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john
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01/22/2007 06:16 AM
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need help by woman with question about woman...
hi gals,

i´m pretty confused.
i´ve been dating this girl regularly since new year´s eve and she even sleeps in my bed regularly, everything like it should be in the beginning of a relationship.

we get along very well, have loads of things to talk about, etc...

both are VERY shy and quiet people.

the last time she even asked me if i´d allow her to lay in my bed (serious question).

i sometimes watch her posts on the internet and something struck me last week:

1) she posted a "song of the day" with the following lyrics:

so you came like a missle
leaving me the whole world in exile
you think you're giving
but you're taking my life away

2) she added a pic to her profile that says:

"i wish i could gather all my tears so i could fucking drown you in them"


i assume she´s confused. maybe thats directed at me. I´m almost 90% sure. we still get along well and she appears to be happy/funny more than sad/confused. everytime i ask her to come spend the night at my house she´s positive and with me until next afternoon...


another fact is that she´s planning on leaving this country next year. maybe it´d break her heart if she did and i stayed here... (i thought only guys had that problem)



so, my conclusion: she´s obviously hurt by something; high probability has it that this was me. she doesn´t say anything and appear happy all the time. we REALLY get along well. we laugh together, we love together. and she´s quiet/shy but for sure not an emo kid, so why those posts on the net...?


can any woman help me out and tell me what to do and/or what that situation could be about?

i´d really appreciate that, as i want to handle her with care and make her feel safe, not hurt her feelings...

thx a lot in advance,

john D.A.
Sigma

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01/22/2007 06:24 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
She's talking about an ex. Hope that helps.
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john (OP)
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01/22/2007 06:25 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
that´d not be a big problem at all.

are you sure abotu that?
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 06:33 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
hi john. mmm im not sure what this girl is saying, but i have a feeling it maybe something to do with a ex rather than you.im not sure this is ment to be directed at you at all, i could be wrong but being a women that has been hurt, i feel she is trying to tell someone how hurt she feels, if you 2 have been getting on so well i dont see how this could be ment for you. i have to say john that you really should talk to her and ask her about what you have seen its the only way. as a women that is what i would expect you to do, on the other hand she maybe feeling something for you and thinks that you will hurt her. please show her some respect and sit down and talk to her, i have a feeling thats what she wants to do but is not sure how to. sorry if its no help, but i wish you all the luck in the world. goodluck to you both no matter how things turn out. Di. x
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 06:39 AM
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dont let yourself fall into the mindfuck trap of the typical woman. just keep banging her and dont worry about her twisted thoughts...works for me everytime!
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 07:28 AM
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Yes shes definatly talking about someone else she used to know..i would say who she used to be in love with..or still is..but they dumped her..
In any case sounds like shes not over them yet so..i would take it really slow with her...let her mend.
aumyfoot
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01/22/2007 07:35 AM
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U're sooo Gay... hiding
Whatever,i don't usually waste my time on such gals so i shouldn't give advice,but the situation u're in is kinda lame
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 07:51 AM
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You can ask why she wrote those things and what she meant by them. And try to really listen and ask follow up questions. Be a good listener and that way you can learn a lot more about her.
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01/22/2007 08:38 AM
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Best of luck to you. hf
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 08:44 AM
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You can ask why she wrote those things and what she meant by them. And try to really listen and ask follow up questions. Be a good listener and that way you can learn a lot more about her.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2298


Very sensible advice.

The only way to find out what she means by something that she says or does, is to ask her. Simple as that. Guessing and worrying will get you nowhere.

