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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 68846631  United States12/07/2016 07:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71592440 United States12/07/2016 07:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been in accounting jobs for about eight years but I absolutely hate the work and the life style of accounting. When I was laid off last spring I took this as an opportunity to change directions. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 68846631 I had unemployment and so I switched gears and decided to switch to a different profession. This profession required that I find a mentor, do courses and then in a few years I would be designated after passing some exams. I lined up my mentor and did my courses, but the time when my mentor said he could take me on came and went and since then the target has been moved back further and further to the point that I do not trust him anymore. My unemployment has now run out and I'm out there desperately looking for work... My wife has been really down on me lately, it really kicked up a notch when my mentor let me down and the money ran out. I don't blame her at all really and if she leaves me I don't even know if I'll be angry, I'm that down on myself and ashamed of the situation I've allowed myself to fall into. I feel beaten, a total loser... So I have two options, give up and end it or pull myself out of the mess I'm in. I'm choosing the latter because I have a little girl to raise the right way and take care of... I'm lost, I don't know where to go or what to do. This is the lowest point in my life by far and away... I've never felt so low or helpless or hopeless. I hope your Christmas is a lot merrier than mine... Fight OP Go to a temp service agency to find work quick, if you like where you're place...focus on getting hired on. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71592440 United States12/07/2016 07:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 58963125 United States12/07/2016 07:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| **Aurora** User ID: 73316671  United Kingdom12/07/2016 07:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation |  There's always options just get out there and focus all your frustrations and disappointments positively and make something happen. We all have fight for what we have and want and need. Hope something turns up for you soon DRESSED IN THE FULL ARMOUR OF GOD -Helmet of salvation -Breastplate of righteousness -Belt of truth -Sword of the Holy Spirit -Shield of faith -Sandals of the gospel |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 54329648 United States12/07/2016 07:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 58963125 United States12/07/2016 07:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been in accounting jobs for about eight years but I absolutely hate the work and the life style of accounting. When I was laid off last spring I took this as an opportunity to change directions. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 68846631 I had unemployment and so I switched gears and decided to switch to a different profession. This profession required that I find a mentor, do courses and then in a few years I would be designated after passing some exams. I lined up my mentor and did my courses, but the time when my mentor said he could take me on came and went and since then the target has been moved back further and further to the point that I do not trust him anymore. My unemployment has now run out and I'm out there desperately looking for work... My wife has been really down on me lately, it really kicked up a notch when my mentor let me down and the money ran out. I don't blame her at all really and if she leaves me I don't even know if I'll be angry, I'm that down on myself and ashamed of the situation I've allowed myself to fall into. I feel beaten, a total loser... So I have two options, give up and end it or pull myself out of the mess I'm in. I'm choosing the latter because I have a little girl to raise the right way and take care of... I'm lost, I don't know where to go or what to do. This is the lowest point in my life by far and away... I've never felt so low or helpless or hopeless. I hope your Christmas is a lot merrier than mine... Fight OP Go to a temp service agency to find work quick, if you like where you're place...focus on getting hired on. Thanks, I will. I'll check that out. I feel like I have nothing left in the tank now. I'm driving on an empty tank for my daughter... Thanks to God I've been blessed so much in having her. She's the only reason I'm keeping it together and not quitting it all. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 51823241 United States12/07/2016 07:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look at the bright side. When you reach rock bottom then there is nowhere else to go but up. Most of us have been right where you are and fought through it. You can do the same thing, just get tough and plow through the BS. Never give up until you are pushing up daisies. It is a part of life...the struggles happen for a reason. To make you stronger on the other side. . |
| **Aurora** User ID: 73316671 United Kingdom12/07/2016 07:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look at the bright side. When you reach rock bottom then there is nowhere else to go but up. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51823241 Most of us have been right where you are and fought through it. You can do the same thing, just get tough and plow through the BS. Never give up until you are pushing up daisies. It is a part of life...the struggles happen for a reason. To make you stronger on the other side. . This!  DRESSED IN THE FULL ARMOUR OF GOD -Helmet of salvation -Breastplate of righteousness -Belt of truth -Sword of the Holy Spirit -Shield of faith -Sandals of the gospel |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 58963125 United States12/07/2016 07:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Find a different mentor immediately. If you can't , go back to accounting till April 15 and then get a new mentor to work with you . Good luck . Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54329648 I've tried finding a mentor. I've contacted everyone listed and been turned down by them all. I'd have to move away somewhere else for that. My wife won't go for that because she does have a job right now. So my plan there to do this switch is fucked... Thanks for the advice though. I'm working hard to get hired right now. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 58963125 United States12/07/2016 07:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look at the bright side. When you reach rock bottom then there is nowhere else to go but up. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51823241 Most of us have been right where you are and fought through it. You can do the same thing, just get tough and plow through the BS. Never give up until you are pushing up daisies. It is a part of life...the struggles happen for a reason. To make you stronger on the other side. . Thank you and you're right, many have been where I am. I will fight. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 58963125 United States12/07/2016 07:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What exactly is it you're being mentored in? Are you ashamed of what it is since you haven't mentioned that? Quoting: G. House More information could mean more help. Professional real estate appraiser. It's a small group. I wouldn't have even started courses had I not had a mentor lined up because I know how tough it is to get in the club as it were. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71009733 United States12/07/2016 07:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71592440 United States12/07/2016 07:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been in accounting jobs for about eight years but I absolutely hate the work and the life style of accounting. When I was laid off last spring I took this as an opportunity to change directions. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 68846631 I had unemployment and so I switched gears and decided to switch to a different profession. This profession required that I find a mentor, do courses and then in a few years I would be designated after passing some exams. I lined up my mentor and did my courses, but the time when my mentor said he could take me on came and went and since then the target has been moved back further and further to the point that I do not trust him anymore. My unemployment has now run out and I'm out there desperately looking for work... My wife has been really down on me lately, it really kicked up a notch when my mentor let me down and the money ran out. I don't blame her at all really and if she leaves me I don't even know if I'll be angry, I'm that down on myself and ashamed of the situation I've allowed myself to fall into. I feel beaten, a total loser... So I have two options, give up and end it or pull myself out of the mess I'm in. I'm choosing the latter because I have a little girl to raise the right way and take care of... I'm lost, I don't know where to go or what to do. This is the lowest point in my life by far and away... I've never felt so low or helpless or hopeless. I hope your Christmas is a lot merrier than mine... Fight OP Go to a temp service agency to find work quick, if you like where you're place...focus on getting hired on. Thanks, I will. I'll check that out. I feel like I have nothing left in the tank now. I'm driving on an empty tank for my daughter... Thanks to God I've been blessed so much in having her. She's the only reason I'm keeping it together and not quitting it all. They'll place you in a spot for work quick. It'll hold you down & keep bills in check. If you like the job you're placed at & get hired on, look around for a position you think you'd feel 'comfortable' then get that spot. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71009733 United States12/07/2016 07:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What exactly is it you're being mentored in? Are you ashamed of what it is since you haven't mentioned that? Quoting: G. House More information could mean more help. Professional real estate appraiser. It's a small group. I wouldn't have even started courses had I not had a mentor lined up because I know how tough it is to get in the club as it were. Tried that at one time. That "mentor" thing is actually indentured servant I'd go back to the accounting gig and try to find some palatable aspect of that |
| hatch battener User ID: 73561942 United States12/07/2016 07:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Levi User ID: 72014371 United States12/07/2016 08:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wallowing in self pity will get you no where - I say that in the nicest possible way Quoting: **Aurora** There's always options just get out there and focus all your frustrations and disappointments positively and make something happen. We all have fight for what we have and want and need. Hope something turns up for you soon Self-pity? The guy's ready to terminate himself. It would be so nice if people stopped to rely on memes... |
| Gringo-Crackerº User ID: 72230890 United States12/07/2016 08:04 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Make whatever you can asap. A little coming in steady is better than absolutely nothing. I have found it's easier to get a job when you have a job, you are around people, and are out and about, that's when you make connections. Go to networking meetings, Chamber of Commerce etc. You can usually visit 2 times for free, and there are many of them. "Life is tough, it's tougher if you are stupid." - John Wayne Settle down Francis! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73387421 United States12/07/2016 08:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been in accounting jobs for about eight years but I absolutely hate the work and the life style of accounting. When I was laid off last spring I took this as an opportunity to change directions. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 68846631 I had unemployment and so I switched gears and decided to switch to a different profession. This profession required that I find a mentor, do courses and then in a few years I would be designated after passing some exams. I lined up my mentor and did my courses, but the time when my mentor said he could take me on came and went and since then the target has been moved back further and further to the point that I do not trust him anymore. My unemployment has now run out and I'm out there desperately looking for work... My wife has been really down on me lately, it really kicked up a notch when my mentor let me down and the money ran out. I don't blame her at all really and if she leaves me I don't even know if I'll be angry, I'm that down on myself and ashamed of the situation I've allowed myself to fall into. I feel beaten, a total loser... So I have two options, give up and end it or pull myself out of the mess I'm in. I'm choosing the latter because I have a little girl to raise the right way and take care of... I'm lost, I don't know where to go or what to do. This is the lowest point in my life by far and away... I've never felt so low or helpless or hopeless. I hope your Christmas is a lot merrier than mine... Don't be so hard on yourself ... life is tough. Have faith that things will work out. Stay optimistic and open. Things have a way of changing rapidly for the better once you've made up your mind about it. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72667592 United States12/07/2016 09:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What exactly is it you're being mentored in? Are you ashamed of what it is since you haven't mentioned that? Quoting: G. House More information could mean more help. Professional real estate appraiser. It's a small group. I wouldn't have even started courses had I not had a mentor lined up because I know how tough it is to get in the club as it were. Doesn't sound like too much of a change from accounting. I'm a computer programmer and I would have much preferred to do something in the medical profession (EMT perhaps). I like helping people. But that ship has sailed as I have a wife and children to support. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73550154 United States12/07/2016 09:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What exactly is it you're being mentored in? Are you ashamed of what it is since you haven't mentioned that? Quoting: G. House More information could mean more help. Professional real estate appraiser. It's a small group. I wouldn't have even started courses had I not had a mentor lined up because I know how tough it is to get in the club as it were. Doesn't sound like too much of a change from accounting. I'm a computer programmer and I would have much preferred to do something in the medical profession (EMT perhaps). I like helping people. But that ship has sailed as I have a wife and children to support. Go on Craigslist and get a job as a pet sitter ($30 a night=$210 a week $840 month on just one pet!) and dog walker $20 a walk. Use that money to buy flowers (Trader Joes $5 and under all day pretty ones) clean the house make dinner and surprise your wife. Happy wife-happy life! Since she is working so hard ur job is to support her (vacuum, wash dishes, do laundry, clean shower, toilet etc) Then if u want to be your own boss keep adding pet sitting and bookkeeping gigs until you have full time employment. Cut out the temp service as the middle man. You will keep the income you generate and not have to share w temp services siphoning off your hourly wage or get laid off or fired. Your schedule will be your own too (u can coach your daughters teams, go to her games, get to know her etc) Like they said it is tax season u may need to fall back on that til April but jobs are everywhere this time of year. When the going gets tough...the tough get going! Then save up some money stick w the self employment and go back to plan A but find a better mentor first (if u aren't into being self employed). |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 46893394 United States12/07/2016 09:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71861331 United States12/07/2016 10:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 1. Your wife has a job. 2. You have a background in accounting. 3. Your problem is you don't LIKE being an accountant. Listen, little sister, there are people who have real problems who would trade their left nut to have a secure job in accounting. I get that it's not fun. I get that it has long hours when financials are due. There are about 50,000,000 Indians drooling at the idea of getting their black asses into this country and taking that job. You whiny bitch. You're the reason this country is going to hell in a hand basket. You work that little job. You go in every morning filled with hate, and you look that boss right in the eye and you say 'good morning'. And you be damn grateful that your wife isn't out behind dumpsters chugging cock to get food on the tabe. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 39038478 United States12/07/2016 10:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My daughter works as a professional babysitter working for a caregiver service. It's easy work and you could do the same. If you don't want to do that, then find out what you like to do and go for it. I've worked many jobs and some were very good. Companies are willing to help you out too if you show them that you are willing to work. Temp and contract services are out there. They will keep you employed because they are making money off you. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 23895413 United States12/07/2016 10:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 1. Your wife has a job. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71861331 2. You have a background in accounting. 3. Your problem is you don't LIKE being an accountant. Listen, little sister, there are people who have real problems who would trade their left nut to have a secure job in accounting. I get that it's not fun. I get that it has long hours when financials are due. There are about 50,000,000 Indians drooling at the idea of getting their black asses into this country and taking that job. You whiny bitch. You're the reason this country is going to hell in a hand basket. You work that little job. You go in every morning filled with hate, and you look that boss right in the eye and you say 'good morning'. And you be damn grateful that your wife isn't out behind dumpsters chugging cock to get food on the tabe. And I thought i was the only one seeing the loser mentality here... Nut it up OP, you're a quitter. You sound like you should be flipping burgers. Your "mentor" doesn't owe you shit.  |
