Well then, just received a message from a half-sister I didn't know I had.

Your father has a message for you.. "Oops"

she ask for money yet?

Let's see. I believe she was asking for photos.

My dad died in '98. Thank God my mom's not here. She passed last year and my brother has passed as well.

Ahhhhh.

I did respond, but I wish I had waited a bit. Heh. I wasn't rude, just told her I wasn't surprised, nor upset, and that there probably are others 'out there'. Was that wrong? lol

So excited. I have my very own little soap opera now. Not.

Well, it's not her fault, I reckon. She said she was hesitant to write to me as she didn't want to upset me. Ah naw, upset was when I was growing up and the entire household as in continual arguments about that crap, and no one could be a kid.

Not happy that she wrote to me, WITH a copy of a birth certificate. Damn!

Last Edited by Ms. Superduper on 06/14/2016 12:20 AM

I always wanted to know my father's family but I never made contact because I expected a negative response. There's always an emptiness, unresolved questions.

I know how that must feel. My oldest sister turned out to be my half sister. Apparently my mom was married to some douche that beat her. Sister was from that marriage. My Mom took this secret to her grave in 06. I was 50 when I found out. In my case, it was let out when it couldn't possibly change anyones feelings.

I am now 45 years old and all I want is authentic truth.

Reality can suck but lately I would rather have the full force of reality and walk in the truth.

Now having said that, I have never been in your shoes although I do have a half-sister who pretty much HATES me, the younger sister.

Thanks sweetie for your comment.

I'm sure I'll probably end up complying with the request. I have been blessed with the Godly ability and compassion to try and understand others and what they are feeling or going through. It's just a whammie, and at night, too.

Oh, and it was fakebook through which I was contacted. I kept my maiden name as a middle name sometimes, so people WOULD be able to find me.

I don't have any living direct family members, but now I do. lol.

So sorry about that.

I certainly don't hate anyone. She's just a product of my dad's 'stuff', and since I don't want to speak of the dead, I will stop there. She wants to know about 'dad'. Heh. I'll think of something. lol.

I should have clarified I was raised with my half sister. So never any surprises that she came from a different Dad...

I am sure you will be amazing. IMO be truthful she already knows things are not the white picket fence deal that we all want.

I think it's fabulous. I hope you can get to know her.

Wow!!!

Yeah. Yeah. One gets to the point, doesn't one, when 'ya just say 'Okay. What's next?" cause God is my strength in everything. This is mild compared to some experiences, and I'm sure I'm not alone with that statement.

It's been so long, and I'm over my childhood really. I forgave but I did not forget about how my household was always in an uproar over someone else's stuff.

So where does the bastard live?

I responded to her message and she wrote back.

It's okay. I have that trusted bleeding heart. It's not her fault, or mine. Stuff happens.

Isn't adultery wonderful? Keeps on hurting others, but I am determined that this will turn out for good.

Last Edited by Ms. Superduper on 06/15/2016 11:37 AM

Just make sure she doesn't live in Nigeria.

Great attitude after such a dreadful shock and surprise! Glad you are not blaming her for someone else's actions. Hope things work out for the best for everyone involved!

Mama's baby
daddy's maybe.

I don't care for my family and sure as heck don't want to find more. This and more reasons is why I don't Facebook.

You never know who will crawl out of the woodwork.

Well that's good for you I guess, but do you have any friends in real life? I hope so.

Yes and they all Facebook. They've given up on me joining in. I do have a phone and email so they can get in touch and send just as many pics as they want. I just personally, want no part of it.

man thats rough. Thankfully you understand it isnt her fault.

adultery isnt wonderful, wonder if his lifetime of silence was worth the night of pleasure. no offense to your dad but it sounds like he had weaknesses or lack of control. Too bad that stuff affects more than two people.

Last Edited by Cptn Hindsight on 06/15/2016 12:16 PM

I think it's a little unhealthy for you to think this.

I was there for all of those years, so I'm certainly more qualified to know all about it, and you are not. I'm not going into it any more here, because I really, really don't like to speak of the dead, esp. a parent. Trust me, I am very familiar with 'the stuff' of which I speak. And I have, BTW, no unforgiveness in my heart. Selah.

Perhaps it might be a good idea to 'inventory' your own life on 'stuff'. Ya think.

You know, we all have our cross to bear. I have a reason to make a choice on occasion due to no fault of my own. And that choice usually involves my letting a certain word pass by. But once in awhile the word,"Bastard" will make me really mad. You, sir/madam/bot have managed to catch me in a mood. If you had made that statement in my presence, I would have by now made you apologize to me in no uncertain terms and if you persisted and resisted I might have tried to assault and kick your ass. There are more and more of us out here, so you better think a few times before saying such in public. You never know who you are offending, we're invisible. We have learned to let it slide, ya have to in this day and age when,"bastard" is the go-to term, thousands of times ignored between being upset about it. It would be like a black if the term that we can't say here were just bandied about like in Mark Twain's day. One day, snap.

Back on topic, OP, you are now having the opportunity to gaze into eyes of someone you share blood with. This is a precious thing and will leave you unnerved. This is why you are approaching the topic here with such an attitude. It's a defense mechanism. There are people who yearn for sutardshing. Show some gratitude.

Last Edited by DEPLORABLE Trueforger on 06/15/2016 12:48 PM

Tell her you, "Have enough relatives already, dont need anymore!"



seriously.



and be careful, seems like it could a TRAP!



If she lives in Maui, you may want to rethink this strategy tehehe

Go back and read my posts. You did not finish before jumping on the bash wagon. I am handling it better than you or most people. Furthermore, I don't really care what you think.

Think positive. Could end up with a new best friend.