Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personalities are unable to maintain an authentic self. They have fictive personalities and no ethics. They are extreme liars who cause constant chaos. They are psychotic but not killers. They harm people in ways that can't be prosecuted.

Borderline Crock of Shit

Exactly.They love to watch people suffer and they feel they are so much more deserving in life than anyone else.They dont care who they hurt and they get their high by watching others have difficulties because after all they are so perfect they cant fail,just all others fail never them.

You've come to the right place.

For best results, stay far, far away from anyone who has BPD. They will make your life a living hell.

Ahhh.... crap... I just spend about 20 minutes composing a reply to this and lost it all.

Okay, I'll just say... I was once best friends with someone with BPD. I was friends with her for 18 years from childhood to adulthood. At a certain point I thought, I've left her behind, when will she catch up? A few years later, I realized, she will never catch up. BPDs have the emotional maturity of about 2 - 4 years. You will end up spending all your mental energy trying to walk the fine line of not upsetting them, and in the end you'll fail anyway. BPDs have no sense of personal responsibility. They are always the victim. From what I've read, it comes from a lack of real bonding in infancy and there's no real way to fix it. (I know my friend had a horrible childhood -- I witnessed it.) Through intensive psychiatric treatment they can learn to manage it but first they have to acknowledge that they need help, something that is almost impossible for a BPD. They are so terrified of and so certain of rejection that they will engineer it for themselves in almost any relationship, and that involves making you the villain.

I wish this weren't so. My BPD former friend has a daughter who has now become a teenager. I fear for her. I miss my friend in some ways as odd as that sounds, but I could never be close to her again.

If you're involved with a BPD, release yourself as gently as you can. You can't fix them and they will end up blaming you for everything that's ever gone wrong for them.

Well, if no one should be friends or involved with someone with BPD, should we just go ahead and lock them all away? Everyone needs friends and loved ones and if we all just arbitrarily threw everyone away who had a flaw or God help them, an insecurity...
BPD is a horrible thing to try and overcome. It takes patience, love and time.
Too bad you don't know as much about friendship as you do BPD. It is possible to manage and in fact overcome if you have the right tools.

Well, if no one should be friends or involved with someone with BPD, should we just go ahead and lock them all away? Everyone needs friends and loved ones and if we all just arbitrarily threw everyone away who had a flaw or God help them, an insecurity...
BPD is a horrible thing to try and overcome. It takes patience, love and time.
Too bad you don't know as much about friendship as you do BPD. It is possible to manage and in fact overcome if you have the right tools.

Well, to be fair lots of people with Bipolar Disorder go off their meds. I knew a guy like that. He loved the high so much he was willing to ruin his business, stroke rattlesnakes to commune with God (yes, really) and trash all his relationships. He called me in the middle of the night to tell me the Mafia was going to kill my mother.

I have no idea where he is now. Last I heard he was homeless and didn't want to be helped.

Gawd.... sometimes I curse my brain for giving me run of the mill depression. Then I recall stuff like this, and all I've read about schizophrenia, and am so incredibly thankful that I can at least discern what's real and what's not (at least most of the time).

That poster made some very sensitive remarks and is in pain, so I find your remarks callous.

BPD is not just a "flaw" or "insecurity," it is a MAJOR psychiatric disorder.

Yes, it takes "patience, love, and time" to overcome. And I have YET to meet someone with BPD whom I "love" enough to invest the patience and the time. Maybe that's because our relationship never got that far because they went completely wacko on me early on and began destroying (literally --- as in material items) things, including our "friendship."

If YOU choose to invest your patience and time into someone with BPD and set yourself up for the inevitable heartache, by all means go ahead. But I CHOOSE not to with good reason -- based on past experience.

Unlike people with OTHER psych disorders like depression, BPDs NEVER stay on their damned medications! They CHOOSE to go off their lithium so they can DRINK and DO DRUGS, and that's usually when the every-weekend baseball-bat-to-the-trunk windshield, destroying-his-apartment-with-a-lead-pipe, getting-hauled-off-by-the-cops, in-and-out-of-the-psych-ward, stealing-your-money-and-disappearing crazy wacko bullshit begins.

