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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69451844  United States10/21/2015 01:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
JustChilling  User ID: 67790386 United States10/21/2015 01:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to turn this into a big thing or anything on hating females. She dumped me because the honey moon phase ended and she doesn't feel the same way anymore. The relationship was one sided with me doing all the work and sacrifice and she said it wasn't fair or right. She wasn't willing to put work in at her end to try to fix it so here I am. I feel like dirt, just confused and hurt and tired. Just want someone to talk to I guess. Why throw away a good relationship so easily, at least she did this instead of cheating or screwing me over but it's still floors me that people just do stuff like this. Any advice? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 1 day at a time dude. Take it 1 day at a time. Just because you really like someone, doesn't mean they're gonna feel the same way back.... Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery. -Winston Churchill |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69451844 United States10/21/2015 01:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to turn this into a big thing or anything on hating females. She dumped me because the honey moon phase ended and she doesn't feel the same way anymore. The relationship was one sided with me doing all the work and sacrifice and she said it wasn't fair or right. She wasn't willing to put work in at her end to try to fix it so here I am. I feel like dirt, just confused and hurt and tired. Just want someone to talk to I guess. Why throw away a good relationship so easily, at least she did this instead of cheating or screwing me over but it's still floors me that people just do stuff like this. Any advice? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 1 day at a time dude. Take it 1 day at a time. Just because you really like someone, doesn't mean they're gonna feel the same way back.... I guess that's right but how does anyone survive past the honeymoon stage in a relationship? It's like all the sudden they start resenting and hating you at the 2 to 3 year mark. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70608107 United States10/21/2015 01:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | advice would be.. don't beat yourself up over it.. understand that there's no real solution. It is what it is. It's over. Feelings were real, but the balance doesn't exist. Let it go. Could be a hell of a lot worse. Cry if you have to. Listen to music. Try to avoid anger and revenge thoughts. Just sit around and let time roll on. It's not so bad. Think about the other cute girl you like. Then think about how it will fail with her too. The think about how alone we really are. Go to sleep, wake up, feel better. Eat the most free breakfast you ever had. |
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| M*walk Low Earth Orbit User ID: 9652994 United States10/21/2015 01:22 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to turn this into a big thing or anything on hating females. She dumped me because the honey moon phase ended and she doesn't feel the same way anymore. The relationship was one sided with me doing all the work and sacrifice and she said it wasn't fair or right. She wasn't willing to put work in at her end to try to fix it so here I am. I feel like dirt, just confused and hurt and tired. Just want someone to talk to I guess. Why throw away a good relationship so easily, at least she did this instead of cheating or screwing me over but it's still floors me that people just do stuff like this. Any advice? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 Yeah, like the other poster said. 1 day at a time. And try not to dwell on her, leave it behind you. Good luck, hope you feel better in the days to come. “The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants.” |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69624615 United States10/21/2015 01:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 68336986 United States10/21/2015 01:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | time will heal all . what ever you do, dont try to make it work again. it's an illusion of what you had, but the same problem of boredom and problems will eventually rise up to the point that you might become obsessive over it and end up hurting eachother. best to leave it alone and have some time to your self. go out with the buds, meet new people. Bar hop and drink, to have fun but not to forget. know that you're an individual and not a part of of that relation ship any more. most of all , Love your self. time is irrelevant , do your thing, enjoy life, and eventually you will meet some one that will start a new chapter in your life. The feeling and emotions will be new but familiar. don't look for it but just let it happen. This break up was a learning experience for you, for the better and take it as a lesson. |
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| powerofsoul User ID: 35474060 Canada10/21/2015 01:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to turn this into a big thing or anything on hating females. She dumped me because the honey moon phase ended and she doesn't feel the same way anymore. The relationship was one sided with me doing all the work and sacrifice and she said it wasn't fair or right. She wasn't willing to put work in at her end to try to fix it so here I am. I feel like dirt, just confused and hurt and tired. Just want someone to talk to I guess. Why throw away a good relationship so easily, at least she did this instead of cheating or screwing me over but it's still floors me that people just do stuff like this. Any advice? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 All physical objects / persons / places / & things... are merely temporarily on loan to us... from the universe itself! ~ The universe can recall items at any moment! ~ The law of impermanence! Pure Blessings My Brother! The universe has decided!... That you are ready for new and greater adventures! Ahoy! Captain!   Last Edited by powerofsoul on 10/21/2015 01:27 AM |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70608107 United States10/21/2015 01:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I guess I really cared about her. Sucks big time not to get that back, and in a way i think she does, but just cares more about herself and what she wants then me. I have my heart in different places it does suck but every once in a while I can go back and listen to a song that she showed me.. And even though she was a bitch.. I still like that song. |
