Who's had to watch their dream/hope slip away due to family, girlfriend, marriage?

no way statistically you'll live to 90

yeah, you COULD make it that long, but in reality, nah. especially if you're a fella!

Lol, its my house, well, my rental. She's too mentally ill to hold down a job, hell, even a conversation :/ Have to make sure she doesn't burn down the house or stab up my dad.

Hell, yes! 45...poof!

Train's left the station the only thing that may give us hope is to hop on board the Trump Train.

I can relate.

My Girl turned nasty, fucked up our taxes, stopped working.

Men matter too!

I wen't from one serious blond (literally the love of my life) to two lovely brunettes and whatever comes my way.

Happier but still in trouble.

Best bet for guys, never get married or move in together. We enter it thinking it's a great PARTNERSHIP, full of love but it ends up being a dependency.

Many women feel they should own all your hard earned money just because you were sleeping with them?

Seriously Ladies, some of you must have a brain and see how wrong that is. MY GF made more than me before She changed.

Womens lib, fair and equal? I guess that's one way.

Not fair.

Last Edited by Frater Deplorable on 07/29/2016 01:06 PM

So much truth in this post. And yes, OP, I can relate, because I am you - only a female and I am so glad you made this thread because it has opened my eyes up to how incredibly selfish and self serving I have been recently. My dream was always to move out of the current state I am in (been here for 30 years) and finally get up to the pacific northwest. Had 3 really good opportunities, but since I am not the breadwinner, ultimately it was my husband's decision. All of my dreams have taken the back seat to husband's desires and his number one love - his career. But you know what, like the above poster said, life isn't like the movies tell us. It's not about you and your dreams. It's about serving others aka love.
You are also following for the hellywood lie of a soulmate. There is no such thing. The woman you saw was nothing more than wanting your neighbor's wife - aka lust and adultery. If you had her, 10-20 years down the road you would be wondering if you had made a mistake leaving your wife and kids and if your wife was truly the one.
Bottom line, and I say this to myself as much as to you, quit focusing on yourself and feeling sorry for yourself. Look at the gifts you have been given, consider yourself blessed and give thanks. Love your wife like none other, love your kids and QUIT WHINING!!! You are setting yourself up for an affair, and the path of the adulteress leads to death. Not worth it.

If you do this, you may leave him childless/grandchildless forever. Now, he has your children and grandchildren to love. Please consider that before ending a happy relationship for "his own good".

I gave up my music career for marriage...i regret the decision and keep thinking...what if?

totaly iv been stuck for the last 15 years taking care of my famiy because if i wasnt here they would fall apart at the seems,,,its all work for no reward at all,,,they just take everything i do for granted,,,,,every day i have to put up with my twat stepdad using me as a weapon against my brother or mother and whats worse is it is easyer for them to give into his bullshit then stick up for me against him so they all take the easy route and just ignore me its total bullshit

If you watch something slip away you probably weren't passionate about what you wanted to achieve anyway.

Not everything is for everyone, so more than likely your hopes and dreams weren't for you, since it's so easily for them to "Slip Away".

Discipline and Persistence are the keys. Dont get locked out.

BTW I currently am in a house upstairs in my room, downstairs is my dreamgirl, and her son from her boyfriend whom she left me for. I actually rent a room from her parents (im trusted family) and she hasn't stopped over here since Easter to my knowledge.

She is still pretty as ever, but I don't feel what I used to feel in her presence, that dream exists no more. So not only do I get to see it slip, I get to have a reminder...but an understanding as well:

She is an amazing mom, with a great kid. She seems genuinely happy.

Send her to the Democrat convention, she sounds like top-shelf delegate material.

O.K. Cue violins!
The number one addiction of modern society is Drama. Simplify your life, throw out the stuff you don't need, get more rest, find peace. Stop the drinking and smoking and stuffing your face. You can't think with all the noise you create. God is patient. JMHO.

I always say that life is full of surprises, and you have to be flexible because you never know what might happen. The negatives that occur just make you stronger. I didn't realize that until I was older.

