Can you ever truly get past the loss of a loved one?

You never get over it, but you do get used to it.

Yes, once you realize that birth is death and death is birth.

Depending on what type of person you are. You either let it fade away. Turn Your heart off so you don't feel it. Or try to honor their memory. Depends who you are who you lost

This, I have found it requires going full circle but eventually you'll get it.

No. Nothing is the same again ever. Although we know the world is not perfect, we learn that over time we lose.

Remember them with love.

A man dies three times.
When his body ceases functioning.
When his friends gather and lower him in the grave.
When no one ever thinks about him again.

If you live in the past it will consume you.

Yes. I loved my grandmother dearly. Sat by her side every morning before work when she was sick and dying. Watched her die and take her last breath. She live a long and happy life and I said goodbye, see you when my time here is up and went on with my life.

The wound will heal, but a scar remains on your heart.

see, I never got a chance to say goodbye.

But I appreciate you sharing.

If they were taken as a result of an illness, at least you realize that they are now in a truly better place, with no pain nor sadness.

Try to imagine what your life in the past might have been like WITHOUT the loved one.

Be thankful for the time you had.

If you are a Christian...consider these thoughts.

If the person was taken unexpectedly, many folks struggle with the loss, even to the point of being angry with God.

No human can truly know the Good Lord's reasons,but here's some thoughts.

If the person was rebelling against the Lord, maybe they were taken & given one last chance to Believe & ask forgiveness.

Maybe the person was back-sliding in life, and the Lord took the person home before things got worse.

Perhaps the Lord had / has tasks for the person to do that required the person to be in spirit form.

Or maybe the Lord was pleased with the person so much that He brought that person home.

I'm sure there are many other possible reasons.

Pray to the Good Lord that the person was actually Saved.

Give thanks to God for the good times you spent with the person. Those memories will last in your heart.



Last Edited by Servant-of-the-LORD on 10/27/2016 11:29 AM

This.

no, i do not believe you ever get past it.

maybe you learn to live with the hole in your soul but nothing is ever as good as it was.

Only if you are not going to ever see them again.

You should never get over the death of a loved one. Hopefully, they will be with you forever.

I believe that the bodies we are in occupy such a short time in the vastness of time.

I await the time I see all my deceased loved ones again for eternity!

I have lost many. I am one of the few left here.

No we cannot and it is a lesson for us to ponder and learn from. It changes us. Death is as natural as being born, however and I believe we will see our loved ones again.

Over time the shock fades.

To me it gets worse as time goes by.
At first there is that shock if it is sudden and unexpected, then there is that silence and void left that sledge hammers the loss deeper in your experience.

As time goes by when you are older then they were when they died, you see how young and short their life was, and it is even worse when your child is older than your big brother, or dad was that died.

When you are older than your dad who died, you feel sorry for him and see what he went through in life and have great sympathy for him.
I felt guilty for having life and my brother not having life, I felt guilty for being older than my older brother.

I do believe only the good die young the biggest part of the time.
I am older than my uncles lived to be and so many others, and I miss them and think of them often and want to see them again on the other side.

I think it gets worse as time goes by of missing them and wanting to go home.

When a loved one dies, a little piece of you dies also. Just the way it is.


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My precious husband died 22 years ago. I know I will never get past it. Grief ebbs and flows and if you're lucky you can get to the point where it ebbs more than it flows.