im in love with my pscho abusive ex, what do i do

Ask yourself: Were you ever emotionally or sexually abused by a woman as a child?

Sounds like me at 21 with my college boyfriend...Im 32 now. I would hit him over stupid shit, i didnt realize then. I had mad issues steaming from childhood. Eventually I made changes,

Best thing your doing is talking about it and airing out the situation. It'll help you figure it out so you can stop dwelling on whatever your dwelling on.

You 'Know' shes bad news and broken.. You probably deep down want to rationalize and 'fix' her. Maybe because you see a glimpse of hope in there and want to repair whatever is damaged.

Youre a 'fixer'. Im in the same situation. Girl I've been with off and on. I know shes damaged goods and not my ideal mate, still think about her lots unintentionally. Matter of fact dream about her quite often.

Fact is, they're not a vintage car or boat or whatever. Its fine to see potential in something, but is it worth pouring your finances, time and sanity into in 'Hopes' that you'll end up with that perfect whatever when its all said and done? Sure, if its a 'thing', but people are far more intricate than just replacing OEM parts.

You cant tighten every loose screw, and soon enough, when you bring er' up to 160, the wheels will fall off.


The new girl is probably as close to perfect as you can ever get.. Your brain is just a little muddied up as to what reality should be. People are with crazy for a reason, because its a challenge, its some sick sense of perverted excitement.. Certainly never a dull moment...

Good luck.

You can't use someone to try and get over someone else. Sounds like you need to be alone for awhile. It doesn't matter how perfect someone else is, you have to be over the ex first.

If you were your daughter instead of you, I think yu would do whatever it takes to protect the daughter. Why? Because a mother loves her daughter.
My point is YOU need to love yourself enough to protect yourself. Good luck.

It is called the "Stockholm Syndrome".



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Let me tell you, 18 years later, several sons and so much learned I would still choose that psycho bitch (my wife) again. And btw: you learn to handle her with time, you just need to stay away from her buttons.

Sounds a bit like Stockholm Syndrome.

You don't leave because she gives you the same feelings you got from your childhood. And we are all in one way shape or form always trying to re-create our childhoods in our adulthoods. In other words, she appeals to your sense of "normal" and makes you feel at home. Think about it....

and us old timers see the same themed threads popping up over the years.
not like they're data gathering or anything lol

THIS!

Been in the exact same situation, dont waste your time, energy & sanity.

A person is the "one" .. what a crock of shit.

Man, I just went through it, you're lucky she didn't put you in jail. That's all she really wants to do. You're just attached to the 'idea' that she feels the same way you do. But she doesn't. She wants to ruin you. Run and never look back. And don't trust any women. She probably already has a new man or is quickly looking for one to make you even more mad. Don't even give her a thought. My advice.

Master Handler, congratulations!

Let me guess, Brazilian or latino chick?

This resonates with me as truth