Sometimes I feel so alone and empty

get along with *


we might have messed around*

A soul mate is your eternal partner. Someone you are lovers with beyond death. I am travelling a similar path to you, only I am abstinent. I get great satisfaction knowing that I am being true to myself and my soulmate.

SHTF you move, move fast and alone.

You are still grieving. Give it time.

It gets better. Hang in there.

It happens for me just very slow. I have been with many women and have had 6 long serious relationships. Still alone. I don't know why. I get with women but it never lasts. Something happens, never bad really as in negative for the relationship, but something happens and it just stops.

It's just funny, since I was like 5 I always felt this way. Even when I thought girls were icky.

don't be dependent on something or someone outside of yourself for your happiness.


While all falls apart, maintain your core, your essence.

I don't need to be around anyone. I need to be alone often otherwise I go crazy. But There is this longing for your souls mate. There is nothing better than when you make love to someone and there is true passion. Drunk sex is almost non stimulating.

and the ones you do "end up with" most often there is no real attraction other than quick physical gratification.

Yeah, I got some bad news. If she really was your soul mate, the torment never ends. 12 years here. Haven't been on a date since my 20's. Hurts as much today as it did then. Just don't have any interest in anyone else. She's married now, I'm happy for her but I just don't feel like having somebody else to have somebody else would be fair to me or her. So I walk alone.

The loneliness kinda feels like drowning. Only after you reach the bottom and go through the horror, instead of relief it just starts over. I go through these periods where I'm a mindless automaton. Then I become me again, I think it's gonna get better - then the nightmares start, the drowning feeling, the apathy, restoration - rinse and repeat. The only upside is I laugh at the prospect of Hell. If this ain't already it, Hell's got nothin' that'll even register.

Every day for true love lost is Cast Away.

This is your fucking problem, right here. You are the kind of guy who gets an asskicking and instead of feeling fury and anger, feels a kind of sad masochistic love. It reeks of weakness and fail, and women can smell it the way a junkyard dog can smell fear.

Ha you are a sad child I see. You can troll all you want, when you grow hair on your balls you will understand one day :) Sorry buddy, if you are talking about getting laid you are making me laugh. That I could care less about because it comes easy.

And another thing: There is no such thing as "the one" or "soulmates" until you have been together and made it so.

I was in an arranged marrage. I didn't know hardly anything about my wife. I certainly had no "soul mate" kind of feeling the first few times I met her. The first ten years we fought a lot and there was a lot of bitterness. But I've been married over 35 years now and I'd take a bullet for her in a heartbeat. She is "the one." She is my "soulmate." But only because we have been through many ups and downs together over many years.

Soul mates are made, not found.

I was single for 36 years, got married, It Sucked! Now I'm single again and once again I'm happy. Sure I fantasize about meeting that one perfect woman who is my feminine equal. But it is better to be alone then unequally yoked in a marriage or relationship.

Embrace your loneliness, learn to love yourself. You don't need anyone else . especially someone who does not appreciate you. Obviously you misunderstood the person you where in a relationship with.

Use this time to come to terms with your own mind and spirit. Feeling lonely and butthurt is just an emotional trap.

You can not make that a universal statement when there are many cases that fail.

if it is true love then you are lucky and I am happy for you

let time take its course


you'll be given signs...ride the wave of what your destiny is.

The flipside of loneliness is glory and fullness....its literally almost impossible to explian. It has nothing to with religion. It has to do with your soul.


Reclaim your soul and all answers and events fall into place naturally and gracefully and then one day you'll wonder why it was never this easy.


Choose easy or choose the hard way.

Take your pick....life is consciously living and taking the right(for you) turns in the road.

Ya, that's what I keep telling myself. Toward the end I was miserable. I didn't realize it until we split.

You are romanticizing the past. Love is only in a dream

Yeah, just because you've never been to the ocean doesn't mean it isn't there. Filling your backyard with water and telling yourself it's the ocean ain't the same thing.

It's very strange, through out life You have some very strong bonds between other same sex and opposite sex. Even if you cant be together there is some serious energy between the two. You want to be together but just can't.

I ask a lot of people I meet this question. What that is?

This tension comes from the loneliness of the two individuals involved. This loneliness can only be resolved by your inner experience of the "flipside" of this new way of life mentioned and described so succinctly and eloquently above by AC 375....

My wife and I met by falling into this easier way of life together while everyone around us either ignored us or treated us like we were insane. I wish you peace and happiness on your journey, and I pray for God's presence to enter your life and comfort and guide you along the rest of your journey back to Him.

Here are some resources that I hope you will find useful in this dark time:

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Last Edited by Snow Falling on Cedars on 07/20/2014 03:56 AM

very heartfelt post OP

thank you

This is such a deep and beautiful thing to be doing.

A fantasy of clinging to a soul mate is not Freedom


Be Free.

A soulmate is not a fantasy if you're clinging to one.

Jesus is the only way to true freedom.

If we could all just be more heartfelt then the evil people dominating the globe would surely abort their plan to murder us all!

gotta fill your emptiness with your own inner divinity. external world will just bring temporary satisfaction.

This. Too many pussy men