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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72642215  United States07/29/2016 07:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | she has to go. You think she should sit home alone and lonely? Itis where people go for human interaction. The only other places are 35 miles away.- and now it is a must that she go, because she is in mental pain and needs the fellowhip of another human. She is making a very healthy move by going out and letting everyone see she needs them or someone. She can go, but she shouldn't try to cockblock her friend. He's looking for the type of intimacy that the OP simply won't provide. It's selfish of her to deny him that happiness. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69657057 United States07/29/2016 07:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well it gets worse. 8 months and Iam 56! Lol and he 59. Yeah. I know, I know. Gosh what was I thinking! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23660934 that's the problem, you stupid childish princes. you didn't think. you never think, none of the women in this world use their brain. your just here to make men miserable. then they want to get away from you. you fucked up. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 50389026 United States07/29/2016 07:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | atta girl. If he is leaving you alone, then there was nothing there to begin with. You have lost nothing, not even a friend; NOTHING. He shouldhave let someone to be with you so that you donot have to be alone, before he walked out on you. He shouldhave been honest with you. He is no good to have done this to you. Lonliness is nasty. Yeah, but the other woman might have sex with him. How awesome is that? He will get to have a female friend who WILL have sex with him. It's a win, win situation for him. right that was what i just said. He acts only for his own needs, and cares not that he left someone in a sad condition. He met his needs, and that is that, as far as it ever was with him and her and ever would be. If he were a real human, he wouldhave made sure she would be safe and comfortable before he walked out on her. He shouldhave explained to her what he was going to do, instead, he shocked her, and has endangered her mental health. In her deepness she sensed there was something wrong with him, and thus was never able to give him her all. He did this, not she. |
Abi ~  User ID: 19153430 United States07/29/2016 07:30 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | she has to go. You think she should sit home alone and lonely? Itis where people go for human interaction. The only other places are 35 miles away.- and now it is a must that she go, because she is in mental pain and needs the fellowhip of another human. She is making a very healthy move by going out and letting everyone see she needs them or someone. I disagree...If she must go out, she needs to go somewhere else.. How do you think this is going to go down if she goes? She will go in like she is going to be cool, not be clingy and not act the fool.. That will last all of 2 minutes once the other chic shows up..guaranteed. Plus, she might actually go against her morals and sleep with the guy thinking that will make him choose her and make him stay..LOL huge mistake...HUGE Better to stay home if that is the only choice. You accept the love you think you deserve~~~ Love cannot live where there is no trust~~~ Truth has no temperature~~~ Love like it's never gonna hurt~~~ Have no regrets~~~ |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23660934 United States07/29/2016 07:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He loves me. I know this by the way he treats me and the fun we have. It is possible to wait for sex girls. Btw. I thought I would call him to let him know I was heading that way. No cell here so I thought he would not be home. He was. He knows I am going and he is showing up later. Also to cut confusion , he told me he had his eye on another girl because I was his good friend. I told him that no girl would allow him to have me as a friend and that I was not willing to lose his friendship. I'm heading out soon. And to all the young ones who think it's gross. I did too when I was young. When you date older it is the exact same bs! Smiles and thanks everyone! |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23660934 United States07/29/2016 07:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was heading that way. No cell here so I thought he would not be home. He was. He knows I am going and he is showing up later. Also to cut confusion , he told me he had his eye on another girl because I was his good friend. I told him that no girl would allow him to have me as a friend and that I was not willing to lose his friendship. I'm heading out soon. And to all the young ones who think it's gross. I did too when I was young. When you date older it is the exact same bs! Smiles and thanks everyone! |
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| Abi ~ User ID: 19153430 United States07/29/2016 07:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He loves me. I know this by the way he treats me and the fun we have. It is possible to wait for sex girls. Btw. I thought I would call him to let him know Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23660934 I was heading that way. No cell here so I thought he would not be home. He was. He knows I am going and he is showing up later. Also to cut confusion , he told me he had his eye on another girl because I was his good friend. I told him that no girl would allow him to have me as a friend and that I was not willing to lose his friendship. I'm heading out soon. And to all the young ones who think it's gross. I did too when I was young. When you date older it is the exact same bs! Smiles and thanks everyone! OP...he said that to get you to put out or he is simply