Just dumped my alcoholic girlfriend

Hard liquor is the devil. It caused havoc in my own relationshit, now my BF drinks light beer and wine occasionally and it's improved his personality and our relationship dramatically.

When you say "she" do you really mean "He"

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Thank you for sharing your experience. We've worked for nearly 5 years on this issue and have tried everything in the book. It's never been more than 2 weeks until she's back at it again. She won't even admit there is a problem at all. Even after several alcohol related arrests in the course of 2 years.

I always try to be a good person, but there's only so much one can do to help another who won't admit there is a problem to solve.

No, I'm a "he" and my girlfriend is a "she". This isn't roleplaying, I just didn't have anywhere else to talk about this...

I'm sorry, it's probably better to just move on if you've tried for that long. It won't get better over time, it will become more of a problem.

If you've been together that long, maybe arrange an intervention for her and give her the option of rehab or you leaving and if she say's no you should leave her be.

Not an easy thing to do.

So what is the gender of the drunk?

Female

Thank you for your advice. I think it's worth trying ... have to think about who to invite though. Her parents, aunts, uncles and siblings are all either drunks or druggies.

Thanks again, it really means something to me to just talk with someone about it for a minute.

misogynistic pig.


IM TRIGGERED!

Sounds like you're drinking right now.

You have to be trolling

no woman is going to respect your opinion if you're a hypocrite with no standard.

...put that bottle down now

Best way to help an alcoholic if they refuse to stop, is to leave them.

A bit late, but good job!

Take time to heal and move on.

Sigh...that's often the case. I arranged an intervention for a loved one once for someone in need and it was all set until one of the alcoholic relatives called and told the person beforehand. It was a disaster and the intervention never happened. I was the bad guy/gal for trying to help.

I guess the moral of the story is be careful who you invite.

A lot of drunks are hard work and emotional wrecks.

But being mostly emotional creatures, female drunks are WAY worse, and way less stable.

Honestly arranging an intervention with the option of rehab gives you the chance to leave without feeling guilty.

It basically ensures that you are giving that person the option to heal and get sober and doing everything you can to offer them that, while relieving you of that burden so you can walk away without regrets and remorse.

Quit wasting your time. Move. It you cant relocate then move across town. Drunks love to get a ride to their ex's house even when theirs is closer. Own the mentality "not my f'n problem" and block this out of your thoughts. No remorse and no guilt. Remember, you are really doing them a favor because to continue to be around and let them ruin what little you feel for them is actually unfair to them.

So she smashed your laptop huh? How are you posting?

I build software for a living, have many computers.

Good point. I have been wanting to move back to South America for a while...

I knew you were a lying little panchito

You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. And, as you've most likely already discovered, you can't reason with an alcoholic either. Best to leave her be.

She might want help at some point, but I wouldn't count on it. She hasn't hit bottom yet.

Stop trying to change her.

I have nothing to do with drunks. Hell, they can't even remember the conversation so why bother talking/associating with one at all ?

The glp relationship advice section! Biggest conspiracy of the week.


Nope just some attention seeking mard arse.

Why the fuck would you create a thread on a conspiracy forum for this??

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This was not my GF and it was not alcohol but she had quite a breakdown as you can see here

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I had to lay down the law with my wife. Booze or the relationship, you can't have both. It worked.

Is her name Holly? (just curious). Use your new-found freedom for self-introspection and self-improvement OP, and best wishes.

TIME TO FINDS ANOTHER DRUNKKKIE OP SO U CAN LEAVE HER TOOOO...