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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 38377158 United States 03/23/2014 07:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 4938037 United States 03/23/2014 08:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. Say it with me... All women are whores. |
nutmeg User ID: 18480806 United States 03/23/2014 08:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. I was married for 25+ years, divorced, and got back together with a guy I knew before I married. He was also divorced. Even though we didn't live together, I would fly to see him and stay for weeks at a time. In all the years we were together, I would find evidence of him emailing his ex, even though he always swore he wasn't in touch with her. (She had remarried) His grown children even indicated he and the ex talked on the phone. After 10 years of this, I had enough and never wanted to see him again. Once I divorced, I wasn't sending emails or calling my ex on the phone. I felt it wasn't necessary for him to call or email his ex either. Well, he found another girlfriend after I left. She was very wealthy, and after 2 years, he called me and said she kicked him out of her home because she caught him on the internet with another woman/women who lived 2000 miles away. He didn't feel he did anything wrong. He's been living with another woman now (very pretty) for at least two years, and he emails me about once a month and flirts with me. What I'm trying to say is that there are people who are in a relationship, but in order to feel more secure, they have to have someone on the side, even though it's online. I say it's cheating. It's not your fault. You sound like a good guy. If you leave her, I will bet she'll do the same to another guy. People don't change. You can forgive. I did, but I will never forget. I'm not bitter. We had good times, too, but I wouldn't take him back for anything. Oh...by the way, he told me that while he was married (25 years), he thought of me all the time but didn't know how to get in touch with me. Believe me, the guy has never been promiscuous...I can bet he never physically cheated on his wife or me, but he's obviously a flirt and needs several emotional bonds. I don't trust him. Last Edited by nutmeg on 03/23/2014 12:48 PM |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 4938037 United States 03/23/2014 09:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, there is no joint account and there never fucking will be. It's hardly a "joint account" if it's all my fucking money. We don't own a property either. Take the money out of the bank, sell off anything you have for cash. DO NOT LEAVE IT IN THE BANK. The judge will give it all to the whore! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 55566272 United States 03/23/2014 09:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. Document and see a lawyer about what to document and how to prepare. How can it hurt to prepare? She's not necessarily having sex so just flirting is not usually called cheating. But maybe she's thinking of it. No kids? Then the way is clear. Maybe you should flirt too. Abundance! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 49510565 United States 03/23/2014 09:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 55985698 It´s the sign of the times. Women are becoming sluts. Even wives, who have been married for 20 years, are being infected by modernity, by their neighbors, sisters, co-workers and even church member friends. There is a pole dancing place in every town and women make money by the tonnes and start thinking they aren´t smart by washing dishes, doing the home shores while women are treated like queens by baring it all and fucking 500 men every night. Help close these places and women will return to being house-wives. A sign of the times? Men cheat just as much as women do. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 49510565 United States 03/23/2014 09:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She has needs that you did not or were unable to fulfill so she is getting those needs met elsewhere. As for what those unmet needs are, the only way to know is to ask her. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 55893731 United States 03/23/2014 09:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. Be sure to put a hidden keylogger sites visited app on yur pc then u will know and great for court if need be Yeah, good idea. Intercept her communications. That's only worth what, 4 years in the federal pen? |
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Joseph Stalin User ID: 55871536 United States 03/23/2014 10:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. If you know you can't forgive her, then stop pretending. Don't let yourself or your wife fool you. See through the denial, and realize that you are better than forgiving someone who doesn't repent for their harm against you. |
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Hq okc User ID: 1852209 United States 03/23/2014 10:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As a woman, here's my best guess from what I've read. She has been like this from the beginning so it's not you or the relationship that has grown stale. This is on her. So then, why does she do it? For some reason she wants the attention from any and all men. It may be she was abused or neglected as a child, it could be that she's looking for better possibilities. You need to figure out why she does it and then decide if you want to stick around and help her heal. If you aren't committed to helping her, leave. If you want to help her, stay but insist on getting some outside help. Hq okc |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27749494 United States 03/23/2014 10:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | never should have married in the first place... why couldn't a man just live with a woman and take care of her for life? why does he NEED a state-appointed license to be "together" legally? it's a sham and frankly the woman always gets more out of it. men lose 50% of their worth and the women take the children/dog/house/etc. IMHO marriage is a pathetic needy clingy thing girls think they want, but they actually have no idea wtf they want. just my cynical yet truthful opinion on the matter Not that it matters what other people think, but not being married to a guy you've been with for a long time is hard on a woman, especially if you have kids. You have no idea. At the grocery store, people will compliment your kids, then look at your ring finger-- if no ring, their demeanor often changes. I was a single mom for a while and actually bought a cheap wedding band to wear so I'd be treated better. No matter how great a relationship is, if the woman isn't married we all think the guy won't do it because he does not want to be "trapped" and therefore does not truly love her. We're not all that bad, I promise. Not all states make you split property and there are always prenups. I made my hubby sign one even though he didnt want to. Women can be so unappreciated though. I have four kids, work at home. Hubby makes much more, but what am I worth? How much would it cost to hire someone that does what I