also left my last red karma as well Banned as usual. “It is far easier to be a weakling than to be a Real Man. Were the Earth less harsh or the circumstances of life less austere, man would destroy himself before the shrine of the languid goddess. Only Real Men can with safety destroy the tangled forests and wilderness of Earth and make from them gardens, but will those who inherit the gardens be Real Men? The law decrees that they must be, or the wilderness will reclaim its own.” |
Nine's User ID: 51681086 United States 01/12/2014 12:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Maybe the way it was written with disrespect is fake, but much of what is said is true. There was a time when women loved taking care of their men and took pride in it. They even forgot things. To name a couple: You make sure the children are clean when your husband comes home. No guy wants to come home to a puke smelling baby with a full diaper, the dog bouncing, the phone ringing, kids screaming and a wife shouting for him to change the baby and answer the phone. Ironing sheets and shirts and making sure the shirt has a sharp crease and stiff collars that would last the day was also pretty standard at one time. An iron is a thing that started out long ago heated on top of a wood stove. They were called sad irons. Maybe they made the women sad. Then things got all fancy and they made electric irons. A triangular shaped instrument with a metal bottom that had an electric cord that plugged into the wall. The device heated, and you moved it back and forth as it pressed the clothing, making it look neat. Not like perma press dryer clothing. When irons first came out, they didn't have a steam function, but you could get sprinkler device that fit on top of a coke bottle. You sprinkled water on the shirt if there were wrinkles, and it steamed as it removed wrinkles. Then they came up with an iron that had it's own water storage where you poured water, and pushed a button, or released it, for steam. Ironing was done on a thing called an ironing board. History lesson for the day youngun's. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 42236096 France 01/12/2014 12:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | [link to j-walk.com] Quoting: ancha •Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. •Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. •Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it... •Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. WFT? Much more at link. This were real women not the clowns that today exist in society |
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Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 12:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Frayed Knot It IS logical, isn't it? It's a shame they've made it next to impossible to do it anymore. It's a huge sacrifice now for a man to be the sole breadwinner while the woman minds the kids. I admire any man who does this, truly. I worked for 16 of the 20 years I've been married waiting tables 12 hours a day 6 days a week... And I still did the housework.. BUT.. That's because of my OCD and I can't stand someone else trying to organize my house they way I NEED it to be. So I just don't bitch about it, because if I want it done right, and right now, I have to do it myself. It's therapeutic (I think that's my favorite word of the day) Would you quit your job if you could, or do you work because you want to? Waitressing is not a bad gig for the most part, depending on where you work. You'll never get rich, but it's the highest paid "unskilled" labor out there, besides bartending. I stopped working after our last baby... no one could ever have told me what a difference there was in having four compared to three lol... i miss the social aspect.. and yeah the $$ was pretty awesome but i am forever greatful that i can be home with them all.full time now Wow. Yes, I imagine 4 kids could be a handful. I hope you enjoy staying home this time. I loved it but had only one. I hope and pray the best for you. You sound like a tough cookie and a great mom. I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
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Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 01:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Maybe the way it was written with disrespect is fake, but much of what is said is true. There was a time when women loved taking care of their men and took pride in it. They even forgot things. To name a couple: Quoting: Nine's You make sure the children are clean when your husband comes home. No guy wants to come home to a puke smelling baby with a full diaper, the dog bouncing, the phone ringing, kids screaming and a wife shouting for him to change the baby and answer the phone. Ironing sheets and shirts and making sure the shirt has a sharp crease and stiff collars that would last the day was also pretty standard at one time. An iron is a thing that started out long ago heated on top of a wood stove. They were called sad irons. Maybe they made the women sad. Then things got all fancy and they made electric irons. A triangular shaped instrument with a metal bottom that had an electric cord that plugged into the wall. The device heated, and you moved it back and forth as it pressed the clothing, making it look neat. Not like perma press dryer clothing. When