telling you all there is..you are a friend..nothing more, nothing less.. Continue the friendship but expect nothing more..unless you want a fuck buddy. You accept the love you think you deserve~~~ Love cannot live where there is no trust~~~ Truth has no temperature~~~ Love like it's never gonna hurt~~~ Have no regrets~~~ |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72642215 United States07/29/2016 07:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | right that was what i just said. He acts only for his own needs, and cares not that he left someone in a sad condition. He met his needs, and that is that, as far as it ever was with him and her and ever would be. If he were a real human, he wouldhave made sure she would be safe and comfortable before he walked out on her. He shouldhave explained to her what he was going to do, instead, he shocked her, and has endangered her mental health. In her deepness she sensed there was something wrong with him, and thus was never able to give him her all. He did this, not she. She's 56. This ain't her first rodeo. She's old enough to know that leading a man on for 8 months without giving him sex is going to end badly. Now she has remorse, but no one to blame but herself. She did this, not him. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 50389026 United States07/29/2016 07:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | she has to go. You think she should sit home alone and lonely? Itis where people go for human interaction. The only other places are 35 miles away.- and now it is a must that she go, because she is in mental pain and needs the fellowhip of another human. She is making a very healthy move by going out and letting everyone see she needs them or someone. She can go, but she shouldn't try to cockblock her friend. He's looking for the type of intimacy that the OP simply won't provide. It's selfish of her to deny him that happiness. It was in his own lacking that he was unable to give what it takes to make a woman lust after you. When you have had the best, how can you settle for less. The guy is a cheap jerk, and probably one of those that still does not know where thefk is the clit, and cares less, as long as he gets his needs met. |
| Abi ~ User ID: 19153430 United States07/29/2016 07:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | right that was what i just said. He acts only for his own needs, and cares not that he left someone in a sad condition. He met his needs, and that is that, as far as it ever was with him and her and ever would be. If he were a real human, he wouldhave made sure she would be safe and comfortable before he walked out on her. He shouldhave explained to her what he was going to do, instead, he shocked her, and has endangered her mental health. In her deepness she sensed there was something wrong with him, and thus was never able to give him her all. He did this, not she. She's 56. This ain't her first rodeo. She's old enough to know that leading a man on for 8 months without giving him sex is going to end badly. Now she has remorse, but no one to blame but herself. She did this, not him. Yet, the man is still in her life..why? You accept the love you think you deserve~~~ Love cannot live where there is no trust~~~ Truth has no temperature~~~ Love like it's never gonna hurt~~~ Have no regrets~~~ |
| Michele B User ID: 13296239 United States07/29/2016 07:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Infactuated? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 72181316 If a dude wants someone else, why be pathetic and show up like a puppy dog? No sex for 8 months, maybe your misunderstanding your situation? I'm not misunderstanding, no way. I am widow, pure and not willing to sell out to every guy I meet. I decided I want this one. I want to keep him. I'm no puppy if I show. It means I mean business. I'm willing to make effort for that. He would feel good. His heart would meet the challenge . But maybe it's best to allow his jeans to wander a bit.  Youre' not in Middle school for Cripe's sake! Just be straight up honest. If you want marriage before sex, OK. But if he's not willing to do that, then LET HIM GO. DO NOT GO TO THIS BAR, or whatever where this "other women" is. He's a JERK if he tells you he "likes her...." - what the hell does he THINK you're going to do??? Suddenly give him sex?!?!?!? Go for a threesome?!?!?!? I mean, WTH?!?!?!? Either get with the program, get fucking married, and get to it, or GET THE HELL AWAY FROM EACH OTHER> He's apparently NOT on the same page you are with 'waiting' or being pure, or whatever. I mean, I get it. I'm a Christian, and if my hubs were to die or something, I WOULD NOT remarry, probably not even date....because I DO NOT WANT ANYONE ELSE. So if I were suddenly interested in anyone else, I'd have to tell them I'm not having sex with them, either, unless we marry. But I FOR DAMN SURE WOULD **NOT** wait around while they go meeting up with some other woman. F*** THAT!!!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72642215 United States07/29/2016 07:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | right that was what i just said. He acts only for his own needs, and cares not that he left someone in a sad condition. He met his needs, and that is that, as far as it ever was with him and her and ever would be. If he were a real human, he wouldhave made sure she would be safe and comfortable before he walked out on her. He shouldhave explained to her what he was going to do, instead, he shocked her, and has endangered her mental health. In her deepness she sensed there was something wrong with him, and thus was never able to give him her all. He did this, not she. She's 56. This ain't her first rodeo. She's old enough to know that leading a man on for 8 months without giving him sex is going to end badly. Now she has remorse, but no one to blame but herself. She did this, not him. Yet, the man is still in her life..why? Sounds to me like he is ready to be a casual friend with her, but he has accepted that nothing further will come of it and is moving on. She simply wants a man who is willing to be faithful to her, without any sexual contact. Apparently, he wants more. This reminds me of a saying I heard long ago, "A woman wants a man to fulfill her every need and a man wants a woman to fulfill his one need" If she isn't willing to fulfill the one need he has, then he will seek someone who will fulfill that need. Every normal, heterosexual male would do the same. Again, I can't believe at 56 years old, she is that clueless about men. |