do? Full time 24/7 childcare nanny for four kids runs about 7k per month. Add another $500 monthly for cleaning service. My being thrifty saves him at least $300 a month. My full time personal assistant duties to him are worth at least $1500 monthly. I don't know how much a full time chef runs but ill assume thats at least 1k per month. Want to get down and dirty, sex costs about $75 a pop, thats another $1500 a month. Thats about $11k a month, over $110k per year. A good wife will give you over a million dollars in services over the course of a decade, and how many get that much back in a divorce? Where can a guy get sex for $75 a pop from a hot girl? That's the service I need, and the right girl can have a place to stay. Think about the services a man provides a woman. If he's a good man and she's good to him, they're a wash. Kids are a joint obligation - (hopefully) freely undertaken. That said, a man morally owes NO money to a woman other than legitimate child support. That's support, not financing. Child support should be in kind - food, clothing, shelter. BTW, prenups are great for organizing agreements between parties, but they suck as far as getting the lawyers out of the divorce game. The first thing the lawyers will suck money for is to argue and try to break the prenup. Only after the money is all gone will they agree to terms of the divorce. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27749494 United States 03/23/2014 10:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 55985698 It´s the sign of the times. Women are becoming sluts. Even wives, who have been married for 20 years, are being infected by modernity, by their neighbors, sisters, co-workers and even church member friends. There is a pole dancing place in every town and women make money by the tonnes and start thinking they aren´t smart by washing dishes, doing the home shores while women are treated like queens by baring it all and fucking 500 men every night. Help close these places and women will return to being house-wives. A sign of the times? Men cheat just as much as women do. Men are supposed to cheat. It's what it is to be a man. Women are supposed to be pure as ivory snow. Pure, clean, virginal and unsullied by the touch of another man. It's obvious. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 30498744 United States 03/23/2014 10:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. If it's you that pays for things, stop paying for internet access. Cut her off at the source. :) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 41255538 United States 03/23/2014 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many occasions I've found my wife talking to strangers on the Internet. She says it's harmless but she knows what she is doing. Outright flirting. Should I be documenting this for the impending divorce? She ain't getting a cent from me, that's for sure. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38377158 Shes treated good. I pay for things, I don't cheat or hit her. I moved across country for her and found stuff shortly after. She says she loves me a lot bit still obviously can't help herself. I'm not in love anymore, i'd like to forgive but can't. Well, when I was banging her... seriously, "sex" is far too mild a word for it. I had her in all ways imaginable, and probably a few that most would consider impossible, or at least implausible... anyway, when I was done in her, she told me that you have a tiny little "member" and when it rarely DOES "rise to the occasion", you're done before she even realized you'd entered her. But, again, she's a lying, cheating whore, so that might not ALL be true. Well, apart from me treating her like a barnyard animal... THAT HAPPENED. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25628182 United States 03/23/2014 11:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Split. And yes if you can prove the marriage was irretrievably broken by her, the only money you'll be out is the divorce itself. Best decision I ever made, do yourself a favor and follow suit. Went from abject misery to having the time of my life just by leaving my awful insane wife. The hassle and legal fees are all entirely worthwhile, there's no substitute for true happiness. I have more money than I could ever need now, and best of all I'm not just hemorrhaging all of it on the ridiculous whims of a psychotic waste of space. Just being free to date women worth a damn again is the most liberating experience. Nothing like going through a terrible marriage to make someone appreciate the good life again. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 55903768 United States 03/23/2014 11:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | never should have married in the first place... why couldn't a man just live with a woman and take care of her for life? why does he NEED a state-appointed license to be "together" legally? it's a sham and frankly the woman always gets more out of it. men lose 50% of their worth and the women take the children/dog/house/etc. IMHO marriage is a pathetic needy clingy thing girls think they want, but they actually have no idea wtf they want. just my cynical yet truthful opinion on the matter Not that it matters what other people think, but not being married to a guy you've been with for a long time is hard on a woman, especially if you have kids. You have no idea. At the grocery store, people will compliment your kids, then look at your ring finger-- if no ring, their demeanor often changes. I was a single mom for a while and actually bought a cheap wedding band to wear so I'd be treated better. No matter how great a relationship is, if the woman isn't married we all think the guy won't do it because he does not want to be "trapped" and therefore does not truly love her. We're not all that bad, I promise. Not all states make you split property and there are always prenups. I made my hubby sign one even though he didnt want to. Women can be so unappreciated though. I have four kids, work at home. Hubby makes much more, but what am I worth? How much would it cost to hire someone that does what I do? Full time 24/7 childcare nanny for four kids runs about 7k per month. Add another $500 monthly for cleaning service. My being thrifty saves him at least $300 a month. My full time personal assistant duties to him are worth at least $1500 monthly. I don't know how much a full time chef runs but ill assume thats at least 1k per month. Want to get down and dirty, sex costs about $75 a pop, thats another $1500 a month. Thats about $11k a month, over $110k per year. A good wife will give you over a million dollars in services over the course of a decade, and how many get that much back in a divorce? Whatever it costs, any guy should divorce a frigid bitch like you, who sees sex as a service she is selling to her husband at "$75 a pop". Seriously, how could you enjoy sex with a female who felt like she was selling sex to you, marriage or otherwise? I think you are grossly overestimating your value to your mate. If he makes that much money to "hire" you, he could easily get sex from other women at the grocery store just by flirting, he doesn't need to pay you "$75 a pop" for sex with a frigid wife like you. |