Do PORN addicts EVER change????????????? This is for the Christians only please!! | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 69024664 United States 12/31/2015 12:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi, so I have this boyfriend for almost 4 years which I adore! However, one HUGE problem, he is addicted to pornography! We are in our early 40's .I have caught some VERY sick and disturbing stuff! He says he wants to change, and I haven't found anything else on his phone, not to say he isn't deleting it, which he did before! But, I find these videos that are sexual (nude Indian women, YOUNG…YOUNG), which is the style I found before but full on PORN on recommendations on YouTube that we share! He says he hasn't looked at anything that would cause Youtube to send recommendations! I know I haven't! I am about to just walk away, because I just can't live like this anymore , the trust he broke, I tried many many times! Quoting: Over it!!!! 70298357 He is a good man, but the disturbing porn is an issue which I am having a tough time with, I LOVE him but the lies and the porn have almost destroyed us! I need some advice, from people who have either struggled with getting this evil stuff out of your life!! Does this ever go away, if you truly want it to, or do people really need help from therapists and perhaps leaders of the church?? I just can't go on and wonder if I am holding on to something that will never be!! Sad! Just my 2 cents, hopefully this will help. If you never admit to being an addict, then you don't have to feel bad or change. But the minute you call yourself an addict, then the common sense person will hopefully try to change-those who don't at least try are lost causes... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69024664 United States 12/31/2015 12:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi, so I have this boyfriend for almost 4 years which I adore! However, one HUGE problem, he is addicted to pornography! We are in our early 40's .I have caught some VERY sick and disturbing stuff! He says he wants to change, and I haven't found anything else on his phone, not to say he isn't deleting it, which he did before! But, I find these videos that are sexual (nude Indian women, YOUNG…YOUNG), which is the style I found before but full on PORN on recommendations on YouTube that we share! He says he hasn't looked at anything that would cause Youtube to send recommendations! I know I haven't! I am about to just walk away, because I just can't live like this anymore , the trust he broke, I tried many many times! Quoting: Over it!!!! 70298357 He is a good man, but the disturbing porn is an issue which I am having a tough time with, I LOVE him but the lies and the porn have almost destroyed us! I need some advice, from people who have either struggled with getting this evil stuff out of your life!! Does this ever go away, if you truly want it to, or do people really need help from therapists and perhaps leaders of the church?? I just can't go on and wonder if I am holding on to something that will never be!! Sad! Just my 2 cents, hopefully this will help. If you never admit to being an addict, then you don't have to feel bad or change. But the minute you call yourself an addict, then the common sense person will hopefully try to change-those who don't at least try are lost causes... This applies to almost any addiction, this is why most addicts HATE being told they are an addict! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 61554356 United Kingdom 12/31/2015 12:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi, so I have this boyfriend for almost 4 years which I adore! However, one HUGE problem, he is addicted to pornography! We are in our early 40's .I have caught some VERY sick and disturbing stuff! He says he wants to change, and I haven't found anything else on his phone, not to say he isn't deleting it, which he did before! But, I find these videos that are sexual (nude Indian women, YOUNG…YOUNG), which is the style I found before but full on PORN on recommendations on YouTube that we share! He says he hasn't looked at anything that would cause Youtube to send recommendations! I know I haven't! I am about to just walk away, because I just can't live like this anymore , the trust he broke, I tried many many times! Quoting: Over it!!!! 70298357 He is a good man, but the disturbing porn is an issue which I am having a tough time with, I LOVE him but the lies and the porn have almost destroyed us! I need some advice, from people who have either struggled with getting this evil stuff out of your life!! Does this ever go away, if you truly want it to, or do people really need help from therapists and perhaps leaders of the church?? I just can't go on and wonder if I am holding on to something that will never be!! Sad! Oh mellow out. Every man watches porn, you are just too naive to the real world to know it. So what if he has a thing for Indian porn? He has every right to watch what he wants as long as it is legal. I mean, what harm is it doing to you? Do you just want to control how your boyfriend thinks? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71125725 United States 12/31/2015 12:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi, so I have this boyfriend for almost 4 years which I adore! However, one HUGE problem, he is addicted to pornography! We are in our early 40's .I have caught some VERY sick and disturbing stuff! He says he wants to change, and I haven't found anything else on his phone, not to say he isn't deleting it, which he did before! But, I find these videos that are sexual (nude Indian women, YOUNG…YOUNG), which is the style I found before but full on PORN on recommendations on YouTube that we share! He says he hasn't looked at anything that would cause Youtube to send recommendations! I know I haven't! I am about to just walk away, because I just can't live like this anymore , the trust he broke, I tried many many times! Quoting: Over it!!!! 70298357 He is a good man, but the disturbing porn is an issue which I am having a tough time with, I LOVE him but the lies and the porn have almost destroyed us! I need some advice, from people who have either struggled with getting this evil stuff out of your life!! Does this ever go away, if you truly want it to, or do people really need help from therapists and perhaps leaders of the church?? I just can't go on and wonder if I am holding on to something that will never be!! Sad! You have to fight fire with fire. You must start watching lots of porn around him and make sure he thinks that you are enjoying it. Things will change, you will see. |
