what do you do about a woman who constantly accuses you of cheating, even convinces themselves that you are , but youre not ?

When there is no reasonable basis for her accusation then it's a dynamic called "PROJECTION" that is occurring.

Projection is a REAL dynamic that people don't even realize they are employing, but shows the beliefs and thought process about how the person "projection" WOULD ACT in your situation, OR IS ALREADY ACTING!

The odds strongly favor that the woman here HAS ALREADY CHEATED on you (70-80%)(though she may not be cheating on you at the moment) and has almost guaranteed CHEATED IN PAST RELATIONSHIPS (as near to 100% as anything can be) ... and she is projecting HER OWN BEHAVIOR upon you.

Being an observer of the human condition I have seen this happen many dozens of times in life (I am older) by both females and males, and if you understand how "Projection" works it really is an eye opener as to the person's underlying personality (wrt THEIR sexual faithfulness)

Another good example, one I have now seen at least a couple of 100 times in life, is with people who steal.

Someone who is always accusing you of being a thief, or is constantly talking about how "honest" they are ... is most likely a thief themselves (about 100% of the time). They may not get caught for a long time ... but believe me they talk about it all the time because they are always thinking about Stealing ... and how to get away with it (and they ALWAYS eventually steal).

"IF" there is no solid reason for her accusations then what she is doing is clearly "PROJECTION" ... and SHE WILL be cheating on you eventually (if she hasn't already or isn't currently). GUARANTEED!

FLEE from this one. Don't get caught up in her web.

Once this behavior starts nothing is going to stop it while you are together. Think of HER... she is completely tortured by this. End it... maybe be friends.

She is looking for an out.

It means SHE is cheating. Or wants to.

People who accuse others are almost always "projecting" their inner thoughts and desires.

You might want to drop this one before she drops you.

Once a cheater always a cheater. Women know that. It will never last. Sounds like she will never trust you. She will always be watching for signs. Then you will get fed up, such as this, and then say, "fuck it, if I'm gonna be accused, might as well have some fun". It's a vicious cycle.

You never go anywhere without her, she checks your fb and phone bills to catch you out everyday? WTF! You mustn't have an ounce of self worth to put up with a clingy jealous psycho like that.

BTW even if she hasn't cheated now, the psychopath will do it to you soon because she is convinced you're doing it, which will provide her justification within her disordered mind for doing it to you.

You need to look up borderline personality disorder (not to be confused with bipolar disorder), as extreme irrational jealousy is a classic BPD trait.

well guys i sent the bitch on down the road.. shes livin with her mom as of now.

so i guess its time to go get some pussy.. its a friday night!!! woo!

Run, don't walk, to the nearest exit.

Yup

^^THIS^^

I know for sure whats going on...
1. She cheated on you
2. You showed her a side of you that made her question your loyalty.
3. She is just insecure.

I know bc im dealing with this kinda myself.
My gf has been having dreams i cheated on her lately and, to my fault ofcourse.

Long story short
We were at a strip club and i was highly intoxicated. Saw an old friend who danced there and was talking to her a bit too long and a bit too touchy feely.
My gf played it off while we were there and i was faded so i didnt really know what i was doing. But when we got home, i heard. Loud and clear.
And im still hearing it and it happened last thursday. SMH.

If you love her, youll put your pride aside and help overcome whatever insecurities she has. Youll also make up for whatever you did to make her feel this way (you are the only one who really knows what you did, so we cant help you there buddy) if you really did do something.

Worse case scenario...
She cheated on you when she started nagging you.
She feels guilt and her way of escaping it is suspecting you for the same behavior. A lot of ppl do this.

Personally, id take a Step back and give your gft he time she needs to see your loyalty and heal

thread should have been locked after this post.

my missus is a classic deflector too

whenever she does ANYTHING wrong, and i'm only talking trivial shit here, somehow, anyhow, she finds a way to blame me. it is amazing behaviour, but then you start wondering, when she goes off on one, seemingly for NO REASON whatsoever, know what I mean?

they are weird creatures, women, but I have a feeling they are somewhat predictable, if you know what signs to spot

snoop dogg said it best.. bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks

Pretty simple solution.. Tell her, if you really keep on with this cheating shit, then I might as well cheat on you because my everyday life wouldn't change at all, so you have been warned. COOL YOU'R JETS...........and if she keeps it up, you can be a little puss and keep complaining, or move on to greener pastures..

Seriously leave her before you have kids you both will be happier I know from experience

There is no fix
It will never get better
Leave her and save both of you

You won't though
People are stupid and misery loves company
I didn't and we had a kid and got married
Soon as the kid was born she left me filed for child support and alimony

Trust me
Leave her

She is obsess, if this is interfering with her normal life them she needs professional help, probably a psychiatrist and some antipsychotics

Dump her. She's got someone else. That type of female will use & abuse you mentally while she is doing exactly what she is accusing you of doing. Wake up!

get her counselling and fast

it's not you, it's HER

it's her issue and she's making it your problem

she likely did the same thing to all her previous beaus and she will likely do it to her last...

one right after the next

I pity the position you are in, it's anything but pleasant and there is no real way you can alleviate the potential for it to continue

only hard work on her part can ever loose those demons from her, and she will clearly require the assistance of a professional

the best you could do to alleviate some of your own stress is not to react to any of it when she starts in on you/it

eventually she won't get that feedback she desperately believes she needs and she will find alternative ways to "vent" her abberrations

hopefully

good luck, you're going to need it

some people act that way because they are carrying their own boatload of guilt accordingly

whereas some do it from emotional abberrations they suffer which are deeply seated and may stem from feeling abandoned as a child or something equally innocuous having no real bearing on that which she has set her sights upon thusly

it's a means to an end on her part, subconsciously, in either regard and you are just the vehicle she is currently utilizing to express/vent in lieu of such

Same here. I'm constantly with my gf besides work time. Other than that we pretty much together all the time. She will ride my ass on how I'm "cheating" ??? I'm like when do I even have the time? She is bat shit convinced that I'm fucking pussy any chance I get? I'm like really? She is the one with a "secret" Facebook page I found out not too long ago, she is the one working out constantly, wearing perfume "now" etc. I've told her about how fucking crazy she is with it that she will prob go fuck some dude because she has "convinced" herself that I'm a cheater.