need advice...been invited to a texas-mexican border town wedding and got a bad feeling

if more where like us,your world wouldn't be dying,very very soon.

im white,3 sailors played on beach with the guys there who had girls in shacks,offered em to my men,one look from me stopped that,i was alone with em at one point,playing guns.they treated us well.we stayed all night with Mexicans,drnking,shooting,laughing.mind you ,our photo on here we look like crew from Depps pirates films!wetell if animal is friendly,scared aggressive etc.not just shoot em.you learn body language,llet em come to you,its easy.if a squirrel is screaming and throwing acorns spot onto your head,u get the gist theres a nest and to fuck off.

Last Edited by lee14714 Hell's Whisper on 02/18/2014 01:07 AM

GLP Effect?

coincidence?

You decide?

So I have a friend who sent me a text late last night.

Well he is an african american gentlemen in his early 40's

He lives in maryland.

Well about 2 weeks ago he mentioned he was going out of town to visit some family in Texas.

Honestly cannot remember which city although I believe it could have been dallas ft worth but not 100% sure.

So he said he would be gone for about a month and I had not heard form him since he left.

Well last night I get a text from him at about 11:00pm

The text is a photo text of him laid up in intensive care unit in a a hospital with a huge gigantic gash down the center of his chest all the way down to his waist.

It looked like a million stitches and he looked really bruised and in bad shape.

Well he gathered the strength to call me this morning and explain what happened.

Well it turns out he was in a bar minding his business having a brew when as he tells it some mexican came up to him and stabbed him right there in the bar.

I don't have any other details besides the fact that he is stuck in texas for 2 more weeks and will most likely be in the hospital for most of his remaining time there.

Now what does this have to do with anything you ask?

Well with all the hype around this trip to the border town for the wedding this friend of mine did not know anything about my family planning this trip nor did we discuss it when we talked this morning!

I think that is very telling for us to keep having sign after sign about this trip and now a friend almost lost his life in a bar after being stabbed for no reason by someone he described as mexican.

Obviously I was not there and there are always 2 sides to every story but this is his side of the story and he sent the text pics to show himself laid up in the ICU with stitches all the way from the top of his chest down to his waistline.

He really was opened up well.

I think it is extra weird that this friend who was stabbed was not stabbed in d.c. or philadelphia, or chicago,

was not stabbed by another black man or a white man.

He was stabbed in Texas of all places by a Mexican for no apparent reason and is very lucky to be alive.

The line of communication are pretty much broken with most of my family and as far as I know they are moving forward 100% and are not interested in anything I have to say.

I am basically looking at being disowned over this and there is a feeling of helplessness because there is nothing else I can say.

1 last update is I got another phone call earlier yesterday from a good friend who works at the local news station as a crew chief and he is aware of the situation and he checked with official sources and contacts that know about this part of the world.

He calls me yesterday emphatically saying you cannot let your mother make this trip. He was being warned and advised that this sounds like a tell tale set up and nothing good would come of it.

it is what it is...the heart has a way of betraying the ability to reason and reason soundly from within one's mind

run

okay just got more details on my friend who got stabbed in texas.

Well he was actually in Austin texas in a Bar with a friend of his and his friends wife.

Well at some point they were having a drink chilling out when the wife of his friend went to the bathroom.

Upon her return a mexican guy reached out and grabbed her ass in the bar.

Well she relayed the info to her hubby and his friend.

She pointed out the guy who grabbed her ass and my friend asked the mexican if in fact he disrespected this woman by grabbing her ass.

Well the mexican guys says don't know what you are talking about and walked away.

He says he thought that was the end of it.

As the bar was about to close the mexican guy comes up to him and says nothing but reaches out and stabs him right there on the spot.

He was rushed to the nearest hospital and had all of his intestines taken out and repaired and then stitched back up.

Very lucky to be alive and all because some one grabbed a married woman on her ass.

so in the hospital he remains.

my family is planning a trip much deeper into texas all the way to the border of mexico and I cannot help but wonder if anyone will get their ass grabbed by a mexican while down there.

I think they will likely be robbed, and then kidnapped and held for ransom.

Based on what you've shared of the story so far.

OP I am on mobile canon write at length

One other option is for you to insist on buying Travel Insurance for your mother

Here is one example and I have dealt with them for many decades

[link to www.sanbornsinsurance.com]

They would provide Mom with some sort of emergency assistance in MX

Well one final update.

It looks like things took a turn south and deteriorated 100% with my family.

It completely fell apart, turmoil in the ranks.

Mother and son not speaking and bitter behind this wedding idea.

Brother and brother have first argument ever in 30 years and it gets heated.

Just found out our concerns about my family taking this trip were being mocked and scoffed at while calling into question our own levels of knowledge.

I always seen this stuff unfold on soap operas and in news papers but never imagined I would see this tension and high drama play out in a real close nit typical family of a mother and 3 sons.

It is so tense that I dont think any of us we be comfortable around each other at this point.