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FOY User ID: 62941703 United States 12/31/2015 12:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 4 years together? I hope you didn't have sex! as a Christian, God will send you to hell for having sex without being married! You are in your 40's? Does that mean you have divorced before?? God will send you to hell! So why do you just want Christians to respond? You think you are some wonderful, God loving Christian? Quoting: djfxw NOT! Kisses |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1038231 United States 12/31/2015 12:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi, so I have this boyfriend for almost 4 years which I adore! However, one HUGE problem, he is addicted to pornography! We are in our early 40's .I have caught some VERY sick and disturbing stuff! He says he wants to change, and I haven't found anything else on his phone, not to say he isn't deleting it, which he did before! But, I find these videos that are sexual (nude Indian women, YOUNG…YOUNG), which is the style I found before but full on PORN on recommendations on YouTube that we share! He says he hasn't looked at anything that would cause Youtube to send recommendations! I know I haven't! I am about to just walk away, because I just can't live like this anymore , the trust he broke, I tried many many times! Quoting: Over it!!!! 70298357 He is a good man, but the disturbing porn is an issue which I am having a tough time with, I LOVE him but the lies and the porn have almost destroyed us! I need some advice, from people who have either struggled with getting this evil stuff out of your life!! Does this ever go away, if you truly want it to, or do people really need help from therapists and perhaps leaders of the church?? I just can't go on and wonder if I am holding on to something that will never be!! Sad! You're not compatible. He's more adventurous sexually than you are. Trying to pretend you have the same sexual interests is making you both unhappy and him a liar. For the well being of both of you, both of you should acknowledge this and move on. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7008181 United States 12/31/2015 12:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband of 17 years was the same way. We were still dating at the time, but this stuff was everywhere. I finally couldn't take any more and told him it made me feel belittled and degraded as a woman. This behavior was a deal breaker for me. I never saw it again. He may sneak around to do it, but he keeps it well hidden lol |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 54167854 United States 12/31/2015 12:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | yes he can. but ONLY if he wants to. he has to see for himself and understand that he has a problem, only then can he change. and it will be very hard but with prayer and a true desire to change it definitely can be done. pray for God to strengthen your relationship and to speak to his heart about the porn problem. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1038231 United States 12/31/2015 12:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi, so I have this boyfriend for almost 4 years which I adore! However, one HUGE problem, he is addicted to pornography! We are in our early 40's .I have caught some VERY sick and disturbing stuff! He says he wants to change, and I haven't found anything else on his phone, not to say he isn't deleting it, which he did before! But, I find these videos that are sexual (nude Indian women, YOUNG…YOUNG), which is the style I found before but full on PORN on recommendations on YouTube that we share! He says he hasn't looked at anything that would cause Youtube to send recommendations! I know I haven't! I am about to just walk away, because I just can't live like this anymore , the trust he broke, I tried many many times! Quoting: Over it!!!! 70298357 He is a good man, but the disturbing porn is an issue which I am having a tough time with, I LOVE him but the lies and the porn have almost destroyed us! I need some advice, from people who have either struggled with getting this evil stuff out of your life!! Does this ever go away, if you truly want it to, or do people really need help from therapists and perhaps leaders of the church?? I just can't go on and wonder if I am holding on to something that will never be!! Sad! Oh mellow out. Every man watches porn, you are just too naive to the real world to know it. So what if he has a thing for Indian porn? He has every right to watch what he wants as long as it is legal. I mean, what harm is it doing to you? Do you just want to control how your boyfriend thinks? She's insecure and demands he only dream of her. She's irrational and naive. How can a 40-something woman not know that man fantasize and want to fuck more than one woman all throughout their life? This is the ruse of Christianity and it sabotages marriages by prohibiting that which is totally normal and natural. |