| Abi ~ User ID: 19153430 United States07/29/2016 07:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | right that was what i just said. He acts only for his own needs, and cares not that he left someone in a sad condition. He met his needs, and that is that, as far as it ever was with him and her and ever would be. If he were a real human, he wouldhave made sure she would be safe and comfortable before he walked out on her. He shouldhave explained to her what he was going to do, instead, he shocked her, and has endangered her mental health. In her deepness she sensed there was something wrong with him, and thus was never able to give him her all. He did this, not she. She's 56. This ain't her first rodeo. She's old enough to know that leading a man on for 8 months without giving him sex is going to end badly. Now she has remorse, but no one to blame but herself. She did this, not him. Yet, the man is still in her life..why? Sounds to me like he is ready to be a casual friend with her, but he has accepted that nothing further will come of it and is moving on. She simply wants a man who is willing to be faithful to her, without any sexual contact. Apparently, he wants more. This reminds me of a saying I heard long ago, "A woman wants a man to fulfill her every need and a man wants a woman to fulfill his one need" If she isn't willing to fulfill the one need he has, then he will seek someone who will fulfill that need. Every normal, heterosexual male would do the same. Again, I can't believe at 56 years old, she is that clueless about men. That's a good answer..thank you You accept the love you think you deserve~~~ Love cannot live where there is no trust~~~ Truth has no temperature~~~ Love like it's never gonna hurt~~~ Have no regrets~~~ |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 50389026 United States07/29/2016 07:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | right that was what i just said. He acts only for his own needs, and cares not that he left someone in a sad condition. He met his needs, and that is that, as far as it ever was with him and her and ever would be. If he were a real human, he wouldhave made sure she would be safe and comfortable before he walked out on her. He shouldhave explained to her what he was going to do, instead, he shocked her, and has endangered her mental health. In her deepness she sensed there was something wrong with him, and thus was never able to give him her all. He did this, not she. She's 56. This ain't her first rodeo. She's old enough to know that leading a man on for 8 months without giving him sex is going to end badly. Now she has remorse, but no one to blame but herself. She did this, not him. no "remorse", just a "GOTCHA", and freedom from a man that couldnot stimulate her, nor probably any other woman, other wise he wouldnot have been so dumb to have waited sooooo long for the only thing he was there for in the first place, which, of course, was sex, nothing more, just, sex. The new woman will fake it, because she needs someone to help pay the bills, and he will, now, go back to living his cold, empty life. OP will continue searching for, first: human warmth, and then . . . maybe . . . some day . . . . . . there will be a lover . . . |
| Jella User ID: 70720051 United States07/29/2016 07:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... IN the gaga love is more than sex, its almost a scent you can smell with no description, an uncontrollable desire that you can never get enough of. So, what's the different classes? And....... what's the big issues? Oh and if I were you I wouldn't go there, unless of course your just close friends. Last Edited by Jella on 07/29/2016 08:02 PM Jella |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72642215 United States07/29/2016 07:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no "remorse", just a "GOTCHA", and freedom from a man that couldnot stimulate her, nor probably any other woman, other wise he wouldnot have been so dumb to have waited sooooo long for the only thing he was there for in the first place, which, of course, was sex, nothing more, just, sex. The new woman will fake it, because she needs someone to help pay the bills, and he will, now, go back to living his cold, empty life. OP will continue searching for, first: human warmth, and then . . . maybe . . . some day . . . . . . there will be a lover . . . This poor guy has been masturbating for the last 8 months waiting on his girlfriend to have sex with him. He's probably tried everything he knows to try and nothing has worked. He's given up and found someone else. And who can blame him? If you want to talk about something being 'cold and empty' , I'd say his relationship with the OP fits that description to a T. The OP should get a cat or a pen pal. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72303753 United States07/29/2016 07:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | WOMAN!!!!!!!! YOU FUCKING SHIT FOR BRAINS RETARD!!!!!!! ANOTHER WOMAN, not "another women" WOMEN = PLURAL WOMAN = SINGULAR JESUS FUCKING CHRIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The terrorists have already won |
