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Anonymous Coward User ID: 67907205 United States 05/18/2015 04:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 67907205 I love hom unconditionally. He has hust taken so mich. Ivw tries so hard. Im waiting for him to make a move now. Unconditional love requires you to continue to give. You are expecting a return on your "investment"...that's a condition. Let's be real...you do not love him unconditionally. U I love him with all my heart. Im just tired. He never tries. I tried for nearly three. Years. To get to him. Its hard to love someone who constantly acts lile he doesnt care. Youe heart can only take so much rejection Okay...that's fair. But you cannot continue to tell yourself you love him unconditionally. I'm not saying you must endure torture at the cost of love. Unconditional versus conditional is my point. Im trying. To stop haha. I wish i could. Whenever i start to be sad ill think. Of that. I must be stronger |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 04:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Ouiser What about them? Many just go along their merry way maybe paying child support. When a woman gives her love whether it be her children or her lover, she gives all. Which is why, when a woman feels betrayed, it runs deep. Hence the woman scorned stuff. You may be referring to yourself. Perhaps you do "give all". I myself have never seen that. If true...you are a very rare woman. However, there is a possibility that you have severe appearance deficits and that is why you must do so. For the most part...beautiful women couldn't give 2 shits unless the man is equally attractive and/or successful. WOW...you are WAY off on that notion. What makes you go there? Just working off my own experiences. Sometimes you'll find a fairly attractive woman chase an unattractive and/or unsuccessful man because she is insecure and knows he'll always worship her. But for the most part my prior assessment is more of a constant in my observation. And sometimes...you'll find a woman who is beautiful inside and out who gives a guy a chance in hopes he's for real. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 66273998 United States 05/18/2015 04:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just working off my own experiences. Sometimes you'll find a fairly attractive woman chase an unattractive and/or unsuccessful man because she is insecure and knows he'll always worship her. But for the most part my prior assessment is more of a constant in my observation. And sometimes...you'll find a woman who is beautiful inside and out who gives a guy a chance in hopes he's for real. Now that would be one miraculous thing to see. I'll be 42 this year and I have never seen that. I of course have not experienced everything and so I suppose it's possible. I've just never witnessed it. Go chip. Go chip Hope you find her Will make you lesa grumpy |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 67907202 United States 05/18/2015 04:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Thats not true. I am utterly heartbroken. Since our break up whoch was. Ages ago and. Cry all the time. I am young though. Anyway. At least i have beautiful. Cape town to life my spirits" Quoting: ninpo 64487914 Sounds like you'll get over it quickly and easily, unlike a man. Lol quickly... This heartbreak been going on since fifteen Why do you say that. I cam relate. If a girl isnt on love she can heal fast. But. Ifs its real. It doesnt stop |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 45268277 United Kingdom 05/18/2015 04:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So why do men fall in love with rude obnoxious nasty fat women who dominate them? Many do! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45268277 Because love is deep and has no basis in rationality. Men love very deeply, I've seen it many times. Thanks. Starting to restore. My faith in the superior. Sex I am glad. Yes, have faith |
MonocyteOne User ID: 15041895 United States 05/18/2015 04:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Ouiser And sometimes...you'll find a woman who is beautiful inside and out who gives a guy a chance in hopes he's for real. Now that would be one miraculous thing to see. I'll be 42 this year and I have never seen that. I of course have not experienced everything and so I suppose it's possible. I've just never witnessed it. Go chip. Go chip Hope you find her Will make you lesa grumpy Nah...I'm not lookin. I'm the serendipitous type. Never force the circle into the square hole. ^ Yep |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 04:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just working off my own experiences. Sometimes you'll find a fairly attractive woman chase an unattractive and/or unsuccessful man because she is insecure and knows he'll always worship her. But for the most part my prior assessment is more of a constant in my observation. And sometimes...you'll find a woman who is beautiful inside and out who gives a guy a chance in hopes he's for real. Now that would be one miraculous thing to see. I'll be 42 this year and I have never seen that. I of course have not experienced everything and so I suppose it's possible. I've just never witnessed it. You just did you just don't know it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 65125945 Singapore 05/18/2015 04:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Us men fall in love much easier than women. We get hurt a lot." Quoting: ninpo 64487914 Yes, I've heard that women tend to recover much better from breakups...they land on their feet. I've also seen this to be true in every fucking case in my life. So I think men truly fall in love, and women perhaps don't. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 62687384 United States 05/18/2015 04:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Chip Just working off my own experiences. Sometimes you'll find a fairly attractive woman chase an unattractive and/or unsuccessful man because she is insecure and knows he'll always worship her. But for the most part my prior assessment is more of a constant in my observation. And sometimes...you'll find a woman who is beautiful inside and out who gives a guy a chance in hopes he's for real. Now that would be one miraculous thing to see. I'll be 42 this year and I have never seen that. I of course have not experienced everything and so I suppose it's possible. I've just never witnessed it. You just did you just don't know it. Yeah chip take advantage of the mod groupie scene. Perhaps not as hot as some of the rock groupies. But equally as bat shit! What were we talking about again? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 04:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All men grow tired of the same old same old. Many are just too damn lazy to do anything about it. Find a lazy man Quoting: Anonymous Coward 62687384 That's what concerns me. I do what I can to keep myself in shape and desirable because I respect him enough to. But after a lot of the posts I've read from men...does it really matter? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 05:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All men grow tired of the same old same old. Many are just too damn lazy to do anything about it. Find a lazy man Quoting: Anonymous Coward 62687384 That's what concerns me. I do what I can to keep myself in shape and desirable because I respect him enough to. But after a lot of the posts I've read from men...does it really matter? Crickets? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 05:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All men grow tired of the same old same old. Many are just too damn lazy to do anything about it. Find a lazy man Quoting: Anonymous Coward 62687384 That's what concerns me. I do what I can to keep myself in shape and desirable because I respect him enough to. But after a lot of the posts I've read from men...does it really matter? Crickets? You should be doing those things for yourself. Not someone else. Really? Why? I'm not an egotistical person, I could care less if I gained a few pounds. I keep myself desirable for my husband out of respect for his wants and desires. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 05:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Because unless you love yourself...no one can ever really love you and visa verse. Well, yeah I have basic standards for myself. But I do go above and beyond to make sure he's happy as well. But after some of the posts I've seen from men just being honest, I'm not so sure it really matters. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 05:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, yeah I have basic standards for myself. But I do go above and beyond to make sure he's happy as well. I wish I could say "good for you". But it doesn't really sound like it is good for you. Why? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 67907202 United States 05/18/2015 05:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Ouiser Well, yeah I have basic standards for myself. But I do go above and beyond to make sure he's happy as well. I wish I could say "good for you". But it doesn't really sound like it is good for you. Why? Because with "all you do" for him eventually you're going to resent him. Women set themselves up to resent all the time. They give and give and give until they end up like OP...all butthurt and empty. If you do anything in life do it for you! The end result will automatically be that others will view you as a loveable person. Who can resist a person that accepts themselves and strives to be the best they can? Nobody can resist that. Very true description. Haha. But i am working on moving. On . It will just take time as i adored. Him |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69264608 United States 05/18/2015 05:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is it. Easy to. Fall in love. With a person. That doesn't. know how to write. Semtences? Something. About the OP. Screams troll. Men. and women. Fall in love. Whether you realize it or not. *** Things never get hard without some cause. If you are creating drama, then you will push away anyone you are with, regardless of your own gender. If you bitch about various things he's doing and are trying to change him, why should he be forced to stick around? Men change because they love you, not because you love them. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 05:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Ouiser Well, yeah I have basic standards for myself. But I do go above and beyond to make sure he's happy as well. I wish I could say "good for you". But it doesn't really sound like it is good for you. Why? Because with "all you do" for him eventually you're going to resent him. Women set themselves up to resent all the time. They give and give and give until they end up like OP...all butthurt and empty. If you do anything in life do it for you! The end result will automatically be that others will view you as a loveable person. Who can resist a person that accepts themselves and strives to be the best they can? Nobody can resist that. Bingo! Women give more. PERIOD. Women give more love, respect, time, whatever a relationship needs to flourish. Men, not so much. When we get "not so much in return" and speak our minds we're just batshit and we just "set ourselves up for resentment". LMAO |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 67907202 United States 05/18/2015 05:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is it. Easy to. Fall in love. With a person. That doesn't. know how to write. Semtences? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69264608 Something. About the OP. Screams troll. Men. and women. Fall in love. Whether you realize it or not. *** Things never get hard without some cause. If you are creating drama, then you will push away anyone you are with, regardless of your own gender. If you bitch about various things he's doing and are trying to change him, why should he be forced to stick around? Men change because they love you, not because you love them. Sorry. I am using a phone and its plants full stops everywhere. I was never bitchy to him. I just wanted him to be around. More often |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 68627218 Canada 05/18/2015 05:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Chip I wish I could say "good for you". But it doesn't really sound like it is good for you. Why? Because with "all you do" for him eventually you're going to resent him. Women set themselves up to resent all the time. They give and give