bwj2012 User ID: 19099976 United States 12/31/2015 12:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I dont consider myself a christian, but definitely have had my own issues with porn. If they want to stop looking at porn they have to only use internet in public. If they have it at home they will look at it almost every chance they get. I havent looked at porn for approx 3-4 months. Also, you dont start out that way. Its a gradual process, first it is just swimsuits and underwear. Then its nude pics, then soft porn, then hard porn. It gets harder and harder to get off by stuff you seen 100 times. Eventually you will enjoy watching fetish stuff like rape. You wont even want to have a partner, you just want to pleasure yourself through sick fantasies. I dont look at it and I have never raped anyone and dont want to, but if i fantasize in my mind thats what i think about is rape porn that i have seen. I try not to. Luckily Im easily intimidated by women. If I would even attempt to do anything, if they started to resist or cry I would say sorry and not do it and say please dont tell lol. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 61634192 United States 12/31/2015 01:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why would you even stay with such a person? Gross. You know what you are getting. If that's what you want to deal with then it's your choice staying with him and you should not complain. You are willingly accepting that behavior as okay with full knowledge. Why would you think so little of yourself? I would never stay with somebody like that. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 61554356 United Kingdom 12/31/2015 01:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Have you ever thought of this? Google and the cell providers att&t and verision provide porn to kids. They do not offer a way to block it to phones from porn. The service should be offered by them. Get your churches to get involve. Quoting: Air daddy56 70388953 He's a grown ass man. How incredibly insulting to suggest that OP sets up parental control filters to stop her boyfriend looking at porn. |
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Sumtingwonger User ID: 70902585 United States 12/31/2015 01:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So you're a 40ish christian lady who's got a boyfriend who watches porn and you just so happen to be on GLP. OK Snowflake.... 1. YouTube doesn't have "porn", so you're not getting porn recommendations. At worst, you're getting recommendations to some type of soft core videos. Try and control yourself. 2 They are "YOUNG". Of course they are young, as most men are biologically driven to have sex with young women. This is normal human behaviour, in spite of your re-education by the system. Men want to have sex with young women. This is completely normal. 3. Masturbation is not explicitly a sin. It's not in the ten commandments and Jesus said nothing against it. Just because Paul was some kind of sexual purist doesn't mean christianity should be. So, you're a 40 year old woman who has somehow convinced herself that there is porn on YouTube, that men should not want to have sex with younger women and that your religion prohibits masturbation because one person, who never met Jesus, says so. You are the one with the problem. |
In Yer Neck User ID: 66903261 United States 12/31/2015 01:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's been swell, but the swellings gone down.- Tank girl "To hell with them fella's. Buzzards gotta eat, same as the worms." - Josey Wales. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 53551630 United States 12/31/2015 01:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Porn has a hold of him and nothing,not even you will make him change,is not up to him,is up to you to change and understand,I'm not trolling here but you should start watching some porn together because you are Not going to find another men that don't like porn,not in this age of Internet free porn,we used to pay for porn,now is free are you kidding? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 68164348 France 12/31/2015 01:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | marriage and still watch porn ? it means your husband is wrong choosing you as his lifelong partner, you are not able to fulfill his desire cause youre not attractive anymore , you become fat , melt and unattractive , so who should be blame ? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 68872533 United States 12/31/2015 01:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why would you even stay with such a person? Gross. You know what you are getting. If that's what you want to deal with then it's your choice staying with him and you should not complain. You are willingly accepting that behavior as okay with full knowledge. Why would you think so little of yourself? I would never stay with somebody like that. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 61634192 You must not get any eh |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 53551630 United States 12/31/2015 01:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Porn has a hold of him and nothing,not even you will make him change,is not up to him,is up to you to change and understand,I'm not trolling here but you should start watching some porn together because you are Not going to find another men that don't like porn,not in this age of Internet free porn,we used to pay for porn,now is free are you kidding? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 53551630 Before I married I was very clear with her,I told her I love porn and I'm not changing and she accepted and now and then we watch it while having one of the best sex ever |