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| Nefarious Libertine User ID: 70554218 United States10/21/2015 01:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to turn this into a big thing or anything on hating females. She dumped me because the honey moon phase ended and she doesn't feel the same way anymore. The relationship was one sided with me doing all the work and sacrifice and she said it wasn't fair or right. She wasn't willing to put work in at her end to try to fix it so here I am. I feel like dirt, just confused and hurt and tired. Just want someone to talk to I guess. Why throw away a good relationship so easily, at least she did this instead of cheating or screwing me over but it's still floors me that people just do stuff like this. Any advice? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 My grandfather used to tell me. Women are like having a dog, if it runs away and leaves, don't let the sun go down before you get a new one and you'll be just fine. We do not learn from history because our studies are brief and prejudiced. In a surprising manner, 250 years emerges as the average length of national greatness. This average has not varied for 3,000years. The stages of the rise and fall of great nations seem to be: The Age of Pioneers , The Age of Conquests ,The Age of Commerce ,The Age of Affluence ,The Age of Intellect ,The Age of Decadence. Decadence is marked by: Defensiveness, Pessimism, Materialism,Frivolity An influx of foreigners The Welfare State A weakening of religion. Decadence is due to: Too long a period of wealth and power, Selfishness Love of money ,The loss of a sense of duty. The life histories of great states are amazingly similar, and are due to internal factors. Their falls are diverse, because they are largely the result of external causes. - Sir John Glubb The Fate of Empires We are at the end of the Age of Decadence heading into COLLAPSE |
| Jknoph User ID: 60609440 United States10/21/2015 01:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I guess I really cared about her. Sucks big time not to get that back, and in a way i think she does, but just cares more about herself and what she wants then me. How old are both of you? Move along...take a little break, build your confidence and go get another one. Happens all the time. Depending on circumstances she may come to regret leaving you or not. Who cares, just move on. It isn't worth dwelling on. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69451844 United States10/21/2015 01:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69451844 United States10/21/2015 01:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I guess I really cared about her. Sucks big time not to get that back, and in a way i think she does, but just cares more about herself and what she wants then me. How old are both of you? Move along...take a little break, build your confidence and go get another one. Happens all the time. Depending on circumstances she may come to regret leaving you or not. Who cares, just move on. It isn't worth dwelling on. I'm 27, I know it isn't the end of the world or my life, but it would be nice to find someone who wants to stick around. I've had the tumultuous early 20s relationships and learned my lessons about love and what makes relationships work, but it's easier to cut and run these days and this mentality is everywhere. It's kind of depressing that people can't find a happy relationship anymore. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3050899 United States10/21/2015 01:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | youve been lied to. that sucks. but thats the thing to realize. you only thought it was a good relationship bc she led you to think that it was. people will never stop dissapointing so just find something you enjoy and do it. you will overcome these feelings that this scalawag has foisted upon you. even donald trump has to cut a bitch loose sometimes. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69016623 United States10/21/2015 01:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thank you for the advice and support everyone. It's really helping me, thank you so much, this means more to me then you can know. It's good to know you're not alone. I can't believe stuff like this has happened to so many people on here. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 I'm going through the exact same thing, it SUCKS!!!!!!!!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 44579694 United States10/21/2015 01:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 68655146 Canada10/21/2015 01:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I guess I really cared about her. Sucks big time not to get that back, and in a way i think she does, but just cares more about herself and what she wants then me. How old are both of you? Move along...take a little break, build your confidence and go get another one. Happens all the time. Depending on circumstances she may come to regret leaving you or not. Who cares, just move on. It isn't worth dwelling on. I'm 27, I know it isn't the end of the world or my life, but it would be nice to find someone who wants to stick around. I've had the tumultuous early 20s relationships and learned my lessons about love and what makes relationships work, but it's easier to cut and run these days and this mentality is everywhere. It's kind of depressing that people can't find a happy relationship anymore. People never could. Nothing has changed. They got married at 19, hated each other by 25 but stayed together because of the social stigma of divorce. Mom drank herself to sleep every night, dad banged his secretary. There is a spectrum to that, rather than one single hard and fast situation, but that's more or less the way it works most of the time. Only the rare couple ever manage to hold a good relationship together for a long time. Anybody who has done it, will tell you it takes lots of hard work and is not easy. You have to find a hard worker that does not give up easily, one that you can live with, one you like, it's a tall order, but just keep looking. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69451844 United States10/21/2015 01:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thank you for the advice and support everyone. It's really helping me, thank you so much, this means more to me then you can know. It's good to know you're not alone. I can't believe stuff like this has happened to so many people on here. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69451844 I'm going through the exact same thing, it SUCKS!!!!!!!!! Yeah this is pretty painful. I don't understand it really, loyalty and commitment are a huge part of who I am. When I get into a relationship I make that perfectly clear up front but I've yet to find a girl that values those things apparently. |