and give until they end up like OP...all butthurt and empty. If you do anything in life do it for you! The end result will automatically be that others will view you as a loveable person. Who can resist a person that accepts themselves and strives to be the best they can? Nobody can resist that. Bingo! Women give more. PERIOD. Women give more love, respect, time, whatever a relationship needs to flourish. Men, not so much. When we get "not so much in return" and speak our minds we're just batshit and we just "set ourselves up for resentment". LMAO We should be fair. We give what we think is more because we WANT to. It's in our nature (or most of us) to be affectionate and loving and doting. Men are generally not like that. At least not to the extreme that we are. Men give in different ways. They feel that because they DO love us, that it should go without saying and that the outward signs of it are unnecessary. Who knows. Maybe they feel it even cheapens it. I don't know. I guess my point is that we shouldn't expect from them what we give because it will never happen. They will give back just as much, just not in the same way we do. It's hard to grasp that though! Trust me. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 05:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Because with "all you do" for him eventually you're going to resent him. Women set themselves up to resent all the time. They give and give and give until they end up like OP...all butthurt and empty. If you do anything in life do it for you! The end result will automatically be that others will view you as a loveable person. Who can resist a person that accepts themselves and strives to be the best they can? Nobody can resist that. Bingo! Women give more. PERIOD. Women give more love, respect, time, whatever a relationship needs to flourish. Men, not so much. When we get "not so much in return" and speak our minds we're just batshit and we just "set ourselves up for resentment". LMAO It's true. Most women are loaded with resentment because they believe they have done more for the relationship than the man. That's not always the case...but they'll truly believe it's the God's honest truth. Sometimes it's just a delusion. I'll give you "sometimes" it's a delusion. I'll also be the first to call out fucktard women. They are an embarrassment to us REAL women. No argument there. But when it comes to the women who possess common sense, respect our men, and want a little something in return for our effort only to get "Well, you set yourself up for resentment." That's fucked up. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 69035201 United States 05/18/2015 06:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Because with "all you do" for him eventually you're going to resent him. Women set themselves up to resent all the time. They give and give and give until they end up like OP...all butthurt and empty. If you do anything in life do it for you! The end result will automatically be that others will view you as a loveable person. Who can resist a person that accepts themselves and strives to be the best they can? Nobody can resist that. Bingo! Women give more. PERIOD. Women give more love, respect, time, whatever a relationship needs to flourish. Men, not so much. When we get "not so much in return" and speak our minds we're just batshit and we just "set ourselves up for resentment". LMAO We should be fair. We give what we think is more because we WANT to. It's in our nature (or most of us) to be affectionate and loving and doting. Men are generally not like that. At least not to the extreme that we are. Men give in different ways. They feel that because they DO love us, that it should go without saying and that the outward signs of it are unnecessary. Who knows. Maybe they feel it even cheapens it. I don't know. I guess my point is that we shouldn't expect from them what we give because it will never happen. They will give back just as much, just not in the same way we do. It's hard to grasp that though! Trust me. Thank you...I don't expect them to give as much because I know it's not in their nature. I understand the differences between men and women and embrace them. I do however, expect them to also acknowledge the differences between us and embrace it. I just don't see them being as accepting as we are. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 68627218 Canada 05/18/2015 06:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Chip Because with "all you do" for him eventually you're going to resent him. Women set themselves up to resent all the time. They give and give and give until they end up like OP...all butthurt and empty. If you do anything in life do it for you! The end result will automatically be that others will view you as a loveable person. Who can resist a person that accepts themselves and strives to be the best they can? Nobody can resist that. Bingo! Women give more. PERIOD. Women give more love, respect, time, whatever a relationship needs to flourish. Men, not so much. When we get "not so much in return" and speak our minds we're just batshit and we just "set ourselves up for resentment". LMAO We should be fair. We give what we think is more because we WANT to. It's in our nature (or most of us) to be affectionate and loving and doting. Men are generally not like that. At least not to the extreme that we are. Men give in different ways. They feel that because they DO love us, that it should go without saying and that the outward signs of it are unnecessary. Who knows. Maybe they feel it even cheapens it. I don't know. I guess my point is that we shouldn't expect from them what we give because it will never happen. They will give back just as much, just not in the same way we do. It's hard to grasp that though! Trust me. Thank you...I don't expect them to give as much because I know it's not in their nature. I understand the differences between men and women and embrace them. I do however, expect them to also acknowledge the differences between us and embrace it. I just don't see them being as accepting as we are. Well, they do give as much...just not the same way we do. If you're with a decent man that is. They probably see us as not being accepting, too. I think there are some areas where most men and women will just never quite mesh. We give differently, accepting it is the tricky part. |