irons first came out, they didn't have a steam function, but you could get sprinkler device that fit on top of a coke bottle. You sprinkled water on the shirt if there were wrinkles, and it steamed as it removed wrinkles. Then they came up with an iron that had it's own water storage where you poured water, and pushed a button, or released it, for steam. Ironing was done on a thing called an ironing board. History lesson for the day youngun's. This is where I fail the real woman test I guess. As far as I'm concerned the dryer is the new iron. If it needs ironing, I don't buy it. I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27068907 United States 01/12/2014 01:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Most of you people are idiots. No fucking way is this entirely true, and most of you are way too young to have a clue. "Even if he stays out all night" and "you have no right to question him" believe me, these things were just not done. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 52831366 AND I note, there is a link at the bottom of the page for MORE HUMOUR [link to j-walk.com] That's your lesson for today, kids. I respectfully disagree. My parents did this lifestyle and I remember very well. (Early 60's.) Dad did disappear quite a bit. That corporate ego. A real "Don Draper" I might add. Eventually he left. All my Mother's efforts made no difference. Eventually life in the fast lane caught up with him. Well let me say, what I meant was, staying out all night for example just was not acceptable, and if any women accepted it, well, what happened with your parents are a perfect example. My parents lived like this (50's early 60's) but thankfully my Dad would have never stayed out all night or else my Mom would have left him. (I guess I am using my own parents as my example too.) Now my husbands parents, he remembers his father sneaking out the door with a suitcase in the middle of the night (early 60's) when he was a toddler. His father proceeded to marry the cute little co-worker with a wealthy family and had another family of his own with her and became wealthy. My husband's mother was poor and devastated with no financial support, she ended up having a breakdown, going on pills and today she is a mess in a care home. Sad casualty there, too. It was such a blatantly male dominated world. Guess it depended on the strain of male you got. thanks for input. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 39874546 United Kingdom 01/12/2014 01:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | [link to j-walk.com] Quoting: ancha •Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. •Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. •Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it... •Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. WFT? Much more at link. Times were different. Nowadays, maybe not gonna happen, but back before women were doing the nasdty on each other, such as you like, it was typical. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 46279156 United States 01/12/2014 01:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, I'm the one that brings the bacon in my home. My hubby stays home, cooks and clean. He literally does it all except for sex, besides, he spends he's evening in the loft playing video games till past midnight. I'm looking at my options at this point but I feel trapped. My kid is happy and I'm afraid to ruin that. I'd much rather reverse the roles and call it a night. |
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Desert Fox User ID: 8786935 United States 01/12/2014 01:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is not fake. I was about six years old when that article was printed. I was well along my way to modeling my behavior after my mother who DID a lot of those things. She always had dinner cooking when dad got home. She always went and brushed her hair and cleaned up from the day's work. We two daughters had been thoroughly instructed on how now to behave when he got home. We needed to settle down and be quiet, and be sure to greet him and then leave him alone for awhile. We were supposed to wash up before he got home, and tidy up the living room. On the one or two evenings a month when he paid bills, we really had the kabosh put on any rowdiness or merriment. We couldn't even watch tv, we could stay in our room and quietly read, so as not too distract him while he was agonizing over how to stretch the money. Life revolved a lot around his comings and goings. Everybody scrambled when we would hear his car in the driveway. It is not fake. By the way, my mother had a stroke about ten years ago and for the last seven years of her life, he waited on her hand and foot with great love and attention. When she finally went into the hospital, he never left her side for those ten days and was sitting with her when she took her last breath. That kind of practical devotion is awesome, and humbling. :TOMABANEFOX: It's more humane this way ya know, or burn on totem pole. Choice is yours. |