That is TOO MUCH DRAMA for me. If you WANT that kind of wacko drama in your life, then be my guest.

That poster made some very sensitive remarks and is in pain, so I find your remarks callous.

BPD is not just a "flaw" or "insecurity," it is a MAJOR psychiatric disorder.

Yes, it takes "patience, love, and time" to overcome. And I have YET to meet someone with BPD whom I "love" enough to invest the patience and the time. Maybe that's because our relationship never got that far because they went completely wacko on me early on and began destroying (literally --- as in material items) things, including our "friendship."

If YOU choose to invest your patience and time into someone with BPD and set yourself up for the inevitable heartache, by all means go ahead. But I CHOOSE not to with good reason -- based on past experience.

Unlike people with OTHER psych disorders like depression, BPDs NEVER stay on their damned medications! They CHOOSE to go off their lithium so they can DRINK and DO DRUGS, and that's usually when the every-weekend baseball-bat-to-the-trunk windshield, destroying-his-apartment-with-a-lead-pipe, getting-hauled-off-by-the-cops, in-and-out-of-the-psych-ward, stealing-your-money-and-disappearing crazy wacko bullshit begins.

That is TOO MUCH DRAMA for me. If you WANT that kind of wacko drama in your life, then be my guest.

It is a tough one. In my experience cure is impossible because the patients do not believe they are in the wrong. It is everyone else causing their problems and who are out to get them. They can not, will not see that they need help. Good luck with that one. IMHO it is one of the most difficult.

Borderline personalities are unable to maintain an authentic self. They have fictive personalities and no ethics. They are extreme liars who cause constant chaos. They are psychotic but not killers. They harm people in ways that can't be prosecuted.

First of all, BPD patients don't need medication, that's Bipolar Disorder, which is something completely different.

Second, it sounds like you have boundary issues.

Thirdly, I was misdiagnosed with both Bipolar and BPD for a few years

I've spent the past three years of my life in intensive therapy

My family all deserted me.

I'm just saying that maybe you just had a really bad experience with someone who had it. I'm sorry that it was such a difficult friendship.

absolutely, well known in the profession, they are interchangeable labels depending on the pt's gender

as I said, it is a character disorder, not treatable with medicines, only effective treatment is CONSEQUENCES resulting from their actions.

it is more widespread than most realize, millions of spoiled, entitled brats from the '60s on present with it

BPD is a RECOGNIZED medical abbreviation for BIPOLAR DISORDER. I have worked in the med field for 24 years so should know.

In addition, here is a quote from YOUR POST above:

"Well, if no one should be friends or involved with someone with BPD, should we just go ahead and lock them all away?"

So, if BPD doesn't stand for bipolar disorder, then why did you use it? Bipolar disorder IS the topic of discussion in this thread.




So, in your (diseased) mind, I misused a medical abbreviation (when in fact I did not), and that equates to "boundary issues?" Armchair diagnose much?

Check it out, whackadoodle: You don't know me. All you know about me are a couple of posts on this forum. You don't even know what kind of mood I'm in. Your educational level is probably no higher than high school. You are not qualified to start drawing conclusions about my "boundaries" or anything else about me.



Misdiagnosed for YEARS? More likely that diagnosis was CORRECT and SPOT ON.



Not surprising at all.



Gee, I wonder why.



No, that is what *I* said. YOU didn't say that, nor did you ask ANY questions about others' experiences, you just starting judging people right out of the box.

You are saying it NOW, but you certainly weren't saying it before. Earlier you implied that those of us who aren't willing to put up with the wacko antics of BPDs (YES, BPD) are heartless.

All my points have been made, and as far as I'm concerned this conversation is over.

For best results, stay far, far away from anyone who has BPD. They will make your life a living hell.