Getting back with ex wife?

Forgive her, get back together, and lead the whole family to get right with Jesus because this mess is coming to a close.

If you both have changed for the better and you are a good person that recognizes the mistakes you made in the marriage and you apologized to her for and if she recognizes the mistakes she made in the marriage and she apologized to you and you're convinced that not only can you make it work but that the new relationship will thrive and be a benefit for the BOTH of you then I would STRONGLY consider it

Best of luck

hit it and quit it

OP, since you have no job or money, she must want YOU just as you are, cancer and all.

She's probably discovered that the grass really ISN'T greener, as they say, and wants to restore what's been broken.

You say you have four loving kids at home and you've been a close-knit family. I'd suggest you go back, forget the past, and start building a relationship stronger than before. With your wife and kids with you, it'll be far easier dealing with the cancer, too.

God bless, OP -- and good luck to you and yours.

depends on why you parted ways

something she did?
something you did?
both?
simple growing apart?

My ex wife would like to get back together again, it has been 5 years since we parted ways. In that time she has had a few partners, now I feel it is like going to a restaurant and having a meal that a few others have taken a bite.

In 5 years I have made some sort of life for my self even though I have never been with anyone else, I have nothing to offer anyone, no job and no money.

The ex wife is the mother of our 4 children and I still love her for this. We have remained friends but now it is a lot more friendlier. See her more and taken the offer of meals there as well. I have my younger children every weekend and suspect they would like to be a whole family unit again. My children are 20,19,15,13, all live at home, we have always been a close family.

But I still have reservations, I know this time it will be different, no stress from work and not much money worries, but to give up what I have now. She knows that I have cancer (not terminal)have a good 3yrs or a lot more 20yrs if lucky.

What should I do?

My ex wife would like to get back together again, it has been 5 years since we parted ways. In that time she has had a few partners, now I feel it is like going to a restaurant and having a meal that a few others have taken a bite.

In 5 years I have made some sort of life for my self even though I have never been with anyone else, I have nothing to offer anyone, no job and no money.

The ex wife is the mother of our 4 children and I still love her for this. We have remained friends but now it is a lot more friendlier. See her more and taken the offer of meals there as well. I have my younger children every weekend and suspect they would like to be a whole family unit again. My children are 20,19,15,13, all live at home, we have always been a close family.

But I still have reservations, I know this time it will be different, no stress from work and not much money worries, but to give up what I have now. She knows that I have cancer (not terminal)have a good 3yrs or a lot more 20yrs if lucky.

What should I do?

Thank you all for your insights and answers.
I am going to take the chance to be a whole family again and now knowing the mistakes of the past (on both sides)and have learnt from them.

All I ever wanted out of life was to have a family and be happy.

Not many people get to have a second chance. I am taking this chance with an open heart and forgiveness for past sins and mistakes.

Perhaps this time it will be "lived happy ever after".

Thank you all again.

Thank you all for your insights and answers.
I am going to take the chance to be a whole family again and now knowing the mistakes of the past (on both sides)and have learnt from them.

All I ever wanted out of life was to have a family and be happy.

Not many people get to have a second chance. I am taking this chance with an open heart and forgiveness for past sins and mistakes.

Perhaps this time it will be "lived happy ever after".

Thank you all again.