I was saddened to have my younger brother lecture me on why I am a failure for not having a 401 k plan, a government job, a registered car, or health benefits.

Yep I don't think I would have ever felt so low as in his 30 years of age he never talked to me the way he today.

Neither of us minced any words and the lines are drawn in the sand as far as I am concerned.

Made my peace, told them I love them unconditionally but that did not have to ever worry about me and my immediate family again.

I apologized for the grief and pain I have caused with being over concerned and I wish them well.

My younger sibbling still could not give me direct answers about what the name of the church was and what was the address of reception hall.

he tells me he does not know name of church or address because her family is taking care of the arrangements.

He says I will get that info to you tomorrow.

The problem is he really does think I am being unreasonable for asking for a hard address first before I relax about the rest of my family and friends going.

He basically asked me why the hell I would not go if he would pay for everything and I replied because 90% of people I talk to say it is not safe to go to this area under such circumstances let alone why do you have to marry someone you never met in person.

It hurt like hell to have this discussion with my bro which turned into a heated exchange of F Bombs.

I felt helpless but now I feel at peace. I sincerely just wanted to try and get some solid comfirmation of the details of this wedding.

Details have been sketchy, innaccurate, and changing from week to week which gives you reason to want to ask questions.

He tells me its still america....its america....its america telling me condescendingly that the border towns of south texas-mexico are still america.

Maybe he is right, maybe there is no travel advisory, maybe it is a fairytale and it is true love.

Maybe we are being too paranoid, either way there is nothing else can be done.

I have no words left.

It was a valiant effort.

I want nothing but the best for them.

I try to explain to them the tap water, chemtrails, flouride, high fructose corn syrup, micro waves all effect our ability to reason and to reason critically.

I have said enough, thanks for your concern, and your advice, and your input!

onward!

Thanks for the update, you must do what you feel is right.

I hope you will keep this post updated with the results of this whacky wedding trip.

Sorry to hear things have gotten so tense between you and your family. Keep your chin up and know you are making the right choice by choosing safety.

Some people just do not want to admit to how bad the world really is. Waking up can be a scary prospect.

Thanks for the update, please let us know how things go with the wedding. I don't pray, but I will send out my best wishes for the safety of your family.

OP - Please understand that you are doing the right thing for you and your wife. I couldn't find the date of the wedding in your posts, but I am sure it is coming up. Please keep us posted on their travels and (hopefully) safe return.
Here's some more facts to help back up your position - [link to www.expressnews.com]

What ever happened with this wedding?



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What happened??? Did they get married?

Too bad OP seems to be gone. I was really interested to hear how this all turned out lol

Me too!! OP??

Well Well Well....

I write to my GLP Brothers and sisters today to inform you all that even though I am a vegetarian I am gnawing on a heaping pile of sauteed crow!

I am forced to admit and am humbled and temporarily relieved to announce there has been a very positive and substantial update to this story.

My younger brother did in fact make the journey down to the south texas border about 10 days ago and was seemingly welcomed with open arms and totally embraced by his fiance's family!

He actually stayed with an army buddy who lives in the town and who happens to be married to his fiance's sister.

This info was not forthcoming at the outset of this thread but he did in fact make the trip down to meet his fiance in person for the first time after talking online for about 4 months!

He reported back that it was indeed very very country but that her family was treating him very well and even loaned him the family pickup truck to drive around while there.

On top of that my 71 year old mother whom I was very concerned about going flew down to be with my brother and his fiancee's family last week and she stayed for 5 days.

She reported back to me that they were very very nice folks who treated her with an abundance of kindness and the father spoke very little english but he managed to say to her that my brother was a good man.

This issue had in fact divided us and caused us to not speak for weeks but we did manage to communicate while she was there because even though bitter words were said between us all we still were concerend for her safety and wanted to be updated upon her arrival.

I must say that my 71 year old mother flew down by herself, and reported back that there were not many folks who looked like her but there were a handful.

She stayed in a holiday inn express and said that the locals were very friendly and kind to her and that she had a blast meeting her soon to be daughter in law and her parents.

She said they toured a bunch of restaraunts, some beaches, some amusement parks and had a wonderful time.

She said she got to visit the venue where the wedding is going to be and got to meet some of the other people in the wedding party.

Now obviously the jury is still some what sequestered because this was not the wedding this was the meeting in person before the wedding and the wedding is not until mid june but this is a good sign I would think and things seem to be going in the right direction for them all.

I still have decided to opt out of going down to south texas with my own family for the wedding but will fully support and endorse the marriage in other ways that I am able.

I fully appreciate and respect all of your feedback and points of view and I must say that ultimately we chose to be safer as opposed to being sorry.

Do I mind eating crow, never. I am very humble and embrace humility and can man up and admit any time I am proven wrong...which is not often...LOL

However in this instance seemingly so far things look and sound legit.

Now I have not personally shook anyone's hands or looked in the eyes of any of my soon to be family but my mother and brother did and reported back that they were made to feel really comfortable and the people they encountered were very genuine and kind hearted.