And don't take any notice of the two negative posters so far.
john (OP)
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01/22/2007 09:16 AM
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yeah, i think i´ll just ask her in the right situation. thats probably the best way as i already found myself in that "mindfuck trap" some weeks ago.
planning on seeing her tues- or wednesday. not sure though.

thanks for your concern, further advices/talking/etc is appreciated.

john
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01/22/2007 09:23 AM
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Shoot her full of Sodium Pentothal & make her talk.
Insomnia

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01/22/2007 09:38 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
i agree with everyone else. she's probably been hurt. unless she's a gothy girl, in that case, her lyrics and profile are just normal depressing quotes that every emo girl uses.
john (OP)
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01/22/2007 09:40 AM
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she´s not a goth girl. that´s why i really wondered about those lyrics/quotes. guess i´ll learn more this week.
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 09:44 AM
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she sounds like a lovely girl


certainly not worth spilling dirty laundry about on the net


why dont you try giving her a good fucking seeing too? :D


its probably what shes dying for


theres a fine line between showing a woman respect, and making her feel unsexy


tear her draws off and get nose deep in her


dont let me tell you twice

gdub
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01/22/2007 09:48 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
You can ask why she wrote those things and what she meant by them. And try to really listen and ask follow up questions. Be a good listener and that way you can learn a lot more about her.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2298


This reminds me of the old joke where a man asked god if he could make him understand what/how women think. They ended up building a bridge from California to Hawaiji, which was easier.

I'd also recommend to bang her really good and often. Either she can't get rid of the ex, or she will forget about him and focus on you. OR, she might also open up to you and explain what's wrong. Or not(see first paragraph).

Good luck anyways!
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01/22/2007 09:51 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
Yep, I'd say she's still angry over an ex. You wouldn't be getting none if she was talking about you.
"Arrows of hate have been shot at me too, but they never hit me, because somehow they belonged to another world, with which I have no connection whatsoever." - Albert Einstein
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01/22/2007 09:53 AM
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Both you and the girl sound like the typical 20-year old of today - stark raving insane. I overhear your conversations in the coffee shop and I just wish for a fuckin' comet to hit this planet and then see how important your relationships and your emotions and your angst and your bands and your Myspace profiles are....


Ecch, you're pathetic.
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 09:54 AM
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laugh
Both you and the girl sound like the typical 20-year old of today - stark raving insane. I overhear your conversations in the coffee shop and I just wish for a fuckin' comet to hit this planet and then see how important your relationships and your emotions and your angst and your bands and your Myspace profiles are....


Ecch, you're pathetic.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 185591


classic hi

gdub
john (OP)
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01/22/2007 10:00 AM
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earth daughter:

that was what i thought about numerous times. if this is correct, there aren´t any problems at all. that´s the opposite of the socalled "mindfuck" trap.
jlazarus

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01/22/2007 10:23 AM
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Although I am all for honesty, I am wondering: How did you see what she was posting? Did you just happen to be on the same site and it was innocent? Did she happen to leave the posting up on the computer for anyone to see?

Or were you sneaking around looking through her computer when she wasn't looking?

Big difference there. If the latter, then you may get a negative response when you bring this up to her.....
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01/22/2007 10:23 AM
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earth daughter:

that was what i thought about numerous times. if this is correct, there aren´t any problems at all. that´s the opposite of the socalled "mindfuck" trap.
 Quoting: john 185532



seriously mate


if you havent slipped her a length by monday and are still worrying about her feelings towards you


go out and buy yourself a pink tanktop and start talking with a lithp


at least she will leave you and go find someone who WANTS her and shows it

for her sake, homo
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 10:26 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
Although I am all for honesty, I am wondering: How did you see what she was posting? Did you just happen to be on the same site and it was innocent? Did she happen to leave the posting up on the computer for anyone to see?

Or were you sneaking around looking through her computer when she wasn't looking?

Big difference there. If the latter, then you may get a negative response when you bring this up to her.....
 Quoting: jlazarus



great point lazarus!



stop stalking her you weirdo OP



maybe if you put more effort into TALKING TO HER INSTEAD OF US you wouldnt be in this mess?


what woman wants a man who airs all their laundry to strangers on the net?


you need help
Anonymous Coward
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01/22/2007 10:35 AM
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her ex gave her sexually what you cant and now she
wants to drown him because she knows that even though
you are a great guy she`ll never know that kind of
sex with you.
john (OP)
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01/22/2007 10:53 AM
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Re: need help by woman with question about woman...
so, if i´m a stud the next time she should be okay with it? well-interpreted, AC.





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