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Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 01:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, I'm the one that brings the bacon in my home. My hubby stays home, cooks and clean. He literally does it all except for sex, besides, he spends he's evening in the loft playing video games till past midnight. I'm looking at my options at this point but I feel trapped. My kid is happy and I'm afraid to ruin that. I'd much rather reverse the roles and call it a night. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 46279156 I know a lot of women in this situation. It's literally like men are trying to take over the old fashioned women's role, but can't uh, perform in the bedroom anymore. Or the women are just too weirded out by the whole thing that they're no longer interested in them in that way. It's crazy. I'm sorry, my answer was so harsh, and you're not happy in your situation. It's good that you're considering the happiness of your child. How old is your kid? I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
UnderPressure User ID: 44666539 United States 01/12/2014 01:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Women are being taught with each passing generation that these things are bad. Staying home an tending house? Showing your husband your appreciation for him? Oh the horror! I do alot of these things for my husband. Since he never gets off work at the same time I wait for him to call and tell me he is on his way so I can have supper ready. Listen to him talk about his day. Keep the kids from pestering him right when he comes home from work. Not because some article told me to but because it's just something I think wives should do. He does things for me too and so the scale is balanced. For me it is a great life full of happiness most of the time. A lot of times when people find out I stay at home they look at me like I grew a second head. 'Why don't you work?' they ask. 'What exactly do you do all day?' Why is staying home frowned upon? If you ask me running a functional home like a well oiled machine is work. And lots of it. My husband works hard to make money. I work hard to keep the house he pays for and the kids he provides for under control. I'm not perfect, but I make the effort. I think most husbands appreciate that they are least worth the effort. My friend tells me I am a feminist worst night mare. I'm ok with that. you're nearly a laugh, but you're really a cry. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 40128066 United States 01/12/2014 01:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, I'm the one that brings the bacon in my home. My hubby stays home, cooks and clean. He literally does it all except for sex, besides, he spends he's evening in the loft playing video games till past midnight. I'm looking at my options at this point but I feel trapped. My kid is happy and I'm afraid to ruin that. I'd much rather reverse the roles and call it a night. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 46279156 I know a lot of women in this situation. It's literally like men are trying to take over the old fashioned women's role, but can't uh, perform in the bedroom anymore. Or the women are just too weirded out by the whole thing that they're no longer interested in them in that way. It's crazy. I'm sorry, my answer was so harsh, and you're not happy in your situation. It's good that you're considering the happiness of your child. How old is your kid? 5 and totally in love with dadda. I don't find the answer harsh, perhaps truthful. He knows he can manipulate me by saying things like; "are you willing to ruin your child's happiness over sex?" Just not right. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 3063399 United States 01/12/2014 01:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If a few of you young and modern women would read this guide and do some of those little things (okay, I know you can not do all of them - no one could) you might be surprised at how often hubby chose to come home to you when he could have gone out with the guys for a drink after work, or gone to some meeting that took place in a bar for several hours. You want him home, and adoring you and the kids? Then make that home someplace he WANTS to come home to. Yes, if you stay at home you may have to plan your day, take care to have the kids in bed if daddy gets hoe after dark. Kids over 12/14 probably cannot be put to bed, But you can send them to their rooms with their computers, iPhones, etc., and let them amuse themselves for a while so you and their father can have some grown-up time. Yes, you can try a few little things to make him want to be home. Not dread coming back to that hell hole he left this AM. |
Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 01:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is where I fail the real woman test I guess. Quoting: Frayed Knot As far as I'm concerned the dryer is the new iron. If it needs ironing, I don't buy it. You failed nothing. Times have changed. You're saving resources and time. Thanks for reading. It was long. Thank you. It's the one household chore I've never been able to endure. My Ex Husband (from a very matriarchical country) worked in the same building I did. We worked the same hours and drove in and home together. I did all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. We lived in an apartment, so he had very little else to do. He demanded one day that I starch and iron his shirts. I told him to take them to the cleaners. He took them to his Mother. That bitch hated me and that was the last straw. lol. I still refuse to iron to this day and that was twenty some odd years ago. I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 01:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, I'm the one that brings the bacon in my home. My hubby stays home, cooks and clean. He literally does it all except for sex, besides, he spends he's evening in the loft playing video games till past midnight. I'm looking at my options at this point but I feel trapped. My kid is happy and I'm afraid to ruin that. I'd much rather reverse the roles and call it a night. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 46279156 I know a lot of women in this situation. It's literally like men are trying to take over the old fashioned women's role, but can't uh, perform in the bedroom anymore. Or the women are just too weirded out by the whole thing that they're no longer interested in them in that way. It's crazy. I'm sorry, my answer was so harsh, and you're not happy in your situation. It's good that you're considering the happiness of your child. How old is your kid? 5 and totally in love with dadda. I don't find the answer harsh, perhaps truthful. He knows he can manipulate me by saying things like; "are you willing to ruin your child's happiness over sex?" Just not right. You've got a really hard situation there. I'm sorry. I understand that frustration totally. Sex is highly over-emphasized in our society, BUT it's also a basic human desire. I hope you find a way to work this out for best for YOU and your child. I don't know if counseling really every helps anyone, but since you're married to this man, I would suggest it. My prayers are with you. I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
Nine's User ID: 51681086 United States 01/12/2014 01:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is where I fail the real woman test I guess. Quoting: Frayed Knot As far as I'm concerned the dryer is the new iron. If it needs ironing, I don't buy it. You failed nothing. Times have changed. You're saving resources and time. Thanks for reading. It was long. Thank you. It's the one household chore I've never been able to endure. My Ex Husband (from a very matriarchical country) worked in the same building I did. We worked the same hours and drove in and home together. I did all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. We lived in an apartment, so he had very little else to do. He demanded one day that I starch and iron his shirts. I told him to take them to the cleaners. He took them to his Mother. That bitch hated me and that was the last straw. lol. I still refuse to iron to this day and that was twenty some odd years ago. You're very kind. I'd have starched and ironed his undies. |
Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 01:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Women are being taught with each passing generation that these things are bad. Staying home an tending house? Showing your husband your appreciation for him? Oh the horror! Quoting: UnderPressure I do alot of these things for my husband. Since he never gets off work at the same time I wait for him to call and tell me he is on his way so I can have supper ready. Listen to him talk about his day. Keep the kids from pestering him right when he comes home from work. Not because some article told me to but because it's just something I think wives should do. He does things for me too and so the scale is balanced. For me it is a great life full of happiness most of the time. A lot of times when people find out I stay at home they look at me like I grew a second head. 'Why don't you work?' they ask. 'What exactly do you do all day?' Why is staying home frowned upon? If you ask me running a functional home like a well oiled machine is work. And lots of it. My husband works hard to make money. I work hard to keep the house he pays for and the kids he provides for under control. I'm not perfect, but I make the effort. I think most husbands appreciate that they are least worth the effort. My friend tells me I am a feminist worst night mare. I'm ok with that. When I meet women like you I tell them how lucky they are and how much I envy them. Feminism is a hoax. I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
Frayed Knot User ID: 35406953 United States 01/12/2014 01:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is where I fail the real woman test I guess. Quoting: Frayed Knot As far as I'm concerned the dryer is the new iron. If it needs ironing, I don't buy it. You failed nothing. Times have changed. You're saving resources and time. Thanks for reading. It was long. Thank you. It's the one household chore I've never been able to endure. My Ex Husband (from a very matriarchical country) worked in the same building I did. We worked the same hours and drove in and home together. I did all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. We lived in an apartment, so he had very little else to do. He demanded one day that I starch and iron his shirts. I told him to take them to the cleaners. He took them to his Mother. That bitch hated me and that was the last straw. lol. I still refuse to iron to this day and that was twenty some odd years ago. You're very kind. I'd have starched and ironed his undies. He'd have probably liked that. Ugh. He was such a priss. I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear. - The Patriot |
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