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| Duncan the destroyer User ID: 72493129 United States07/29/2016 08:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He loves me. I know this by the way he treats me and the fun we have. It is possible to wait for sex girls. Btw. I thought I would call him to let him know Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23660934 I was heading that way. No cell here so I thought he would not be home. He was. He knows I am going and he is showing up later. Also to cut confusion , he told me he had his eye on another girl because I was his good friend. I told him that no girl would allow him to have me as a friend and that I was not willing to lose his friendship. I'm heading out soon. And to all the young ones who think it's gross. I did too when I was young. When you date older it is the exact same bs! Smiles and thanks everyone! You're a nut job Duncan the destroyer |
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| Abi ~ User ID: 19153430 United States07/29/2016 08:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, OP is a little odd..but no need to rip her apart.. Maybe there is a reason she is leery of jumping straight into bed with this man..apparently, morals and values are not enough for you guys. Plus, OP never told us what the "issues" or "different class" was about... I hope things work out well for the OP but do not think this guy is the one.. You accept the love you think you deserve~~~ Love cannot live where there is no trust~~~ Truth has no temperature~~~ Love like it's never gonna hurt~~~ Have no regrets~~~ |
| ChvyV8Bldr User ID: 21517811 United States07/29/2016 08:11 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My guy likes another women at the rural local bar. We've been dating for eight months, no sex, because I've been holding back. He adores me but I held off a long time and now he is infacutated with another. I told him that I want him and realize that I would have to give him more. That was willing to keep him. I know he is infacutated with this another and I know he adores me but I held him back to long. My question is do Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23660934 I show up tonight, which Would let her know I am his. Or do I let him venture down this road and come back. I don' t want to lose him. I would have dumped you at "another women" and what does "infactutated" mean LoL. Will we even know we were alive when we're dead? Me Kingdoms were run by kings Empires were run by Emperors Countries are run by..... Dumps were almost fixed by Trump |
| Duncan the destroyer User ID: 72493129 United States07/29/2016 08:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, OP is a little odd..but no need to rip her apart.. Quoting: Abi ~ Maybe there is a reason she is leery of jumping straight into bed with this man..apparently, morals and values are not enough for you guys. Plus, OP never told us what the "issues" or "different class" was about... I hope things work out well for the OP but do not think this guy is the one.. You know that may be true but seeing how she chose to air this on a public forum leads me to believe she is a sadistic nut job. I'd love to hear her dating career,I think you'd be changing your mind about her. Duncan the destroyer |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72645985 United States07/29/2016 08:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My guy likes another women at the rural local bar. We've been dating for eight months, no sex, because I've been holding back. He adores me but I held off a long time and now he is infacutated with another. I told him that I want him and realize that I would have to give him more. That was willing to keep him. I know he is infacutated with this another and I know he adores me but I held him back to long. My question is do Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23660934 I show up tonight, which Would let her know I am his. Or do I let him venture down this road and come back. I don' t want to lose him. But you aren't his. You won't have sex with him and you can lay no claim on any sort of relationship with him, other than casual friend. Next time, don't wait 8 months to consummate the relationship. Are you really too dumb to not know this already?? LOL True, she is not his..and has no claim.. However, putting out does not make her his either.. Consummate what kind of relationship? Fuck buddy? OP, has he even tried to do anything with you? Have you kissed or made out at all? My guy likes another women at the rural local bar. We've been dating for eight months, no sex, because I've been holding back. He adores me but I held off a long time and now he is infacutated with another. I told him that I want him and realize that I would have to give him more. That was willing to keep him. I know he is infacutated with this another and I know he adores me but I held him back to long. My question is do Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23660934 I show up tonight, which Would let her know I am his. Or do I let him venture down this road and come back. I don' t want to lose him. But you aren't his. You won't have sex with him and you can lay no claim on any sort of relationship with him, other than casual friend. Next time, don't wait 8 months to consummate the relationship. Are you really too dumb to not know this already?? LOL True, she is not his..and has no claim.. However, putting out does not make her his either.. Consummate what kind of relationship? Fuck buddy? OP, has he even tried to do anything with you? Have you kissed or made out at all? Yes we make out. We travel together. We get hot, we have a lot of diverencee that had to be worked out. He is a different class than me. I needed to give it time. When I broke my arm he spent three days at my pkace caring for me. He has never pressured me. He is clear he does not want a whore and I am clear that we have issues to work out. I mean big issues! Then give him some Tuna |
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waaattta jerk, and, besides, the new catch, must be fat and ugly.