So as for now drama to report and I don't know if the GLP effect factored in but my mother went down and made it back safely without harm, and without issue, and actually enjoyed herself.

So I have plenty of crow to finish, and would love if some of my glp brothers and sisters would help clear my plate of this crow.

If you do not like the sauteed crow the way it is we can add some guacomole and salsa LOL...I kid I kid

Will keep posted but so far so good!

Hey pass me the hot sauce!

If they make it out alive it will be a wedding worth writing home about, of that I'm pretty sure.

Do yourself a favor and avoid Mexicans at all costs.

Thank you for the update.

But... No, I do not regret one word of the information and advice I gave. Your brother's situation is very much the anomaly rather than the standard or expected outcome. In other words, he lucked out.

No one should reasonably fault you for excercising caution.

Agreed!

Thanks for updating us, OP. I'm glad everyone is safe. You're a good man to admit you were wrong. But keep us updated on how the wedding goes! Like stated here, this situation is an anomaly, not what usually happens.

I'm glad relations within the family are better!

The wedding is when everyone will be bringing the requested 'cash gifts' with them.... I still want to hear how that turns out....

When is the wedding scheduled for, OP?

The wedding is going to happen on a weekend in mid June.

Obviously anything can happen between now and june we have a full 2 months before we get to june.

In the back of my mind I still have not eaten all the crow I am just sort of nibbling crow at the moment.

The real test will be the wedding when supposedly there are 200 plus of her family attending the wedding and barely 10-11 people in my family attending the *night time* wedding.

So for now I am some what relieved but the real test is the wedding date.

Supposedly my mother was driven to the wedding location and she said it was a very nice venue close to the highway so she felt comfortable.

There is just no way me and my family would be able to make it even if we had assurances that all was safe and wonderful we have since discovered the timing is going to conflict with our schedules and we have already informed that that we will not be attending.

So I will definitely keep everyone posted but at this stage this does seem to be shaping up to be a fairy tale come true.

So let the countdown begin and I will keep everyone posted!

Much Love GLP and thanks for your interest and input!

about a week away from the wedding.

Yes it is still a go!

Yes we still have very deep concerns however it is a forgone conclusion, plane tickets and hotels are booked.

There are half as many people making the trip down with my family then originally hoped for.

It seems for whatever reason half of the original attendees have pulled out of this trip.

All we can do is hope and wish for a safe and joy filled trip, and a safe return after the wedding.

The wedding reception will be minutes south of harlingen texas from about 8:00 pm until midnite or beyond.

The date of the wedding has been moved from saturday june 14th to friday the 13th june 2014

reception is minutes away from the mexican border.

Now it will be 3 african american women, two whom are elderly, and one who is in her mid twenties.

There will be 3 african american males mid to late twenties going down for the wedding.

Needless to say we are remaining positive and hoping for the best.

Will update as we get closer to the event.

One thing that has us a little puzzled is the lack of mention about this wedding on social media.

Yes everyone that is going has social media, yet none are making much mention of it.

Almost like its a big secret.

We would expect people involved in a wedding to make mention of it on social media, talking about plans,preparations, honeymoon, you name it.

As of now, no mention at all of the wedding on social media it's almost like its a guarded secret.

I am officially on the outside looking in, and have turned it over to the creator!

hoping that all of my instincts and common sense have betrayed me for this event, and i will be happy to eat some crow.

Still in my mind it has all the ingredients of a real life quentin tarantino flick.

Well we are only a few days away from the friday the 13th wedding that starts at 4:00pm and ends most likely way after midnight.

I have been kept out of the loop for the past couple months and not given much updates as this trip has placed a strain on my relationship with my family members.

I will do my best to visit them tomorrow and try and get an update and some details about where they will be staying when they arrive.

They will be flying out on wednesday and they plan on returning saturday night.

It will be about 3-4 day round trip, and the original number attending the wedding with my family was 12 and it is now down to only 6 people total.

I am some what relieved that 2 of my family members went down a back in march to meet the bride and her family in person.

They returned safely and said that her family seemed like very very kind people who treated them well.

Of course my instincts and the instincts of others suggest that the real test was not the introduction but the real test will be the ceremony, reception, then honeymoon.

Reservations are booked, plane tickets purchased, bags being packed at this very moment I suspect and all systems are go!

What is eerie to us is that there is no mention of this on any of my family's social media pages, nor is there back and forth chatter about the trip being posted or mentioned on social media which strikes me as odd!

I would think that those participating in or planning a wedding of such magnitude would be making posts,comments, or questions on social media but nothing is being said.

Call me paranoid or conspiratorial minded but to not be talking about your own wedding that is less than a week away and you do not even mention it on social media just strikes me as bizarre.

Well that is about all I have to report for now, the wedding is friday the 13th and it is only 4 days away!

trying to stay positive and optimistic and trying to remind myself and my wife that everything is not a conspiracy, and everything is not an actual fairy tale either.

We will keep you posted good people, thank you for your interest, advice, and concern!