People with a high IQ are less able socially.

I enjoy talking to everyone, Smart and not so smart.

"A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer." - Bruce Lee

Yes. I remember, in elementary school, my mom was called for a parent-teacher conference because I would finish my classroom work quickly, then head for the bookshelf to find a book to read for the remainder of the time. Why was that a problem? Although this is another podunk town, but still, someone could have seen this and offered me more challenging class work or something-I never had a mentor.

And at work, I have to grit my teeth when said less intelligent people grab me for a description of their problems-I'm quiet and a good listener, so I'm an easy target. Usually I don't mind listening and helping them out in some way, but when I try to say something, more often than not, I get interrupted and can never say what I'm thinking.

I also tend to gravitate toward the outcasts; they tend to be more interesting as people compared to the average sheep.

Exactly. It pisses me off because this is WHO I am. I've never been a social butterfly, and I never will be. I have a couple of people I care to talk to, the others, it's just superficial garbage which is a waste of time and something I CAN'T do.

My coworkers come to me for support, for mentoring, etc, which was mentioned in my evaluation. I just don't get why they put that comment in there. It's like they felt the need to include a 'negative,' and that's all they could come up with. It irks me because it's not something that I can change unless I pretend to be someone I'm not, something I couldn't do even IF I tried.

Not true at all. Many examples of social people with high IQ's, example college students in fraternities and sororities; many people in show business are outgoing and extroverts; marketing and sales and public relations people. None of these could be where they are without a high IQ.
Social adeptness has more to do with genetics and general interests and talents than with IQ level.

Is it time to bring them inside?

You may be my twin. :p

I always had 'quiet, keeps to herself' on my report cards. So what? They want all of us to fit into a cookie cutter personality-wise.

I am the same way as you at work, and the exact same thing happens to me. I wouldn't mind listening, but it's hard to when I feel like I'm only being used.

Same with me for outcasts, too. :)

I work at a private school. I think it is perfectly OK for a child to not want to be around other children all the time, to do things on their own, etc. The parents, however, come to me expecting a label for their child or already with one. It's sad that not following the flock is now a disorder/negative to most people, including my boss.

I can relate, I encountered the same evaluation years ago. I was passed over for a promotion not because of my productivity but because I wasn't a "people person". In other words, I did my job, didn't bitch and complain and was the one, like you stated, was the "listener" everyone else came to bitch to.

#2 reason I became a SAHM.

Exactly. It's hard not to take something like that personally, but I try to look at it as a reflection on them. I wish I could say what I really think, but unfortunately, I can't.

Have you read the book Quiet? I feel like giving my boss a copy.

Every example you provide is teeming with low iq induhviduals... no I didnt misspell that.

I don't think that is the case all in all.

don't let it go to your head

I have a friend who has an incredibly high IQ. She can do complicated math problems in her head, but she has absolutely NO common sense.

She is the person who really believes that that Rolex she bought from the man on the street corner is real...

People will quite often say 3,4 years after getting to know me "We used to think you were a wise-ass or know-it-all, but truth is, gee, you are really smart! Thanks for your help with my (legal paperwork, phone contacts, research, real estate matters, etc.) you are really OK!"

I try to be nice to everyone, but can't hide my knowledge, it just pops out!

And I can't seriously have a discussion about People magazine or shoes, it is not my fault I am staring off thinking about repairing the cooler or different instuments in the music I am hearing!

Yep. Correct answer. Who wants to chat about meaningless and stupid things with morons and sheep?

yes we are...i used to find it hard and annoying to carry on a casual conversation with random sheeple...now i know how to "frame of mind" myself and adjust down to the trivial subjects that most are into. kind of like acting. that and reminding myself when they talk stupid or annoy me with their obtuseness that it most likely is not their fault, vaccinations, crap food, drugs, fluoride and public crapucation systems all contribute to their denseness.

LOVE them.

there are 2 kinds of smart (textbook smart) and common sense street smart. sometimes people dont have both

sounds like a family member i have, they went to ivy league universities and have a very smart professional job, but they have no common sense and they are gullible


people say im one of the most genius smart people they know, because im street smart and think my own way outside the box

but i did not do well in alot of school subjects, textbook subjects, barely did homework. i hated school and was at best an average student

but people say im brilliant outside the classroom. i dont have good grammer and cant do math

but if you have a law school question or medical school question etc, some advanced subject ill know the answer even without learning it or looking at any textbook

i remember opening the lsats study book and reading half the question and getting them correct it was easy and i never even finished college , but i used common sense

Failure of communication by IQ difference.

I read somewhere, a difference in IQ greater than 30 points will begin the failures to communicate effectively.

Someone with an IQ of 130 will have a slight difficulty discussing issues with a person who has an IQ 100 or less.

It would be even harder is the person had an IQ of 80. Making the spread 50.

When was the last time you tried to communicate with a worm? most people is little different from a worm.

Its hard to fly with the eagles when you flock with the dodos

Indeed,

Myself... I would rather have a healthy liver and zero real world friends and converse with other high IQ individuals on specialized forums, I particularly like computer programming forums as that is my hobby.

LOL Are you a college boy or something?? I bet you think you're pretty smart, huh?

My friend maintained a solid 4.0 in college but is clueless otherwise. We (her friends), are afraid when she goes out by herself...LOL

Oestracization of high IQ individuals is not because they have bad social connecting skills. Au contrair...

They actually manage to make very close ono on one bonds very quickly as they tend to have high empathy.

Because of this, lower IQ individuals see them as a threat, the high IQ individual gaining control of some individual, and so they all mob together.

But that is fine because the social competition is pointless anyway, from my vantage point it appears to be individuals treading on each others heads in order to get higher, while all the while wearing shit eating grins.

As far as I see it one only needs to "socialise" to find a mate, once that's done one can return to child mode and continue playing and having fun.