Born ugly? I always think of what I read many years ago about Barbra Streisand. She said she was born ugly. Her father even called her ugly, and it hurt her so badly. She decided that she wasn't going to get anywhere on her looks, so she developed her talents.

Last Edited by nutmeg on 07/29/2016 01:28 PM

AWESOME! I agree.

Thanks for sharing that

nothing to worry about.

A blade of grass in your hands, the sound of the breeze. These are the things you will miss most when you are dead.

If you are lucky, you have 35-40 years left. Enjoy the little things.

Dreams come and go and are fluid. Like water in the palm. As easy to achieve as it is to loose. Go have some. But remember.......

Life will take you on a journey whether you think you are in full control or not. All experience enriches us.

"LIfe moves pretty fast..... If you don't stop and look around once and awhile....you might miss it." - ferris Buller

Yes, yes! Thumbs up on this too

It's due to worldwide Illuminati New World Order control but sure

I had a dream about going to art school but fell in line with my dads opinion that I had to go science. Though later on I dropped out of school, experimented with drugs and became schizo. After dropping out of school I was into yoga and had a dream of going to India but never went because my sister did not want me to go. These days I don't have any dreams or hopes anymore.

No.

I chose not to marry. Have two kids and a nice home. In about 6 years, kids will graduate with honors and I will go where ever I want.

I used to want to visit Italy, not anymore.

Maybe Britain.

I hear ya OP.

I always thought when you get into your 40's, that I'd be on cruise control a bit. Maybe things wouldn't be as exciting, which they aren't, but I'd just kind of not have to worry as much about job, family, bills.

Fuck, was I wrong! Every year the pressure seems to mount. And then yeah, the part about not getting to do what you want comes into play too. Not even getting to do the little things you used to do in your 20's and 30's.

Last Edited by Halcyon Daze on 07/29/2016 01:58 PM

This is true. When I was in my early 20s, I wanted to be a big name designer in New York. As I aged and turned 40, I realized that I didn't know it all and I really wanted to be a small dressmaker/tailor/designer with one offs on a small scale.

I still do a collection, but it's for me and I don't have to make it marketable. And I took the time to go to college for it. My age has also helped me get internships I would not have had and the chance to do some work with tailors that have never taken apprentices, so in some ways my age has helped. I also don't have to travel the artistic idiot route like many of the 20 year olds do, I can dress normally and very well and get away with it.

I can sit back and enjoy what I do without the cut throat of the industry. At 41, I am building my business the way I want to, with clients and jobs I want to do. I'll never be famously known and I've found the change was better for me.

So it's not the dream I once had, but it's the one I really wanted in the end.

You are missing what you had when you were younger, but what young people have is just a fantasy. I have all these possibilities, young people say, I might be rich, I might be famous, I might have a hot wife, life will be easy someday, things will be so much fun. But all of that is just a fantasy. Though you think you had all those options in reality most have very little control over their lives. For everyone who strikes it rich in Hollywood or the music biz there are thousands of failures. Chances are if you tried to do something like move overseas or live on a yacht or whatnot circumstances would have forced you back to where you are now. That's where the universe wants you anyway. Learn to accept reality and appreciate that you have it better than 99% of all humans in history.

Wow, I feel better after reading this post, I raised 5 kids they're all grown up now, so now I have 5 grand kids I'm 55 years old a grocery checker in the evening and I'm babysitting my grandkids during the day. I woke up this morning feeling tired sore and sad I grabbed a cup of coffee and sat down to check out GLP,I don't feel so bad now for some reason. I appreciate the insight from most of you,some of you are just rude. I'm thinking this may be what you call a Mid life crisis. Anyway I've been wanting to take a photography class because it's what I love so now I'm going to do it. Pity party is over have a great day.

YEP!

Right on man!

I thought back in my mid 30's I had it all figured out.

Guess not.

I hear people say stuff about doing stuff and hobbies, but when you're saddled down with a family and home and the obligations that go with it, there isn't enough cash or time or energy left over for it.

When you realize that, then the "What? This is it!?" seeps in.

Yes, certainly.

It's still too painful to be able to talk about.
Doubt whether I'll ever be able to talk about it.

YESS