My kid is constantly bullied

U did good taking him away from all the bullying. At a younger age (speaking as a 21 year old infantry officer in the canadian forces, who was bullied a fck ton in high school, and elementsry school due toa stuttering impediment), its important to develop your kids sense of self esteem. Ppl who bring him down shouldnt be around him, but u cant teach him to run awsy from his problems.

For me, eventually, after a good long while, i stopped giving a fck. I stopped stuttering at 10, but all the bullying crushed my self esteem for the next few years, and it showed. As a parent, u can only rly just let your kid knoe that he/she fcking rocks. Everybody does. Through bullying, i learned a lot. I learned how to cope with ppl telling me i couldnt do shit, and at 19 through 21 i did my BMQ, first officer course, then the infantry officer course. Phase 3 (infantry platoon leader, so thats 40-50 soldiers under my command) has a washout rate of 85%. We started with 88 peps, 7 graduated. Ive been dragged through the dirt before and it gave me the strength to be better than all the fckers that gave me a hard time before.

Honestly, if i hadnt been broken before, i would never have had the will and determination to keep going.

Its super late for me and im tired, but im writing this to a stranger because i understand your kid. It sucks to watch from the outside and feel powerless to protect your loved one.

Keep bringing your kid to environnements where he/she excels at. It may not be sports (i did judo for the past 9years), but anything that your kid likes and is good at, no matter what.

Teach him/her about honor snd integrity, as a parent should, and as your kid grows older he will know in his heart that he/she is a good person, and other ppl are wrong.

Dont overprotect, but make sure that your kid knows hes a good person, and the rest will be taken care of.

Sincerely wishing u and yours the very best. No one deserves to be bullied, but for me, hardcore bullying turned me into one tough motherfcker compared to who i was before, and im always pushing myself for more.

Keep your kid focused on what he/she is good at. Your kid needs to know that he/she is the fcking best person on earth in his parents eyes. Self esteem is the best gift u can give.

Best of luck friend.

Old high school bully tried that again last time he saw me (to be fair i did graduate as lieutenant a few days prior, so i was still fcking pumped) and i let him know what was up. Bullies target weaker ppl cause it makes them feel powerfull, but that wasnt me anymore. Im not trained to kill; im trained to lead a group of soldiers into a warzone and get them out. If i rly rly want to do something, someones going to have to break/kill me, and i dont break easy. Not anymore.
LM

My advice,

Home Schooling your child will only make it more difficult for him to cope within society when you pass away (forgive the bluntness, I mean no harm by typing it). Your home schooling will present an improper view of 'safety' in the sense he will not be able to understand or defend against rudeness or disrespect.

If I were you, I'd sit your son down and explain to him that in this society we judge on superficial things too much. and that others may continue to judge him as they have done in the past but that ultimately he should focus on his own dreams and ambitions.

You being his parent, I can understand the hopelessness and frustration you may face. but please realize that sheltering him will not be beneficial either. you must walk this path of finding who he is with him. encourage him to be and do great things and no one's words will ever stop him.

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I totally agree. However, the teachers were in on the bullying as well.

How do you know all of that? I wish (carefully) that I may find an Oracle like you.

Scanned through the first page and caught that the parents in the antagonistic group are swingers.

Their comfort zone is larger than yours is, but they are likely less future-oriented and less intelligent as a result of that mindset.

Wit, guile, and patience will win. Dig up dirt if you can. It sounds like you already have. Hearsay works if you can verify.

If you have frequent mutual contacts you can feed them information through people they know.

When you have enough ammunition, pick a point of conflict and run with it. Even if you don't get what you want, you will have caused them so much grief they won't mess with you again.

Scanned through the first page and caught that the parents in the antagonistic group are swingers.

Their comfort zone is larger than yours is, but they are likely less future-oriented and less intelligent as a result of that mindset.

Wit, guile, and patience will win. Dig up dirt if you can. It sounds like you already have. Hearsay works if you can verify.

If you have frequent mutual contacts you can feed them information through people they know.

When you have enough ammunition, pick a point of conflict and run with it. Even if you don't get what you want, you will have caused them so much grief they won't mess with you again.

...in our community. He's very masculine, but because he doesn't play sport (not athletically coordinated), he's constantly ridiculed by kids....but especially by parents. I had to jerk him out of public sxhool to home school him. Honestly, I'm sick of this community. Even at churxh. The teaxhers were just as bad.

My heart breaks for him as he wants to keep in touch with the assholes who constantly bring him down.

We did MA. Unfortunately, he hated it as he's not athletically coordinated. And I am a red belt in Taekwondo.

...in our community. He's very masculine, but because he doesn't play sport (not athletically coordinated), he's constantly ridiculed by kids....but especially by parents. I had to jerk him out of public sxhool to home school him. Honestly, I'm sick of this community. Even at churxh. The teaxhers were just as bad.

My heart breaks for him as he wants to keep in touch with the assholes who constantly bring him down.

I totally agree. However, the teachers were in on the bullying as well.

Almost 14.

You mean Xhad.

Oh btw I was one of those kids raised by a over protective mother without a father to be seen. I never learned how to be a man or how the pecking order works. I was at the low end of the totem pole for years and I let everyone walk all over Me. I didn't catch on to how thing work until I hit 30. Now I don't care I'll call a jerk out and I tell people what I think even if it pisses them the hell off. I might be blunt but I'm respected by My peers because they never have to wonder where I stand on issues.

...in our community. He's very masculine, but because he doesn't play sport (not athletically coordinated), he's constantly ridiculed by kids....but especially by parents. I had to jerk him out of public sxhool to home school him. Honestly, I'm sick of this community. Even at churxh. The teaxhers were just as bad.

My heart breaks for him as he wants to keep in touch with the assholes who constantly bring him down.

... I had to jerk him